Lychees From Leechie

The Secrets to a Millionaire's Success

2012-02-01T01:38:00.003+08:00

Jan zoomed past really fast...learnt more abt humans...well, i didnt judge n went in with an open mind...learnt a valuable lesson...on what kind of ppl one shld nvr go into a biz partnership with...anyway, i dont have a habit of working with losers...n i wont make it a habit! it's pretty obvious y som ppl hav an employee mindset n r contented with v.little things in life...to each his/her own...none of my biz anyway =)

"Never expect kindness from ppl from a diff world"
Well, this is sooooooooooo damn obvious from those ppl who think tt they r soooooooooo much more atas than u n who think u r too lowly n unworthy even to talk to!!! what comes around goes around!!! if u step on me when i'm down...do rem who will b there if u fall down!!! -.-"

Nvr expect honesty from cheapo ppl!!!

Saw this interesting article which i wanna share with u (http://sg.finance.yahoo.com/news/how-to-be-a-millionaire.html)

"The secrets to a millionaire's success
If you want to be a millionaire you have to think differently.

By Stephen D Simpson | Investopedia.com – Sat, Jan 28, 2012

There's no real practical reason to ask "who wants to be a millionaire?" because the only people who won't put their hand up are religious types who've taken vows of poverty and those who are already multi-millionaires. Unfortunately, there's a big gulf between those who want it and those who do the things to make it happen.

Based on recent statistics on UK household income, millionaire-dom is not something that's going to happen for most people, even with the dubious benefits of inflation. An adult earning the median level of income (£26,200 a year in 2011) and saving an impressive 20% of that would need almost 200 years to save £1 million (excluding taxes and investment gains). It's pretty clear, then, that a would-be millionaire has to think outside the boundaries of "median" experience.

Start a business

There are certainly people who can become millionaires by working for other people, but this is not an especially good route to choose. The trouble with trying to become a millionaire by working for other people is that there are always other people siphoning off the value of whatever you produce. Say you're a hotshot salesman – although you're going to get your cut, a lot of the value you create is going to get split among a broader pool of workers, managers and the owner(s) of the business.

Start your own business, though, and you get to decide how to divide that pie. Better still, your ownership stake can become more and more valuable over time as that business becomes larger and larger. While a good employee may get raises and promotions as his or her employer grows, they'll never see the same benefits (including the appreciation in the value of the ownership interest) as the owners.

Use other people's money

One of the remarkably consistent features of stories about people who go from relatively no wealth to major wealth is the role of other people's money in making it happen. Sometimes it's start-up capital from a generous relative, or maybe it's a small business loan or venture capital.

Borrowed money can be a major force multiplier. Behind virtually every property empire is borrowed money and the use of leverage in investing (whether through buying stocks on margin, buying options or buying futures) can rapidly magnify a skilful investor's success. Of course, this cuts both ways – just as borrowed money can create a large business (or portfolio) quickly, just one mistake in an over-leveraged enterprise can bring the whole thing crashing down.

It comes down, then, to risk tolerance. Those who really want to build large wealth (and do so quickly) through business or investment will have to do so in part with other people's money.

Cultivate a valued skill

Wages respond to supply and demand just like everything else, so it is very important to cultivate a skill that is not only in demand, but scarce enough to be valuable. Architecture and law, for instance, are both specialised skills, but not necessarily rare enough to make their practitioners wealthy unless they are at the high end of their profession.

Sports is an obvious example, but most people know in their teens whether they have the rare physical gifts (and perhaps the even rarer mental discipline and dedication) to open the doors to a professional sports career, and it's not really a door that can be opened in college or later. Medicine and engineering, though, are both open to college-aged people who have the requisite abilities and the willingness to put in the effort. The services of these professionals are not only almost always in demand, but the supply is small enough that professionals here can fairly expect to become millionaires on the basis of their labours.

This is also true for unconventional skills as well. Pursuing a career as a writer, actor or professional gambler is a virtual guarantee of poverty for most people. For those who actually have the skills necessary to succeed, though, it can be their best chance of building real wealth.

Out-think or out-hustle

Lazy and self-made millionaire just don't go together. Going back to that supply-demand equation, anything that's relatively easy, convenient and accessible is going to have ample supply and relatively low payouts. Since most people don't actually want to work that hard, though, there are real wealth-creation opportunities out there for those willing to think and/or work just a little harder than average.

One option for building exceptional wealth is to out-think the majority of people out there. While pursuits like writing, investing and inventing all involve a tremendous amount of effort and dedication, there is at least some aspect of out-thinking to them all. Steve Jobs of Apple, Richard Branson of Virgin and Lord Alan Sugar all clearly worked hard to achieve success, but a lot of that success was predicated on seeing things that others didn't see and figuring out how to do them even better.

Out-hustling is an undervalued aspect of wealth creation. Success in business is often about the hustle – the willingness to make one more call or work an extra hour later. The field of "hustle" is wide, rich and fertile. You can make good money visiting auctions and reselling undervalued items, just as you can make good money from a variety of multi-level marketing programs. The question is whether you want to spend the hours it takes to drive the process forward.

Rental property is a good example. It is actually not all that difficult to find rental properties, buy them and rent them out. Do this well and it's fairly easy to earn an annual return of 8-15%. The problem is that there are a myriad of small annoyances that go with it – hassles in haggling over the purchase price, hassles in getting mortgages, hassles in getting tenants, hassles in dealing with tenants and so on. Some people just don't want to be bothered with this, but those who don't mind the annoyances can reap the rewards.

The bottom line

Having £1 million or more in net worth is still uncommon enough to be special and significant, and it doesn't often come as a by-product of luck or chance. Hard work is a virtual requisite, but so too is a willingness to take on some risk (such as starting a business or using leverage) or cultivate a rare gift (like writing or inventing). Although simple living and sound investing will help anyone build more wealth, a special level of success requires a special person who is willing to do more and risk more than most people."

Bill Gates on Jobs...

2012-01-28T03:18:00.009+08:00

Wanna share this article shared by a fb fren...i particularly like this quote from Bill Gates: “If you have a dream, and it comes true, it’s a very cool thing.” so for those of u who look down on me n perceive me as nothing but a dumb, shallow, materialistic, hideous, fat, evil, crazy leech who can nvr be kind...u can continue with ur negative perceptions of me n look down on me...that's ur freedom...but i will become someone that u or anyone wont look down on!!! -.-"

Was reading the sunday times when i saw a comment which goes somthg like "u cant become rich by being an engineer" from a person being interviewed...he has an engineering degree n went into insurance...i started to think abt the BIG engineering alumni signboard tt i saw in nus last yr...my leechie idol, mr. Liew, has an engineering degree...so did a certain ms. H Ching...n my leechie idol, ms. Olivia Lum, has a chemistry degree n she has nvr been to biz sch...well, i dont know that many insurance folks who r much richer than them! i'm not sure if the media is trying to glamourize certain industries? o.O" in my humble opinion, an education is juz trying to educate us how to learn...it's juz a starting point...which may also explain y diff ppl taking the same course can end up so differently in life? n again, we get some self-perceived atas ppl who look down on mere mortals like a lowly leech! -.-"

Btw, those ppl who keep copying me r really pathetic...do u not have the slightest trace of creativity? =.=" perhaps i shld feel flattered n b more understanding tt not everyone has style? ;p

"Sometimes things happen in our lives that tear us apart inside, but if we don't learn to look past them and see the sun shining above the clouds, we will forever be standing in the rain"

"Never expect kindness from ppl from a diff world"
Well, this is sooooooooooo damn obvious from those ppl who think tt they r soooooooooo much more atas than u n who think u r too lowly n unworthy even to talk to!!! what comes around goes around!!! if u step on me when i'm down...do rem who will b there if u fall down!!! -.-"

Nvr expect honesty from cheapo ppl!!!

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Bill Gates:

"One of the few people to understand his compulsions was Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, who died of cancer in October. The two men’s long and stormy relationship has been chronicled in Jobs’s latest biography, but, until now, Gates has said little about their divisions - and their bonds.

“Steve was an incredible genius who contributed immensely to the field I was in. We had periods, like the early Macintosh, when we had more people working on it than they did. And then we were competitors. The personal computers I worked on had a vastly higher [market] share than Apple until really the last five or six years, where Steve’s very good work on the Mac and on iPhones and iPads did extremely well. It’s quite an achievement, and we enjoyed each [other’s work].”

This tribute, part praise, part reminder of Gates’s dominance, is more tactful than the comments Jobs made in his lifetime. “He spent a lot of his time competing with me. There are lots of times when Steve said [critical] things about me. If you took the more harsh examples, you could get quite a litany.” In Jobs’s view, his rival was “unimaginative”, “a bit narrow” and derivative. As he once told an interviewer, “He [Gates] would be a broader guy if he had dropped acid once or gone off to an ashram.”

The atmosphere changed in 2007 when Gates left Microsoft to set up the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation with his wife. “Steve and I did an event together, and he couldn’t have been nicer…I got a fair bit of time with him in his last year. Some months before Jobs died, Gates paid him a long visit. “We spent literally hours reminiscing and talking about the future.” Later, with his old adversary’s death imminent, he wrote to him. “I told Steve about how he should feel great about what he had done and the company he had built. I wrote about his kids, whom I had got to know.”

That last gesture was not, he says, conciliatory. “There was no peace to make. We were not at war. We made great products, and competition was always a positive thing. There was no [cause for] forgiveness.” After Jobs’s death, Gates received a phone call from his wife, Laurene. “She said; 'Look, this biography really doesn’t paint a picture of the mutual respect you had.’ And she said he’d appreciated my letter and kept it by his bed.”

Bill Gates rarely talks in such human terms. As a mathematician, he prefers numbers to emotion, focusing on the billion people in desperate poverty and the money needed to help them survive and work towards prosperity. As someone on the front line of mortality, he has balanced his aims against his own lifespan and wealth. Asked about his goal by a pupil at the school he is visiting, he says: “I’m 56. Hopefully I’ll live another 25 to 30 years to see [unnecessary] deaths drop to zero.”

“It’s not about legacy,” he tells me. “I’d like to see it get done. That is my job.” He has no expectation that his three children, who will inherit only a tiny fraction of his money, will follow him. “Our foundation won’t last long beyond Melinda’s and my lifetime. The resources will last about 20 years after whichever is the last of us to go. There is no family business, and my kids will make their own careers.”

While he speculates that they will be “great doctors or great lawyers”, he admires not only entrepreneurs but the market system. “Capitalism has worked phenomenally. Look at North Korea versus South Korea, or China before and after 1979. Capitalism has shortfalls. It doesn’t necessarily take care of the poor, and it underfunds innovation, so we have to offset that. We don’t have to [ask] whether capitalism is wrong.”

Though not especially religious, and far from pious (“People on the front line are the saints”), Bill Gates is driven on by faith. “I believed in the personal computer and I devoted my life to it,” he says. “If you have a dream, and it comes true, it’s a very cool thing.” Now he extends the passion he once expended on enterprise to ending disease and starvation. The man who changed the way the rich world lives is equally determined to change the way in which the poor world dies."

Birthday Photoshoot Nov 2011 Part 1

2012-01-16T02:38:00.035+08:00

These pics were taken in nov last year...no idea why the makeup artist used such a dark foundation color on me...it was at least a couple of shades darker than my original skin color...but too bad tt i dont know how to use photoshop to adjust my skin color o.O" check out the 2nd pic...i always thought tt my left profile looked ugly...but this pic of my left profile looks pretty decent ya =) anyway, my hair color is red now...v.apt for cny ;p btw, a gentle reminder tt u might wanna take a look at the mirror first before opening ur mouth to bitch abt my looks!

Recap what Joey said: Joey said everyone judges based on looks!!! sad but true fact of life...ppl always judge u based on ur looks...looks sell n can open certain doors which could possibly remain closed to some others! Jiahui from the 11pm Channel 8 show committed suicide after losing her looks from the bomb blast! Joey said ppl fall in love or r likeable for 2 reasons: looks & intelligence! i'm too naive to believe tt there r ppl who dont judge others!!! Joey also mentioned tt ppl wont want to associate with u if u have nothing to offer or cant add value to others' life! he personally knows almost half of the most wealthy ppl in Malaysia...n has built up his biz n got to where he is today in juz 15yrs! this is life: well, we r living in a damn practical society n ppl r attracted to rich&successful ppl n will ignore u if u r juz an insignificant leech! they think tt u r not qualified to b their fren n unworthy to even talk to them!!! ppl juz wanna make use of others...why would they b interested in u if u r of no use to them???!!! "Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth." but i'm v.allergic to ppl who try to get close to me, thinking tt they can make use of me or my connections in some way -.-" som hypocreeps pretend to ask me out for coffee...when all they want is to make use of me n my connections...or to ask me to sell my bags cheaply to them...sorry, u may think tt u r smart...but leechie aint tt dumbo...i have better things to do with my time! =.="

Joey is damn right...there is no free lunch in this world...most ppl r damn practical n r only interested in u only if they can get somthg outta u...otherwise why would ppl b interested in insignificant leech like u? -.-" the entire community can laugh at me...i'm deemed to be unqualified to attend some atas gathering by an attention-seeking vegetable! how pathetic can this get...what comes around goes around...nvm...i'm impressed with the expertise of some ppl at carrying balls o.O" what do call such ppl? professional ball-carriers...n they r not footballers ;p well, som ppl might say tt ppl like me who r not happy n have nvr been happy n dont know how to be happy tend to only see the negative side of humans...but this is the sad but true side of humans! i dont pretend like some rich ppl who havent experience poverty n dont even know how it feels to go hungry but pretend to talk as if they could emphasize the poor n needy! =.="

Robert Kiyosaki said: "Those who are successful in life are the people who notice what's wrong or missing in the world and finding opportunity in it."

I havent had any detailed astrology or bazi reading done...cos life's unknowns pose a mystery to me n i dont want som fortune-teller to predict my future or allow my decisions to b affected by some soothsayers' opinions or crystal ball! =.=" i believe tt destiny lies in my own hands n what i believe in strongly is:
"if others dont give me the opportunities, i shall create my own opportunities!!!"

"Don't do something permanently stupid just because you're temporarily upset"

“The only real valuable thing is intuition. The intuitive mind is a sacred gift & the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant & has forgotten the gift." ~ Albert Einstein

I asked Siri if it's male or female...n the male voice responded "I was not assigned a gender!" lol ;p btw, does ur Siri have a male or female voice? ;p

Leechie did a blur thing today...i thought i fitted in my contact lens n went abt doing my usual stuff...but wondered y my contacts r not v.clear today eh...many stuff still looked v.blur...it was only later tt i found out tt the contacts in my right eye popped out right after i fitted in n blur me didnt realize it until much later =.="

I believe there can be platonic friendship between the 2 genders...even if love is outta the question, there can still be friendship ya...but silly me juz dont understand y some avg guys cant concentrate on only 1 gal n need to date sooooooo many gals n have sooooooo many options...to me, it's juz another form of greed o.O" guess most gals dont want to be Plan B...as in, perhaps gals will shy away once they find out tt they r juz one of the many, many available options! dont understand y some guys need to focus so much time n energy on trying to find love...but ended up feeling emotionally drained from unrequitted love...sometimes alot of things r not what it appears to be or how u would imagine it to be...love is not the only thing in this world ya...one can survive without love...but one cant survive without $$$ in this damn practical society! perhaps different ppl hav v.different priorities in life...anyway, to each his/her own...do whatever u please as long as it makes u happy...nothing to do with me anyway...what do i know? i'm supposed to be a shallow n materialistic airhead who thinks tt love is juz a luxury...i dont go out of my way to find love...if it happens, it's juz a bonus...if it doesn't, so be it! i'm not so desperate...there r tons of guys who approach me online everyday...but i dont have time for them...i would rather focus on making more $$$ than to waste my time n energy on unappreciative ppl! =.=" btw, juz bcos i'm single doesnt mean i need to fancy u! -.-" n lastly, i really cant understand wimps! i'm juz surprised with the kind of priorities tt some guys have...can say tt he'll do somthg the v.next day but goes missing without a response cos too busy seeking love! -.-" i'm not so stoopid...wonder how the word responsibility is found in som ppl's dictionary? o.O" lemme confess, doubt i can empathize with stoopid ppl...it's a privilege to talk to n work with smart ppl...

Birthday Photoshoot Nov 2011 Part 2

2012-01-16T02:28:00.026+08:00

2012 has started off in a busy manner for leechie...again, i stayed in on new year's eve to write my pages n pages of new year resolutions! it was alrdy close to 6am by the time i finished writing abt 17 pages of new year resolutions! let's work towards making my resolutions n goals become reality!!! i'm busy rushing here n there...n on top of all the rushing around, i'm busy with spring cleaning these days...i've been battling urticaria so i really dont fancy all the dust n dirt from the spring cleaning...anyway, homemaker is the most under-rated profession in this world! dunno y i've been having dizzy spells recently...feeling tired n i can drop dead onto my bed before watching the 11pm show...haiz =.=" n i've started on new work projects (many exciting n exotic stuff coming up...), new biz ideas (i'm really excited abt what we r working on currently! cooler than cool manz! B-) stay tuned for somthg fun tt will jazz up ur life!), new stuff to learn (currently i'm finding time to learn VSA...dont bother asking me what VSA is...those in the know will know ;p gotta thx mr. LHY for his selfless sharing n DS for pushing me to study n ask qns...n adrian's news updates n "no crash, no crash" chants...uncle AKS indicators...analysis from mr.Hub, Kit, Andrew, Kevin, See, uncle Kuah n many many more...appreciate all ur kind sharing...who says u cant find true frenz online?), new diet plans (i muz eat more healthy food...too much crappy n sucky food at my workplace! -.-"), new exercise plans (i shld exercise more...but i dont fancy running in my polluted neighbourhood although i see ppl doing tt even at peak hour! juz look at the congested roads manz =.=") btw, i havent been to any club/party since Xmas last year and i havent had a drop of alcohol since! n i muz cut down on unnecessary expenses...all the online vouchers shopping r v.addictive manz...some vouchers expired without me being aware -.-" i thot i didnt spend much last year but everything still adds up! fren's mum knows tt i have many, many bags n she was asking me the other day how i actually store all my bags...i told her tt i'm running outta space n i juz stack them one on top of another in a pile...during my spring cleaning, i found quite a few brand new Kate Spade bags which i bought but have clearly forgotten abt...my leechie mum says tt i wouldnt b able to finish using my bags even if were to carry a different bag everyday for 1 year! n all my clothes can last for years if i were to wear a different one everyday without repeating...n she has banned me from buying more clothes =.=" n the list goes on n on...btw, my antique phone is dead...n i finally got my hands on iphone4s after making numerous calls to Stinktel! =.="

Lemme confess something...i've tried time n again but failed miserably...a recent session juz confirmed this: i cant understand muchie chinese n i cant learn anything tt is conducted in chinese! my brain juz cant process information in chinese! tons of question marks will appear in my head after hearing sentences in chinese...n i always wonder how ppl can speak such perfect Mandarin...i always cant speak chinese without adding in phrases of english...n ppl like to poke fun of my spoken mandarin =.="

Guess what? sup came back for a day! saw him at the end of the long corridor n silly me actually thot i missed his reassuring presence so much tt i started to imagine things...until he waved to me! he could actually recognize me from donkey metres away...muz b my bright red hair i think? o.O somehow he knew what was happening without me saying much...but he was only back for 1 day to "play" with our half million bucks toy...leaving for US v.soon...n this could b the v.last time tt i will get to see him :'(

"Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth."

The best way to shut the mouths of those self-perceived "higher-mortals" who keep thinking tt i have inferiority complex n keep looking down on me is to b much more successful than what they would think of me!!! the same goes for those bitchy ppl who keep bitching abt me, esp when u dont look better than me! btw, ppl always think tt the reason y those ppl who r ugly, poor n stoopid but still have bfs is bcos they r kind n have a heart of gold! what crap...i personally know this bitchy gal who is super duper bitchy n who loves to bitch abt me n stalk me on fb to check out all the lastest gossip abt me n she is the most negative person in most circles n kindness would be the quality tt could b most remotely-associated with her n she's ugly, poor n lacking in intelligence! but she still has a bf who loves her! well, i attribute it to juz her luck...perhaps her karma from previous lives?! she doesnt deserve love anymore than i do!!! even demi moore has doubts if she's worthy to be loved! n i can think of a dozen other examples of v.bitchy gals who r happily attached! many ppl dont know tt i place my parents first before many things in life...think i would choose death if not for them...n yet i get frenz who try to console me by saying tt i'll get a bf soon since i'm fillial to my parents...i think the issue here is not whether i get a bf or not...i dont fancy any tom, dick or harry...my standards r not tt LOW -.-" n i'm not in a desperate need to get a bf juz for the sake of having someone! -.-" since i'm not blessed with love, i might as well focus my time n energy on the more practical things in life-> stuff tt i can actually hold in my hands n count! yes, u can quote me: "i would rather cry in a sports car than to have my face exposed to the smoke & dust on a motorcycle!"

U can continue to judge me as a shallow n superficial n materialistic leech who cannot possbly b kind! am i supposed to be impressed when u judge me like this? do continue to hang out with ur inner circle of "trying to act-atas" hypocreeps!!! nice try but try harder...acting atas is still damn far away from being cool...lol ;p i know i'm not perfect but i bloodly hate it when som ppl keep finding fault with me esp when they r damn far from perfect...som ppl r juz damn ANAL! -.-" som ppl juz make me feel tt i'm not good enough no matter what i do! :'( n pls spare me from speaking sooooooooo much chinese...my tongue will get tangled =.=" yes, i'm a non-conformist n an opinionated leech! this is me...too bad if u cant accept it ;p i dont need to live my life with ur approval!

Some ppl think tt only their time is impt n think tt ur time is totally unimportant n like to cancel on u at the v.last minute n fly u aeroplanes!!! what do u call this kind of ppl? -.-" pilots without flying license? ;p perhaps they shld experience the same too only then can they understand how others feel...pui -.-" integrity is soooooooo obviously not in their dictionary -.-" some frenz tried to console me by asking me to ignore her cos i have so many other frenz...i ask myself...how many real frenz do i have? i have nothing, except my parents' unconditional love!

I pop by The White Rabbit for a quickie dinner juz now...thot tt it's nice tt the staff still rem me...or perhaps i look weird enough for ppl to rem me? anyway, the guy at the table next to mine was bitching abt how the group of ladies sitting a few tables away muz b from some KPMG n how those ladies cant b mgrs cos 10+pm is deemed to b too early for them to leave office! not tt i like to eavesdrop but he wasnt being particularly soft ya =.=" well, some guy like to think tt he's v.atas juz simply cos he is holding onto a small LV cardholder n can afford a dinner at Dempsey...so tt gives him right to look down on non-mgrs n non-accountants n bitch abt ppl n look down on ppl ya? pathetic with a capital P...go get a life manz!!! -.-" n he stared me n looked at me as if i'm the biggest loser on this planet cos i was having dinner by myself!!! excuse moi, what's wrong with eating by myself? i dont need all the superficial stuff to boost my self-esteem...i'm comfortable with my own skin...unlike som pathetic n shallow ppl who like to look down on ppl simply cos others r from a different industry...anyway, what's the big deal abt being a mgr these days? i was telling my leechie mum the other day tt ppl like to put the title "Chairman" on their namecards these days ;p so how atas is the "mgr" title? lol ;p btw, i signed off as an admin mgr at the ripe old age of 21...but i feel nothing ya =.="

"It's better to be unique than the best. Being the best is great, you’re the number one. Being unique is greater, you’re the only one."
Thank goodness i'm the one n only leechie ;p

This really sounds like me =(
"spore mentality. go up one day dun dare to buy. go up second day wait one more day to confirm, buy on third day, price drop. then decide to wait cos think will go up. drop another day. watch. then drop then instead of cashing out, "leave for next generation" haha"

Kodak seems to be a v.good example when it comes to case studies...lol...i used to insist on buying kodak films when i was a kid...it's the brand...those were the good old days of film cameras...i havent attended any biz sch...was feeling abit lost when a speaker mentioned some technical terms...i shld really hit the books manz o.O

Interesting Quotes:

"Winning isn't everything, but wanting to win is." ~ Vince Lombardi

"If you listen to so called ANALyst 100%, you'll be a bankrupt who has to eat maggie mee for your meals everyday. You may also be seen collecting cardboards for your retirement!!!" ~ Digital

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be"

"You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream." ~ C.S. Lewis

"Last but not least,do not forget the loved ones around you and the less fortunate that may not even know what "celebration" means." ~ Derrick

"My father was from a very humble background. Through his hardwork, he was enrolled into a rich-kids' high school in the late sixties. Back then, he helped a garun-guni auntie for a bit of money. He told me that if he takes bus to school, he will starve for recess. Things were so.

When he applied for bursary from school, the discipline master was unsympathetic and very arrogant. He could tell that the discipline master was irritated because such application means extra-work for him. He didn't care for my father's feeling and announced to the class that he was the only one applying for such grants. OK, what to do, you are poor right?

By 16, my dad left school to support the family. He went on to work hard and did better than most, if not all of his peers 40 years later. He never give up. I salute him. I hope to inspire the less-fortunate around us with this true story. 人穷志不穷 " ~ sleeplessinsg

Must-Read for ALL Men: "If Men Had Periods: Women Would Know All About It"

2012-01-14T13:28:00.015+08:00

I came across this article (http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2012/01/09/if-men-had-periods-women-would-know-all-about-it/) which i think All men or anyone who considers himself male shld read !!! many guys might not b aware of the kind of torture tt we ladies go thru every month! -.-" we ladies juz need understanding n support as with any human...but perhaps i'm not a human...not a lady in ur eyes :'(

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"If Men Had Periods: Women Would Know All About It

By Yashar

Earlier this year, I was watching a repeat episode of The Oprah Winfrey Show. The guest on particular this episode was Dr. Oz, who was tasked with answering a series of health questions, many of which were related to women’s reproductive health.
After Dr. Oz answered a question about douching, Oprah turned to a gentleman who was sitting in the audience and (with some humor) apologized to him for being stuck listening to all the conversation about “women” stuff and being seen in on TV for participating in an episode that dealt with, among other topics, menstruation and menopause issues.

The gentleman turned out to be Major League Baseball player, Jim Thome, who plays for the Chicago Whitesox. He had brought his wife to the Oprah show as a gift (tickets to the Oprah Show were nearly impossible to come by).

Oprah’s interaction with Jim Thorne left me fuming. Why should we feel bad for him? Why would Oprah feel bad for him? I am an Oprah fan, but her apology was uncharacteristic for someone who spends her life advocating for and helping women.

I’m not suggesting we shouldn’t feel sorry for Jim Thome because he’s a wealthy, famous baseball player.

What I am saying is that we shouldn’t feel sorry for him because he’s a man and he doesn’t have to deal with the reality of any of the problems addressed on the Oprah show he sat in on. And instead of Oprah offering that Dr. Oz episode to Jim as an opportunity to learn more about a woman’s body, which gives him tools with which to be more supportive of his wife and women family members, he was offered an apology for having to sit in on a conversation about an issue that is so central to a woman’s life.

Why is our culture so intent on protecting men from hearing about or discussing a woman’s reproductive health?

I’ve written about this phenomena in some of my previous columns. When some of the women in my life start talking about their menstrual cycles or anything else reproductive related, they stop themselves and warm me to stop listening, “But you don’t want to hear about this…”

Meredith, 25, finds herself handling conversations about her period in a very similar way, “Anytime I talk about my period, I feel the need to begin with, ‘I’m sorry to bring this up…’ or ‘I’m sorry if this grosses you out, but…’ Why do I (and other women) feel the need to apologize for being women?”

So, why are women apologizing for their bodies or hiding their reproductive issues from their male partners or friends? I think this tendency for women to protect men from issues about their body, especially about the reproductive issues, is something that is learned. It’s not inherent. All it takes is your mother or another female relative telling you that no man wants to hear about a woman’s period or PMS issues, to begin a lifelong habit of not sharing anything related to that part of the body. Or, it’s your first boyfriend saying “TMI–gross,” when you dare say out loud that you’re dealing with a problem. It shuts you down for life.

Ultimately, it boils down to one thing: men only want to associate a woman’s vagina with sex. Anything else, despite the reality that a woman’s vagina is not created to simply function as a conduit for sex, is a disgusting inconvenience.

I get it–to a certain extent.

We have conditioned men and women to think about and to handle a woman’s reproductive health is as if it’s a curse. In fact, some women remember a time when it was commonly referred to as “the curse.” So, if men think about the vagina only in the context of sex, the introduction any other reality involving blood, bodily fluids, or anything “gross” coming from that area of the body is going to push them over the edge. It’s going to cloud their sense of pleasure.

But that’s not an excuse and it doesn’t forgive insensitive behavior.

A woman’s body, especially her reproductively system, is way more complicated than just the sex part. And the “gross parts” aren’t, frankly, gross–they are a natural cyclical reality. A woman’s body is a prominent part of her identity and when men refuse to understand the physical aspects of a woman’s period and any issues related to their reproductive health, they are essentially ignoring a (big) part of who she is.

So where does this leave women? Unsupported. Having a rough time with your period and all the associated symptoms? Too bad–that’s for women to deal with. Going through menopause and it’s come as an absolute shock to you? Get over it.

Laura, 57, saw this type of reaction in her now ex-husband. Anytime she wanted to talk about anything “feminine,” he would respond with this comment, “Just fix it.”

“Like I could take a screwdriver, wrench, or hammer and some nails to ‘fix it.’”

It’s not just the physical aspects of a woman’s reproductive system that are unattractive and disgusting to men. It’s anything remotely related to menstruation or menopause.

Don’t even dare to ask some men to buy tampons. Ally, 29, was holed up in her house with the flu last month and could barely get out of bed. When she asked her boyfriend to get tampons, he scoffed and responded, “Anything but that.”

She was forced to have a (female) friend run out and get them.

Note to men: if your sense of masculinity depends on avoiding ever having to buy a plastic tube filled with cotton, you’ve got way bigger problems than you realize.

Beyond feeling unsupported, the idea that a woman’s reproductive health is “gross” or a topic that should be avoided has a horrible impact on some women–it detaches them from their bodies and makes them ashamed.

Alena*, age 42, is married to a man who does not want to acknowledge that she has any sort of reproductive health cycles, “It does make him uncomfortable, but I’m over trying to make other people feel better at the expense of my own mental health. But it does have a negative effect on me, knowing that he thinks it’s disgusting, because it means that for a week out of the month, I am disgusting.”

I am not attempting to victimize women. This isn’t about encouraging men to sweep in and save the day because women are weak and can’t handle their reproductive health on their own. And for the record, I’m not talking about women who desire privacy when it comes to this matter. For those who do, it’s their business. But there are plenty of women who want the outward support from their male partners, but feel embarrassed to talk about their periods, their menopause experiences, or anything related to their reproductive health.

And frankly, I’m tired of being witness to it.

This column goes back to an issue I’ve addressed my previous writing, where I explore how our culture puts forth women as totally and completely complicated–that what women need from people in their life, in this case, the men, is so complicated that it’s nearly impossible to figure out how to help them and how to talk to them about it.

It’s ridiculous.

I am never one to explain what women want–no one can do that. But I can definitively say what humans want. And every human being wants and needs support. For women, when it comes to the reproductive health department (along with many other departments), because they are humans, are lacking what they need: support.

I have no doubt if men had to deal with menstruation, menopause or anything of the like, not only would the women in their lives be intimately involved, but our armed forces would also be tasked with finding solutions to make it easier.

So the solution is simple in my mind. If women need, want support, it’s time to stop protecting men from what EVERY woman has to deal with. And it’s also time for men to stop believing that a woman’s reproductive health is one part of a her life that can be ignored, bypassed, or forgotten. A segregated support system is no support system at all. It’s time to put “TMI” to bed. There’s no such thing as too much information when it comes to the women we purport to love.

And what if the men in your life keep pushing back?

Jennifer*, 37, finally had her fill with protecting men, “After years and years of men acting like I said something obscene when I dared to mention my period, I came up with a simple policy: I don’t date anyone who gets seriously grossed out talking about basic bodily functions, including my period. It’s frankly immature and a subtle form of misogyny–Oh god, your natural, female body is so gross!”

I couldn’t have said it better myself."

*Name and age changed.

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I believe there can be platonic friendship between the 2 genders...even if love is outta the question, there can still be friendship ya...but silly me juz dont understand y some avg guys cant concentrate on only 1 gal n need to date sooooooo many gals n have sooooooo many options...to me, it's juz another form of greed o.O" guess most gals dont want to be Plan B...as in, perhaps gals will shy away once they find out tt they r juz one of the many, many available options! dont understand y some guys need to focus so much time n energy on trying to find love...but ended up feeling emotionally drained from unrequitted love...sometimes alot of things r not what it appears to be or how u would imagine it to be...love is not the only thing in this world ya...one can survive without love...but one cant survive without $$$ in this damn practical society! anyway, to each his/her own...do whatever u please as long as it makes u happy...nothing to do with me anyway...what do i know? i'm supposed to be a shallow n materialistic airhead who thinks tt love is juz a luxury...i dont go out of my way to find love...if it happens, it's juz a bonus...if it doesn't, so be it! i'm not so desperate...there r tons of guys who approach me online everyday...but i dont have time for them...i would rather focus on making more $$$ than to waste my time n energy on unappreciative ppl! =.=" btw, juz bcos i'm single doesnt mean i need to fancy u! -.-" n lastly, i really cant understand wimps! i'm surprised at the kind of priorities some guys have...can say tt he'll do somthg the next day but goes missing without a response cos too busy seeking love! -.-" i'm not so stoopid...wonder how the word responsibility is found in som ppl's dictionary? o.O" lemme confess, doubt i can empathize with stoopid ppl...it's a privilege to talk to n work with smart ppl...

Check out the manner in which he delivers his speech...he's a class act o.O

Grandmaster Raymond Lo: Will The Markets Rise In Waves In The Water Dragon Year?

2012-01-13T06:38:00.017+08:00

This is the 3rd fengshui talk i've attended for the coming water dragon year...my leechie mum thinks i'm overly-enthusiastic abt fengshui =.=" anyway, the last time i attended his talk was a couple of years ago...wanted to attend his subsequent talks...but either the tix were sold out or blur me didnt know he was in town to conduct talks =.=" asked my leechie mum to help me buy this year's tix when i saw the advertising poster as i walked past some toto outlet...sorry to say this, singapore pools...i dont punt toto or 4d so u cant make $$$ outta me! ;p

Juz found out tt Grandmaster Lo actually predicted the mkt crash in 2008 n again the mkt dip in august last year! no wonder som ladies were telling me tt he's v.zhun o.O maybe i shld start to follow his predictions instead of those from some overly-commercialized fengshui master/mistress ya? ;p he predicted tt there would b more natural disasters such as earthquakes, floods, viruses this year...heard tt he's famous for his bazi course...i was thinking of signing up for his bazi course but too bad tt my bangkok trip coincides with his course dates...i pop over to ask him a quick question after his talk...one can sense the sincerity in his voice...n he didnt hard-sell any of his courses or books...v.different from those highly-commercialized fengshui master/mistress...btw, video-recording n photo-taking were banned during his presentation...

Update:

Recap what Joey said: Joey said everyone judges based on looks!!! sad but true fact of life...ppl always judge u based on ur looks...looks sell n can open certain doors which could possibly remain closed to some others! Joey said ppl fall in love or r likeable for 2 reasons: looks & intelligence! i'm too naive to believe tt there r ppl who dont judge others!!! Joey also mentioned tt ppl wont want to associate with u if u have nothing to offer or cant add value to others' life! he personally knows almost half of the most wealthy ppl in Malaysia...n has built up his biz n got to where he is today in juz 15yrs! this is life: well, we r living in a damn practical society n ppl r attracted to rich&successful ppl n will ignore u if u r juz an insignificant leech! they think tt u r not qualified to b their fren n unworthy to even talk to them!!! ppl juz wanna make use of others...why would they b interested in u if u r of no use to them???!!! "Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth." but i'm v.allergic to ppl who try to get close to me, thinking tt they can make use of me or my connections in some way -.-" som hypocreeps pretend to ask me out for coffee...when all they want is to make use of me n my connections...sorry, u may think tt u r smart...but leechie aint tt dumbo...i have better things to do with my time! =.="

Robert Kiyosaki said: "Those who are successful in life are the people who notice what's wrong or missing in the world and finding opportunity in it."

I havent had any detailed astrology or bazi reading done...cos life's unknowns pose a mystery to me n i dont want som fortune-teller to predict my future or allow my decisions to b affected by some soothsayers' opinions or crystal ball! =.=" i believe tt destiny lies in my own hands n what i believe in strongly is:
"if others dont give me the opportunities, i shall create my own opportunities!!!"

"Don't do something permanently stupid just because you're temporarily upset"

"Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth."

The best way to shut the mouths of those self-perceived "higher-mortals" who keep thinking tt i have inferiority complex n keep looking down on me is to b much more successful than what they would think of me!!! the same goes for those bitchy ppl who keep bitching abt me, esp when u dont look better than me! btw, ppl always think tt the reason y those ppl who r ugly, poor n stoopid but still have bfs is bcos they r kind n have a heart of gold! what crap...i personally know this bitchy gal who is super duper bitchy n who loves to bitch abt me n stalk me on fb to check out all the lastest gossip abt me n she is the most negative person in most circles n kindness would be the quality tt could b most remotely-associated with her n she's ugly, poor n lacking in intelligence! but she still has a bf who loves her! well, i attribute it to juz her luck...perhaps her karma from previous lives?! she doesnt deserve love anymore than i do!!! even demi moore has doubts if she's worthy to be loved! n i can think of a dozen other examples of v.bitchy gals who r happily attached! many ppl dont know tt i place my parents first before many things in life...think i would choose death if not for them...n yet i get frenz who try to console me by saying tt i'll get a bf soon since i'm fillial to my parents...i think the issue here is not whether i get a bf or not...i dont fancy any tom, dick or harry...my standards r not tt LOW -.-" n i'm not in a desperate need to get a bf juz for the sake of having someone! -.-" since i'm not blessed with love, i might as well focus my time n energy on the more practical things in life-> stuff tt i can actually hold in my hands n count! yes, u can quote me: "i would rather cry in a sports car than to have my face exposed to the smoke & dust on a motorcycle!"

U can continue to judge me as a shallow n superficial n materialistic leech who cannot possbly b kind! am i supposed to be impressed when u judge me like this? do continue to hang out with ur inner circle of "trying to act-atas" hypocreeps!!! nice try but try harder...acting atas is still damn far away from being cool...lol ;p i know i'm not perfect but i bloodly hate it when som ppl keep finding fault with me esp when they r damn far from perfect...som ppl r juz damn ANAL! -.-" som ppl juz make me feel tt i'm not good enough no matter what i do! :'( n pls spare me from speaking sooooooooo much chinese...my tongue will get tangled =.=" yes, i'm a non-conformist n an opinionated leech! this is me...too bad if u cant accept it ;p i dont need to live my life with ur approval!

"It's better to be unique than the best. Being the best is great, you’re the number one. Being unique is greater, you’re the only one."
Thank goodness i'm the one n only leechie ;p

This really sounds like me =(
"spore mentality. go up one day dun dare to buy. go up second day wait one more day to confirm, buy on third day, price drop. then decide to wait cos think will go up. drop another day. watch. then drop then instead of cashing out, "leave for next generation" haha"

Good Quote from Ronald:
"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be"

Joey Yap's Fengshui & Astrology 2012

2012-01-09T06:38:00.033+08:00

This was the 2nd time that i attended Joey's Annual Fengshui Outlook. Silly me printed out the old version of my bazi chart...good thing tt i collected my iphone4s the day before n was able to check out my updated bazi chart on the spot with my iphone4s =)

Joey compared this year's bazi n flying stars charts with those of last year...n the new thing tt he covered this year was the 9 life star...n he talked abt smart money vs dumb money (not the usual way as how most financial folks would define it ;p)...doesnt matter as long as it's still money ya...n i ♥ $$$...who doesnt? at the v.least, i'm honest enough to admit i ♥ $ unlike som hypocreeps who tell u tt $ aint impt n tt u can live on air alone...lol...well, these ppl can always donate their $ to me if they think tt $ aint impt ya...i need to slog to make my own $!

Joey said everyone judges based on looks!!! silly me was wondering why some shop owners like to ask me to juz stand in their shops...lol...sad but true fact of life...ppl always judge u based on ur looks...looks sell n can open certain doors which could possibly remain closed to some others! Joey said ppl fall in love or r likeable for 2 reasons: looks & intelligence! i'm too naive to believe tt there r ppl who dont judge others!!! Joey also mentioned tt ppl wont want to associate with u if u have nothing to offer or cant add value to others' life! he personally knows almost half of the most wealthy ppl in Malaysia...n has built up his biz n got to where he is today in juz 15yrs! this is life: well, we r living in a damn practical society n ppl r attracted to rich&successful ppl n will ignore u if u r juz an insignificant leech! they think tt u r not qualified to b their fren n unworthy to even talk to them!!! ppl juz wanna make use of others...why would they b interested in u if u r of no use to them???!!! "Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth."

Joey said tt there is an intelligence star for ppl of my sign in the 9 life star astrology n we would do well to learn more to boost our intelligence...n we would do better to learn somthg which would offer better financial returns if we were to learn anythg at all...then he cracked som joke abt ppl learning to fly kites...btw, i have a fren who sells atas kites which cost at least a couple of hundreds each n have patents filed...well, what i have learnt is tt there r atas stuff for everythg...so dont look down on those seemingly low-class stuff o.O"

Robert Kiyosaki said: "Those who are successful in life are the people who notice what's wrong or missing in the world and finding opportunity in it."

I havent had any detailed astrology or bazi reading done...cos life's unknowns pose a mystery to me n i dont want som fortune-teller to predict my future or allow my decisions to b affected by some soothsayers' opinions or crystal ball! =.=" i believe tt destiny lies in my own hands n what i believe in strongly is:
"if others dont give me the opportunities, i shall create my own opportunities!!!"

I agree with what joey said abt how competency is much more impt than compatibility when it comes to looking for biz partners...what's the point of getting someone who says he will do this n tt but yet does nothing but talk crap? actually u can learn alot more abt a person juz by working with tt person...juz like how som ppl juz cant trust me n have to keep calling to check on this n tt until i have to bring her down to see the thing for herself! how annoying can tt be! -.-" n how som ppl r always so weak n tired n cant get anythg done except laze around in the house! y would i need a Garfield? i can buy myself a pretty Hello Kitty =.="

I pop by to listen in during the lunchtime session when joey was marketing his "Riding The Dragon" seminar...not sure y but i kept thinking abt "Slaying The Dragon"...lol...pls dont misunderstand...i have absolutely nothing against ppl born in the year of the dragon...not sure y but sometimes the way joey speaks kinda reminded me of my uncle o.O my uncle has a great sense of humor too...joey mentioned abt the importance of "the secret art of common sense"...well, common sense aint too common these days ya...i rem tt my uni fren got so fustrated with me donkey years ago when what was supposed to be common sense to her seemed rather novel to me...lol ;p well, i'm an "airhead in the making" ya ;p btw, I bought a copy of Joey's new range of books on the 9 life stars...but had to rush off right after his seminar so couldnt stay for his autograph session...

Update:

"Don't do something permanently stupid just because you're temporarily upset"

"Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth."

The best way to shut the mouths of those self-perceived "higher-mortals" who keep thinking tt i have inferiority complex n keep looking down on me is to b much more successful than what they would think of me!!! the same goes for those bitchy ppl who keep bitching abt me, esp when u dont look better than me! btw, ppl always think tt the reason y those ppl who r ugly, poor n stoopid but still have bfs is bcos they r kind n have a heart of gold! what crap...i personally know this bitchy gal who is super duper bitchy n who loves to bitch abt me n stalk me on fb to check out all the lastest gossip abt me n she is the most negative person in most circles n kindness would be the quality tt could b most remotely-associated with her n she's ugly, poor n lacking in intelligence! but she still has a bf who loves her! well, i attribute it to juz her luck...perhaps her karma from previous lives?! she doesnt deserve love anymore than i do!!! even demi moore has doubts if she's worthy to be loved! n i can think of a dozen other examples of v.bitchy gals who r happily attached! many ppl dont know tt i place my parents first before many things in life...think i would choose death if not for them...n yet i get frenz who try to console me by saying tt i'll get a bf soon since i'm fillial to my parents...i think the issue here is not whether i get a bf or not...i dont fancy any tom, dick or harry...my standards r not tt LOW -.-" n i'm not in a desperate need to get a bf juz for the sake of having someone! -.-" since i'm not blessed with love, i might as well focus my time n energy on the more practical things in life-> stuff tt i can actually hold in my hands n count! yes, u can quote me: "i would rather cry in a sports car than to have my face exposed to the smoke & dust on a motorcycle!"

U can continue to judge me as a shallow n superficial n materialistic leech who cannot possbly b kind! am i supposed to be impressed when u judge me like this? do continue to hang out with ur inner circle of "trying to act-atas" hypocreeps!!! nice try but try harder...acting atas is still damn far away from being cool...lol ;p i know i'm not perfect but i bloodly hate it when som ppl keep finding fault with me esp when they r damn far from perfect...som ppl r juz damn ANAL! -.-" som ppl juz make me feel tt i'm not good enough no matter what i do! :'( n pls spare me from speaking sooooooooo much chinese...my tongue will get tangled =.=" yes, i'm a non-conformist n an opinionated leech! this is me...too bad if u cant accept it ;p i dont need to live my life with ur approval!

"It's better to be unique than the best. Being the best is great, you’re the number one. Being unique is greater, you’re the only one."
Thank goodness i'm the one n only leechie ;p

Avoiding Mental Sabotage

2012-01-06T06:28:00.012+08:00

Alot of thoughts went through my leechie head as i read some of the articles shared...i need to work on my psychology...i'm too emotional...fell in love with my out-of-favor stocks which have been jilted by Smart Money...think i over-ANALyze too many stuff...resulting in fear to take action...n i ended up being a stuckist...ya, u've heard of terms such as "stock operator"...well, i'm a "stock stuckist"! nothing to be proud of...but i'm juz being honest here :'( i shld juz treat trading as a biz n make rational decision n take positive action...

Words of wisdom from derrick:

"Newbies die in a trend, old bird die during sideways. There is always a way to kill you if you do not have enough knowledge."

"Whatever TA method that you used to predict the market movement, it should begin with a complicated process. Try to visualize what can happen and the interaction of the various indicators. What picture is it trying to tell you. From the behavior of each indicator, try to predict the markets next move. Stream line each indicator watch its reaction. then combine them together to have stream lined answer of a simple "YES" or "NO". There cannot be guessing after you have entered a position, why it moves against or in favor of you; you must have the mental picture in place to control your emotions. Otherwise, you cannot even take the stress of 1min of movement be it big or small."

"Plan your trade, trade your plan. Study the chart at various level and link up everything. One for direction and the other for execution. This will set your mind at ease and not guessing along as the price moves.If it moves against you, you need to know why, if it moves in your favor, note down all the conditions that resulted in the move. Only then you can improve.

One thing for sure, you really need passion in everything you do. If not you will fall asleep after watching the chart for 5mins."

To be honest...i actually doze off while looking at my charts n accidentally cleared all my indicators! -.-" n i muz start to read all the many, many books tt i bought n havent read!
"Investment books that hope to teach you how to avoid making mistakes in the markets:
Do you notice that people who do read the investment books, who do show up in the bookstands reading such books, are the ones who generally do not need such advise? I just read it for fun and to see and laugh at what are the mistakes made. Ironically, folks who do need such information and advise, generally they do not go to bookshops. So, who is going to buy such books?" ~ Richchee

" In trading we cannot live in fantasy hoping our long/short position going way high/low, however once we are in a position we live in the reality to manage the risk. If we have not get into the position, yes by all mean we can dream and fantasize....lol" ~ Neo Mui Kian

"If you listen to so called ANALyst 100%, you'll be a bankrupt who has to eat maggie mee for your meals everyday. You may also be seen collecting cardboards for your retirement!!!" ~ Digital

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"Secret Trading Tip #8 by Larry Levin
By Neo Mui Kian

Avoiding Mental Sabotage

... I have heard that 95% or more of all traders ultimately fail.

Have you ever wondered why?

Most traders will tell you it was the system or method they were using. They'll also tell you they had a few bad trades they couldn't recover from. Or their dog chewed through the telephone cord just as their computer crashed, and they couldn't get out of a losing trade.

Everyone has a different reason, but when you hear enough of them, a pattern begins to develop. I believe most traders fail because they sabotage themselves.

The markets work differently from other investing opportunities. There is probably more freedom in the trading business than any other industry in the world.

You can do what you want, whenever you want to do it. You can trade 1 contract or 100. Buy the market or sell it; it's up to you. The only thing that holds you back is running out of capital.

Most people are not accustomed to that much freedom.

If you can't control the market, the only thing you can control is yourself.

Trading is also very different than the things we do on a daily basis. In everyday life we exercise some control over our environment. If a room is too dark we turn the light on. If we want to go somewhere, we jump in the car and turn the key.

In trading you can't control what the market does.

No matter how much you want the market to go in a certain direction, there is nothing you can do to force that to happen. You can't turn a key or flip a switch. Hoping, pleading, screaming... nothing will make the market do what you want it to.

Embrace the uncertainty - plan for the best and worst cases

One of the most important things you can do to avoid the mental sabotage is to understand the lack of control you have over the market, and plan for every trade. Now I don’t mean a trading plan like buy a contract and then close the position when the market trades higher. I mean a real plan. That includes specific entry points based on certain market movements or conditions. It means exit strategies for when things go right and for things go really wrong. It means placing limits and stops and keeping your emotions in check. If you have a roadmap for your day, you are less likely to fall into that trap of mental sabotage.

Remember: if you can't control the market, the only thing you can control is yourself."

"Trading Psychology 101
by RealityTrader

This is one of those neverending debates among newer traders - role of psychology in trading. Some claim it's all there is to trading. Some argue it's nothing but red herring, and one just needs to follow his signals (system, indicators, whatever one fancies) and no psychobabble will ever be needed. Yet some say psychology is important and assign some weight to it - "80% of trading is psychology"... or 95%... Not sure how they measure it, I personally like 76.364%.

Two things must be said about this.
First, we all are different. Some simply cannot change their behavior and, no matter what system they are given, they just can't follow it. Their personality takes over pushing them into all kinds of trading No-No's. They can't enter when entry signal comes in; they don't apply stops when the trade fails; they take profits too soon or never.

Then there are others who don't seem to be influenced by their inner workings; they just see the light and follow it. Obviously, the role of psychology will be drastically different for those two types.

Second, and most significant for most of us: We go through different stages in our learning curve. As far as trading psychology is concerned, I can clearly see three stages common for the most traders.

First stage is total ignoring or underappreciation of this aspect of trading. By ignorance, by arrogance or for whatever else reason, a trader doesn't give it much thoughts while focusing on technical side of trading.

Second stage is acknowledgment. Running into troubles with their inner gear, reading books or listening to others, traders become aware of the ways their personality interferes with their trading. They have met the enemy.

Finally, third stage is dismissal of psychology again. Maybe dismissal is not the right word but that's how it feels for it's (psychology as a subject of thoughts) no longer needed. At this stage focusing on it becomes unneeded as a trader overcomes his inner barriers, changes himself, learns to behave in a right way - and this correct behavior becomes second nature. Just as learning to swim you stop thinking of how to move when swimming, in the same way you stop giving time and thoughts to psychology of your trading again - seemingly returning to a first stage, although it's obviously another level you reach. You simply mastered it and stopped thinking about it - just as learning to drive you stop thinking of switching gears, turning the wheel or pushing the pedals.

It's important to understand that this third stage exists and make it your target to achieve it. Too many traders simply get stuck at the second stage - they think of it all the time, they make it their point of focus to such degree and for so long that they just can't seem to get out of it. Their development stops, they become locked in this endless inner digging - means become the end. There is no need to rush through the second stage but to get stuck in it forever is no fun either.

In the following articles we will go over each of those three stages a bit deeper - and make one step beyond that, defining a fourth stage which I don't want to define before we are done with first three. If you are lucky to belong to that second type that needs no stinkin' psychology, skip these series but do check out that fourth stage for it's the highest craftsmanship of this side of trading.

To conclude the series, we are going to go over some particular and very common problems traders tend to have and show what causes them. We are going to keep it strictly practical - no academic stuff, only the things with which every trader will identify"

"Analysis Paralysis - Part 1
by Janice Dorn, M.D., Ph.D

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so
that the necessary may speak…
Hans Hofmann,
Introduction to the Bootstrap, 1993

E-mails from traders and investors of every ilk come to me daily. I am grateful, and urge you to keep them coming, as you inspire me, challenge me and force me to think. Everyone has a different way of being in the world and, as a logical corollary, in the markets. I get charts, graphs, opinions, links to articles, and more opinions. There has been so much speculation lately about what the Fed will or will not do and how it will affect precious metals and the dollar, that I must work hard to prevent my head from spinning, to keep it attached firmly to the neck area and to attempt to filter out the signal:noise ratio."
Did I mention that people send me charts? They range from the utterly and overly simplistic, to something that might be considered a Rorschach test gone bad. I respect those who can trade from intensely complicated (to me anyway) charts that contain 10 or more different technical indicators plus at least three colors. If that is what works for your particular brain structure, then that is what works.
Over many years of trading and experimenting with more systems and indicators that I care to recall, I have come to the conclusion that, in trading, less is more. For my own purposes I like to see price, volume, and a couple of moving averages and then draw trend lines. For me, the simpler, the better. It helps me block out noise, obviates conflict when indicators are not in synch or are giving different messages, and allows me to be definitive with what I do.
Trader Alex (name changed to protect the innocent) sent me a batch of charts the other day. The charts were in several different time frames, and were loaded with so many indicators that I was barely able to make out what Alex wished to trade. Worse still, I could not figure out HOW Alex was trading. In this situation, one does the logical thing. One asks Alex. The response I got was quite revealing and, perhaps you can find a trading lesson in it.
Alex told me that he lived his life by making flow diagrams. Everything he did or planned to do, he diagrammed beforehand in order to prepare himself for any eventuality. For example, if he was invited to a party, he would do the following: starting a week before, he would map out (on paper) everything he had to do to prepare for the party, including selection of clothing, washing his car, telling selected people where he would be during those hours, finding out who would be at the party and how they would be dressed, how they would be arriving, how they would be mentally (good or bad moods), what they would be bringing to the host and hostess and on and on. Sometimes, he would wake up in the middle of the night to expand the flow diagram as new thoughts and possibilities crossed his mind. A day or two before the party, Alex began to be infused with doubt. Had he thought of everything? What could happen that he had not anticipated? Would be go into a state of social paralysis if someone was at the party whom he had not expected or if someone said something to him for which he did not have an answer? If you think this sounds a bit whacko, you are correct.
In Part 2, we will see how Alex carried his desire to be prepared for every possible eventuality in his life into his trading activities. And how these complicated measurements hampered his ability to actually make the trades he so conscientiously analyzed."

"Analysis Paralysis - Part 2
by Janice Dorn, M.D., Ph.D

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication…
Leonardo DaVinci
... In Part 1, we saw how Alex created overly-ordered charts and diagrams with many different indicators and contra-indicators and extended his OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) from every aspect of his life into complex trading charts and diagrams.
Nonetheless, to Alex, this was his modus operandi. It began in his early childhood when he felt his life careening out of control after the divorce of his parents. He took almost complete responsibility for the divorce and vowed that he was going to do everything possible to ensure that he did not make the same mistake again. Alex's response to what he perceived to be HIS problem (the bitter divorce of his parents) was to develop OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder). The manifestation of this was the development of increasingly complex flow charts and diagrams which he believed would allow him to control every aspect of his life through prediction.
Now, take this one step further. Alex enters the financial markets and attempts to trade. Before he is able to place a trade, he makes the equivalent of a life pattern flow diagram. He adds technical indicators, one after the other and intersperses them with every possible news development or economic report that could possibly impact the trading on any particular day. Alex is ready, so he thinks. Alex is prepared, so he thinks. Armed with a total overload of information and unable to sort out what is real and what is not, Alex is set to trade.
Why is he writing to me? Because he is totally unable to execute. Alex suffers from trading paralysis. He has done all of the work, yet he feels that something is wrong. It is not the right time to make the trade, more news will come out which will affect the trade, he decides to wait for a better entry, he thinks he should do an option spread, just in case. Alex finds every conceivable excuse for not trading: It's the wrong time. There is too much risk. Maybe if he just waits a little bit. Something just doesn't look right.
Alex will not get through this situation easily, as it is a modus vivendi for him, which is transferring to every aspect of his life, including trading. What can you do ? Learn from this. To risk means taking chances in the face of uncertainty. We cannot control what the markets will or will not do. We cannot map everything out on a neat flow diagram, expect things to go our way and then panic when they do not.
The best traders are flexible, adaptable, embrace uncertainty and get out quickly when they are wrong. The best traders do not make excuses and do not blame others. The best traders do not get themselves into states of analysis paralysis. They keep it simple and remain fluid.
Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler…Albert Einstein"

"On Track Towards Your Better Self
by Adrienne Toghraie
In order to put your trading on the right track, the rest of your life must support that direction. Here is a success model for giving you a good foundation for becoming a profitable trader. All aboard.

Clean out the clutter
Start with the immediate environment of your trading area and work outwards from there. When you have too much clutter, your focus will be disrupted from clear thinking. So give it away, throw it away.

Decide to listen to positive minded people
It is easy to fall into the trap of all of the negative media on the state of things. While you are getting back on a positive track, stay away from those people who encourage negative thinking and therefore negative emotions.

Take a walk or sit quietly where you will not be disturbed
A clear mind is a mind without stress. When you start out on a new or improved path, you are more likely to get there when you have a clear mind.

Ask the creative part of you to come up with ideas and actions that will take you towards your goal.
We have many parts of ourselves that are both negative and positive. When you focus on the positive side of yourself, you will discover within you actions that you can take to lead you in the right direction.

Make a list of all of your resources
It is important to feel good about yourself and your accomplishments. Every book you have read, every positive action, every teacher has given you the best of who you are. List those resources as if someone were challenging your value in life.

Collaborate with alliances
Positive people who care about you are your strongest resource. Keep in contact, share ideas, ask questions and ask for assistance.

Create new alliances
Create a situation to give value to others who you seek out to know. While you might not benefit directly from those people, just being in a prosperity mind set will attract goodness towards you in ways you did not imagine.

Allow others to do good things for you
By allowing others to do good for you, you give them the opportunity to draw good towards themselves.

Create an optimistic environment
Direct conversation to positive thinking with significant people in your life as well as all those you come in contact with. Refuse to participate in negative conversation by redirecting conversation to positive, optimistic points of view.

Write an action plan of simple tasks that you can do the next day
Along with your master plan, you should also have a daily plan that is drafted the day before. This allows your mind to work on how to accomplish your actions in the most efficient and effective way. It also allows you to motivate yourself as if you are playing a game that you want to win.

Note the tasks that will inevitably present themselves
The momentum you get from completed tasks will lead you to other tasks. Each new task will bring new resources and that creates the new and improved you.

Keep your mindset on the goal
Every good book has a main theme, and all of the characters must have actions that go towards that theme. And so it is true for anyone who wants to have a continuously growing and successful life. Know what you want and direct all of your actions towards that goal.

Conclusion
To be the best trader you can be requires that you become the best person you can be. Look to improve all areas of your life and you will reap the rewards in your ability as a trader."

"‎100 Percent Returns In The Futures Market - How You Can Do It
by Kevin Davey

Don't let anyone ever tell you the futures game is easy. I've been speculating in futures for 18 years, and it took me most of that time before I had any degree of success. I attribute successful futures trading to following certain steps. My guess is that these steps will work for you, too.

Step 1: Have a Plan
I've never seen someone build a house without detailed drawings, and I bet you haven't either. To build a house, you need a plan. The same holds true for speculating in the futures market. Your opponent, the market, has a plan - to take all your money - so you need one, too.
There are 3 major pieces to a good plan. First, you must be specific with your investment goals. Second, you must determine what you are willing to invest to get it, by identifying the amount of time and money you will invest. Finally, know what you'll risk to reach your goals. Are you willing to spend a year learning, or lose thousands of dollars before you start winning? Better to find that out now, upfront, before you invest the time and effort.

Step 2: Find a Strategy
Finding a viable strategy is the most difficult part of developing a trading system. You might not think that's true, based on ads and infomercials you see, which show you how easy picking a strategy is. Alas, if it were only as easy as going to a free seminar in a hotel or visiting a website! In reality, finding a good strategy involves 3 main areas: skill assessment, research and detailed development.
The first part of determining how to reach your plan is to do an accurate, honest skill assessment. Done correctly, this will point you in the right direction. If you don't do this assessment, you'll be doomed to wander the "land of the losers."
The second component of your strategy is research. Before you settle in on a strategy, you need to see what is out there, what is working today, etc. Keep your mind open, and you'll soon find something that you like, and that has potential.
Finally, it's time to get your hands dirty by doing detailed development. Whether you create a system yourself, or sign up with a service or an advisor, the key is to perform "due diligence." Make sure you learn all you can, before you put real money on the line.

Step 3: Check and Double Check
Remember when you were in school and the teacher always said "check your work?" If you were like me, you thought checking it was something you didn't need. Well, if you avoid checking your work before trading a strategy, you can easily fall into trouble.
Depending on the route you choose, there are many ways to double check your work. It might be as simple as checking your strategy code for math errors, or asking an advisor to back up claims with brokerage statements, or simply asking for references. Remember, it is your money, so take the time to thoroughly check everything out.

Step 4: Execute Your Strategy
At this point, you are ready to pull the trigger, and trade your strategy with real money. The key here is to plan your trade, and trade your plan. Simply put, once you develop a method or select an advisor, stick with it, without deviation, for at least three to six months. Anything less, and random chance could make a good strategy look bad. Give a strategy time to show its long term potential.
Step 5: Monitor and Adjust as Necessary
Once you start trading, it is essential that you monitor your results. One way is by keeping a trading log. Recording the details of trades, along with your thoughts and feelings, can be very helpful when you review your system performance. This log is especially powerful when you violate your system, as you likely will at some point. Reviewing why you violated your system may help you refine your signals to more closely match your psychology. The key here is to keep close tabs on your trading - otherwise, it can quickly get out of control.

Conclusion
So there you have it - the five steps to trading that I have used in my own trading. Don't be surprised if it takes a year or more to move through the steps. My advice is to not rush through them. I obviously can't guarantee that you'll have favorable results, but I can tell you the steps work, and work well."

OverANAL-yze =.="

If only life can be this simple... :'(

This is sooooooooooo good!

I'm Better Off DEAD!!!

2011-12-28T04:38:00.020+08:00

I'm Better Off DEAD!!!

"Never tell your problems to anyone,
20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them."

Since u see me as nothing more than a materialistic airhead...take this quote from leechie:
"i would rather cry in a sports car than expose my face to the smoke n dust on a motorcycle!"

Collin's response:
"[I would rather LAUGH in a sports car than cry in a sports car]
We always have choice(s), but every choice has a PRICE to pay.
Some fren say I am "emotional", I struggle, embrace & I CHANGE (ABANDON negative emotions).
Some fren say I am "stubbon" , I struggle, embrace & I CHANGE (ADOPT positive persistence).
I am more "materialistic" & "realistic" now too.
I want to be rich so I can help guide the poor, build schools in rural countries & animal homes.
My "methods" change, but my VALUES remain.
Stay STRONG in a difficult world. Be not afraid to pursue what u TRULY want, not what the world think u should want.
If riding in a BMW makes u HAPPY, go ahead, but do NOT cry in a BMW, prove to me that you can SMILE in a BMW (because u have EARN it, through your hard work & sheer determination) and I gladly JOIN you & SUPPORT you towards this dream.
In 2010, I realised that people only care if THEY have BMW, nice bank account or condo, they don't CARE if U do. In short, people only care about themselves.
Thus if u let me choose "FACE" (pride, ego) or "HAPPINESS", I choose happiness anytime because face is fake. Yet I am willing to sacrifice happiness (short term pleasure) for greater happiness (peace of mind & aspiration)."

My response to Collin's posting:
"being poor doesnt make most ppl happy...i know i wont! being rich may not make me happy...but i would rather have a rich man's prob rather than a poor man's prob! a celebrity once said...probs which can b solved by money r not probs at all! of course the ideal situation would b to b rich n happy...but i would rather b at least rich...i'm a shallow n materialistic leech who would rather cry in a sportscar than expose my face to the smoke n dust on a motorcycle! call me pathetic...but i'm only being honest!"

As Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love, says: "People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life."

"There's nothing noble in being superior to your fellow men. True nobility is being superior to your former self" ~ Hemingway

"Do you jump out of bed every morning, excited to get to work?To be the best in what you do, you have to love what you do. Your work must be be your play. When you truly love what you do, you are automatically motivated. There is no need to discipline yourself to get things done and you never feel lazy doing it. That has been my little secret. I love what I do so much that I miss going to the office during the holidays dread long weekends. You you have not found what you love to do yet, keep looking! Don't settle for a life of mediocrity. Don't spend your precious days living someone else's dream. That's how you win the game of life!" ~ Adam Khoo

"It's better to be unique than the best. Being the best is great, you’re the number one. Being unique is greater, you’re the only one."
Thank goodness i'm the one n only leechie ;p

"Don't do something permanently stupid just because you're temporarily upset"

This is life!!!

What r we chasing after in this life? wealth? happiness? peace of mind? freedom of expression?

♥♥ When A Man Loves A Woman In Singapore ♥♥

2011-12-27T13:08:00.028+08:00

Tears rolled down my leechie face as i read the following...guess such guys could alrdy b almost extinct in today's context! :'( n the ironic thing was that this silly leech didnt realize tt this gentleman is actually one of my fb frenz until he replied to my posting!!! o.O" rem what i wrote abt how many guys tend to judge u based on ur looks...n wont hang around u for long if anything were to happen to u or if u were to lose ur looks? =.=" anyway, most guys these days r damn self-centred n r nice to u only if u do certain things for them...we r living in a damn practical society afterall...only our parents' love for us is unconditional...anything else tt a guy says or does for u could possibly come with a condition! =.="

Thx for those new year party invitations...but those who really know me would know tt i dont go out to party on every new year's eve...i'll stay in to write my long list of new year resolutions...i know i dont have a life...but tt's me...lol...have fun everyone...dont bother abt me...

What a fren said after reading abt this true story:
"It takes her alot of courage to share about her illness and it takes him alot of courage to take her as his wife given her medical condition. Giving and not really asking anything back in return. This is unconditional love. Their story blesses my heart!"

As Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love, says: "People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life."
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"When a man loves a woman

By Deborah Choo

After their first three dates, his girlfriend told him an astonishing piece of news that changed his life forever.

It was a "dark secret", 61-year old Raymond Anthony Fernando remembered of what his then-girlfriend Doris Lau Siew Lang told him almost three decades back.

I am schizophrenic, she had told him.

If that was not surprising enough, she also told him that she was a patient at the Institute of Mental Health, otherwise known as Woodbridge Hospital in the 60s.

Yet, the secret she guarded so carefully — one that scared away all her previous boyfriends upon hearing — finally stood the test of one man's faith and love for her.

Raymond, a Singaporean whose heritage is part Eurasian and part Sri Lankan, listened as Doris poured her heart out about her past and her condition.

Schizophrenia is a group of psychotic disorders characterised by disturbances in thought, perception, affectation, behaviour and communication lasting longer than six months.

At the onset, because there was little public awareness on schizophrenia, Doris' symptoms of headaches, insomnia, a loss of appetite and even being delusional sometimes worried her family.

They believed she was charmed, and brought her to a medium instead. The delay worsened her condition. It had escalated to a point when she harbored suicidal thoughts. Back then in the 60s, a relative who worked in IMH heard of her unexplainable illness and recommended Doris to be warded. Her condition finally stabilised.

Instead, after hearing what she said, the freelance television actor and motivational speaker asked her, "Will you marry me?"

"I was deeply moved by her sincerity and her caring nature. I had dated many girls, but Doris was very down to earth… Doris is a very timid person and I decided I wanted to give her a better life, so I asked for her hand in marriage," Raymond told this writer.

The couple tied the knot in 1974.

This year, the couple celebrate their 37-year anniversary.

Doris is still battling with schizophrenia and as of five years ago, arthritis as well. As for Raymond, he too has diabetes, high cholesterol and cataract.

Challenges of caring

Medical costs aside, Raymond revealed that the road is tough to say the least. He used to struggle between juggling work and caring for his wife.

In 1995, under tremendous amount of stress, he attempted suicide.

In retrospect, he said, "I deeply regret taking that route — imagine what would happen to Doris if I had not survived."

"It's still very tough," Raymond admitted. "But I have to stay and remain strong for Doris. She needs me badly."

The couple had unfortunately lost their only two children — one through a miscarriage and the other through an abortion. In the latter case, the couple made that decision as Doris would have to get off the drugs that would affect the foetus.

The devout Catholic relies on his faith to get by. He left his 31-year job as a public relations officer in October and is now working from home as a writer to earn income to pay their bills.

Caring for his wife turned him into an advocate for the mentally ill.

"It's been extremely tough for her as Doris' sole caregiver, especially when the support structure for caregivers of the mentally ill is clearly lacking — something which I have been fighting for, for decades."

But Raymond never regretted taking her as his wife.

"No, I will not ever walk away from taking care of Doris because of one simple reason — I love her deeply," he said

Raymond handles all the household chores and finances while maintaining his writing jobs and caring for his wife. The last job entails taking her to numerous medical appointments at Tan Tock Seng Hospital, IMH and polyclinics monthly and ensuring she religiously takes her medication — 52 tablets a daily. He visits the same hospital for his eye treatment.

Although her schizophrenia is now stabilised, Raymond reveals that it may relapse anytime. "The symptoms of her arthritis condition caused her to be in tremendous physical pain in all her joints that left her mobility severely impaired. In severe pain, it can trigger a relapse of her mental illness," he said.

Doris had suffered a relapse before so he and the doctors are carefully monitoring her condition.

Symptoms

Raymond reveals how the symptoms first develops. He usually first notices physical tell-tale signs such as the white of her eyes turning slightly blue, and much dandruff appearing on her scalp.

At the beginning, Doris would become uncannily quiet and fearful. "The slightest noise will affect her," Raymond said. Over time, she tends to become increasingly anxious and begins hallucinating. While she is not violent, her husband said, Doris cries when she hears buzzing in her ears and voices telling her to do "strange" things.

"There were occasions when I had to sleep with the house keys under my pillow as she would wake up in the middle of the night and attempt to go downstairs to the void deck. She believed that her mother was waiting for her downstairs. But her mother had already passed away," Raymond said sadly.

Traumatic experiences such as the loss of their children, Raymond's and the loss of her mother haunts her as well.

The breaking point is when Doris begins talking about suicide. That is when Raymond is left with no choice but to admit her into hospital.

"On most occasions, she would have to undergo ECT ( electro convulsive therapy). This is where mild current is applied to the brain every 4 seconds to stabilize her. Most of the time, she requires at least six shots of ECT. It is an extremely painful period for me," he said. She may require another knee operation should her medications fail.

Despite all these, while he acknowledges that it is an uphill task to care for her as her arthritis condition worsens, he is prepared to fight this battle for he and his beloved wife.

"If there's one thing you can say to your wife now, what would you say?" this reporter asked.

"If schizophrenia is part of your life, then it must certainly be part of my life. I don't necessarily like what the illness does to you, but it is you who I love. And that will always be the guiding, motivating force of my life, Doris.""

(http://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/singaporescene/man-loves-woman-004953242.html)

Interesting Quotes:

"True friendship isn’t being inseparable its being separate and nothing changes"

"We all wear masks, metaphorically speaking.
We suppress the id, our darkest desires and adopt a more socially acceptable image.
To attain true happiness, we must first learn to take off that mask."

"Being respectful (nice) to people who treat you like a dog and instead treat those who treat you well, like a dog (disrespectful/taking for granted) makes people think you are a dog." ~ Colin

"Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth."

"Remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends."

"Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you."

"We will open the new book.
Its pages are blank.
We are going to put words on them ourselves.
The book is called Opportunity
and
its first chapter is New Year's Day."

"To be frank, there is no difference between NYE and New Year's day. It is the same because you and your circumstances didn't change overnight. You will have the same stresses, worries, problems as the day before. What changes is IF you have decided on having Hope and Positivity moving forward, and expressed the willingness to do something to change yourself, your mindset and do something about your circumstances, then the New Year will change for you because YOU control yourself first. The other things you leave in God's hands, Karma and Fate. Good luck for 2012!" ~ Conrad

"I look back at the risks I took, the uncharted course I set upon myself, the trust I gave and was broken by the closest of friends, the uncertainty of new ventures, the pain of realising my efforts will not reap a harvest so soon and I realise it is all a part of the process called LIFE. I grabbed it with two hands and wasn't afraid to try. I tried it. And it grew me. Success is not just measured by the number of zeroes in your bank account but by the experiences life gives you. So I encourage all those with dreams to pursue them and those who do not succeed at first to stay the course and find yourself. You have but one life. Don't waste it on mediocrity. Happy New Year, everyone!" ~ Conrad

"(Thumbs Down) People who ignore their friends because they have relationships."
When people ignore their friends because they have relationships, they say to their friends that in fact they are not friends at all. True enough, sometimes it is hard when we first fall in love with someone to even think about spending time away from our lover and with our friends instead, but we must never forget the importance of maintaining all of our relationships. A true friend should be treated as a true friend.

Most true friends will be happy that you are in a relationship that makes you happy, but if they are someone that you truly love and care about it is imperative that you make at least some time to spend with them. Though they may be lower on your priority list, they are still on your priority list; you should treat them as such. Never ignore your friends because you have a relationship."

"When we are insecure about situations, in actuality we are holding on to some experience(s) that caused us tremendous anguish earlier in our lives to the point of where we don't want to allow a situation or relationship of similar magnitude to take place again. In order to get past our insecurities we must first get rid of the mindset of living in our past.

Just because you weren't good enough for something then, doesn't mean that you are not good enough now, just because you weren't able to accomplish something then, doesn't mean that you won't accomplish it now. Let go of your pain, and believe in the fact that the only limits that bind you, are those limits that you place on yourself. We are all perfect people with perfect imperfections. Remember to not only enjoy your life but to take advantage of the opportunities that life presents to you as well. Live every day as if it could be your last!"

If only life can b so simple...:'(

You Made Me Cry :'(

2011-12-20T10:18:00.041+08:00

Saw this poem...i wanna cry...i'm such a silly leech :'( thx everyone who came to join us for the xmas eve party...appreciate all of u for spending xmas with me! It really warms my heart to know that a recently married couple first got to know each other through our networking events! This is one of the best testimonials I've received so far! =)

Everyone only see my glamorous side but who has seen the sadness behind my smile n the fear n loneliness in my leechie life? everyone only sees the party gal in me...but who has seen how hard i slog in my leechie life? nobody!!! i have nothing...except my parents' unconditional love! most ppl r damn self-centred n r nice to u only if u do certain things for them...we r living in a damn practical society afterall...only our parents' love for us is unconditional...anything else tt anyone says or does for u come with a condition =.=" nobody gives a shit abt me...nobody appreciates me...u only choose to see the worst in me...i know u r juz waiting for me to screw up my life! what goes around comes around...i believe in retribution!!!

Brian asked me how to have a happy Xmas...i honestly dont quite know how to answer him...i dont like the loneliness of Xmas :'( i have nothing...no one :'( I admit readily tt i'm not happy n i dont know how to be happy...:'( i look at som ppl who r inferior to me in so many ways...be it in terms of looks, wealth, intelligence, popularity, class, style, humor, etc...everything...but yet...they r much much happier than me!!! silly me started to think...why do they think tt they r more worthy to be happy than miserable me??? why r they much happier than me? why??? cos i know i wont b happy if i were them!

Wonder y r there so many wishy-washy guys these days...sometimes i think i'm more man than them! u can juz treat me as a guy! =.=" even my leechie mum laughs at how "gu-niang" or "ladylike" some guys can be these days! o.O" too many wimps walking around these days! -.-"

Anyway, it's damn shallow to judge me based on what u do...we r all diff individuals...i have nothing to say if u deem it fair to judge me based on ur short yardstick! -.-" it's juz like how i used to wonder why som ppl need to take such a looooooooong time to write a simple report in english...esp when i can finish it within minutes...or how they cant use proper english n send me smses in broken english that i have to read n re-read to try to decipher what the hell they r saying...well, guess not everyone is as blessed as me to have attended a decent grammar school n i gotta thank my leechie mum for pushing me tons of assessment books when i was a kid...lol...i understand tt not everyone is comfy with speaking in english...n i know i cant use my own yardstick on others...likewise, i dont like others to judge me based on their shallow minds!!! u need to go get a life manz!!! -.-" n the most amusing thing is how those who r inferior than me in so many ways judge me n think tt i'm inferior to them n look down on me...lol ;p call me a shallow n materialistic leech...but i really dunno what term to use on such superficial humans...lol ;p well, u can continue to perceive me as some stoopid airhead...but i'm not soooooooooo stoopid as couldnt tell if a person is lying!!! i'm a lie-detector! -.-"

From my cousin:
"人生短暂，容不下虚情假意"
"Say what you mean and mean what you say."

"You made me CRY

You made me cry...
You tore me apart..
You left me in tears..
You've shattered my heart..

It wasn't your fault..
I guess it was me..
for love can't be forced..
Perhaps we weren't meant to be..

It still doesn't help..
now that i know..
Because for some reason..
my heart won't let go..

I've tried more than once..
to get over you..
but you make it so hard..
with cute things you do..

I thought love was joy..
but i've got nothing to gain..
just sorrows..,tears..
and a little more pain..

The day the pain started ..
reality came too..
It was the day i realized ..

......I'LL NEVER BE WITH YOU......."

"I'm done writing these e-mails that you never seem to read.
I'm done trying to be a friend when I always get hurt.
I'm done thinking that you may like me, when it'll never come true.
I'm done filling up my notebooks with songs about you.
I'm done crawling into my bed and crying every night.
I'm done believing that you're perfect, because I can see every flaw clearer than anyone.
I'm done."

"Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances.

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will.
You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' hearts.
You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by.
So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt.
Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances.
You just have to live life to the fullest,
Tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain,
hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts.
Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back."

Interesting Quotes:

"Its obvious in times of distress who r your true friends and who are just there along for the good times only. Guess I learnt the most important lesson this year. Have a few true friends rather than a bunch of fake ones!"

“The best revenge is being a success” ~ Mario Teguh

"What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life - to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories." ~ George Eliot

"
如果愛上了，
就不要輕易放過機會，
也不要輕易的放開手，
更加不要輕易的放棄。
莽撞，可能使你後悔一陣子；
怯懦，卻能使你後悔一輩子。
所以，
愛~ 請轟轟烈烈；
不愛~ 請徹徹底底。"

My blog is still here:
I'm not sure what exactly happened...but i tried to search for my leechie blog n it says my blog has been removed!!! my fren told me the same thing...so scarry...but i managed to logon...think my blog is working now...i even hav visitors from Venezuela...lol...

The epitome of COOL: Cooler than Cool! B-)
Which girl doesnt love Chanel? i dont know any...perhaps my leechie mum? (but she's not a girl...she's an obasan in denial...lol...she better not hear this ;p) n btw i still dont have the classic Chanel bag...n nobody is buying leechie one :'(

O.o

:'(

♥ Love this song from Material Queen: Is this all? :'(
Is this all i'm been waiting for? juz realized tt i could be dead in the not-too-distant future...what to make of my pathetic existence on planet earth? o.O"
Humanity...a quality which is clearly lacking in many cold urbanites whose minds r focused only on $$$ n how they can make use of other humans to achieve their goals! -.-" do u really think tt i'm sooooooo stoopid not to realize this? =.="

Lilian Too's Fengshui Extravaganza 2012

2011-12-19T04:38:00.015+08:00

Attended Aunt Lilian's Fengshui Extravaganza over the weekend...it came much earlier this time round...the crowd seemed abit smaller than usual...perhaps many ppl went on vacation? o.O

She covered the bazi chart for 2012 as well as the 24 mountains...she prescribed all the fengshui remedies n cures for the afflicted areas as well as all the fengshui charms to activate the good areas...lotsa ppl were shopping for her fengshui items...i was caught in the crowd n almost couldnt make my way out of the shopping area!

There was a looooooooooooooong q for Aunt Lilian's autograph...

I had to re-queue cos she had to return to the stage before she could finish signing the first round...

With the lovely Jennifer...she always looks so glamorous o.O

Anyway, i saw my ex there at Aunt Lilian's fengshui extravaganza again this yr....what an eyesore!!! it juz re-confirmed tt i kenna pasted stamps v.jialut previously...lol...saw his gf at the door before i left...juz feel consoled tt she couldnt b compared to me in terms of looks, brains n wealth =) btw, i always thought tt i have a v.flat nose...check out my side profile...guess my nose aint tt flat afterall eh? n i didnt do any plastic surgery!

There was a BMW roadshow at suntec as well...as usual i couldnt resist taking pics with the lovely BMW convertible =)

Alot stuff in this SMRT song...check it out ya...lol ;p

Hitler is informed that the NSL broke down again ;p

You Can Work Your Own Miracles

2011-12-19T04:28:00.009+08:00

Happened to see this inspiring page...n this is coming from a leech who doesnt believe in miracles n doesnt have faith in love anymore...i only believe in whatever tt i can hold in my miniature hands! n the beauty salon therapist was trying to tell me tt ppl who have small hands like mine have blessed lives...lol...everyone only see my glamorous side but who has seen the sadness behind my smile n the fear n loneliness in my leechie life? everyone only sees the party gal in me...but who has seen how hard i slog in my leechie life? nobody...i have nothing...except my parents' unconditional love! most ppl r damn self-centred n r nice to u only if u do certain things for them...we r living in a damn practical society afterall...only our parents' love for us is unconditional...anything else tt anyone says or does for u come with a condition =.=" have a blessed Xmas!

"Truly, whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve!

Thomas A. Edison BELIEVED he could perfect an incandescent electric lamp, and that belief carried him successfully through the ten thousand failures before he got the answer for which he had been searching.

Marconi BELIEVED the ether could be made to carry the vibrations of sound without the use of wires, and that belief carried him through many failures until he was finally rewarded by triumph, and gave the world its first wireless means of communication.

Columbus BELIEVED he would find land in an uncharted portion of the Atlantic Ocean, and he sailed on and on until he found it, despite the threatened mutiny of his sailors who were not so blessed as he with the capacity for BELIEF.

Madame Schumann-Heink BELIEVED she could become a great opera singer, although her singing teacher had advised her to go back to her sewing machine and be content as a seamstress. Her BELIEF rewarded her with success.

Helen Keller BELIEVED she could learn to talk despite the fact that she lost her use of speech, sight, and hearing, and her BELIEF restored her speech and helped her to become a shining example of encouragement to all people who are tempted to give up in despair because of some physical affliction.

Henry Ford BELIEVED he could build a horseless buggy that would provide rapid transportation at small cost, and despite the far-flung cry of "crackpot" and the skepticism of the world, he belted the earth with the product of his BELIEF, and made himself immensely wealthy.

Madame Marie Curie BELIEVED that radium metal existed and gave herself the task of finding its source, despite the fact that no one had ever seen radium and no one knew where to start looking for it. Her BELIEF finally revealed the source of that precious metal."

Source: You Can Work Your Own Miracles. Fawcett-Columbine Book. Published by Ballantine Books. 1971. Pgs. 144 – 146.

Interesting Quotes:

From Uncle Kuah:
"‎10 ways to lose money your $$$:
1. Put your trust in board room gossip.
2. Believe everything you hear, especially tips.
3. If you don’t know, guess.
4. Follow the public.
5. Be impatient.
6. Greedily hang on for the top eighth.
7. Trade on thin margin.
8. Hold to your opinion, right or wrong.
9. Never stay out of the market.
10. Accept small profits and large losses."

Merry Xmas n stay angry ;p

Shopping at Reebonz Xmas Sale

2011-12-17T01:08:00.020+08:00

Pop over to Reebonz Xmas sale after work...i didnt expect to buy anythg...juz thought of catching a glimpse of the Reebonz angels with wings n all (their version of A&F guys ;p) i didnt bring my camera into the shopping area...good thing tt Conrad had a camera with him when the angels appeared...lol...btw ladies, pls dont b jealous of me ya...u can go take pics with them too ;p

Posing with Reebonz angels...check out their abs ;p i thought the angel on my left looks cute...but i didnt manage to get his name though o.O

Shopping with eye-candies in the store ;p

Well, i was juz browsing around but saw this Coach bag which caught my eye...the style is v.me...n it was going at a whopping 80% off!!! showed mum my purchases n my cynical leechie mum agreed tt that was the best buy outta the entire lot o.O the minor stains on the bag r not tt obvious to the naked eye o.O

Took quite some time to decide before i finally bot this Prada wallet at 80% off...looks rather vintage ya? abit of Alexandra McQueen kinda punkish eh? the lady tt i met at this sale commented tt the obvious scratches juz add to the character of this wallet...i havent seen this design before at our local Prada boutique...but i thought the design is rather unique =)

I love the hearts design of this Prada bag...cant resist such a cutie design esp at 80% off ;p even the devil wears Prada...i'm only a leechie afterall ;p

I bot this lips design Prada bag at 80% off as well...guess white color nylon fabric doesnt age well...notice tt the area near the top zip is starting to turn yellowish...o.O"

My new fren from this sale scored a few good buys as well...she bought a Kate Spade clutch bag at 80% off (i like tt clutch too but not the bright turquoise color) n another Kate Spade bag with obvious scratches at a whopping 90% off! when she put back the hearts design Prada bag which i also bot...her sweet bf bot that bag for her on the spot! he helps her to qc her bags too...so sweet...really envy her o.O

Shopaholic leechie didnt expect to go back with 3 bags n 1 wallet...but i guess the prices r really attractive as compared to the local boutiques...so who needs leechy boutiques with snobbish sales assistants? =.=" there is storewide 25% off for everything...n these items at 25% off r in perfect condition...the items tt i bot happened to be 80% off...so the discounts range from 25-80% off retail prices! there r plenty of really fantastic buys if u dont mind some minor imperfections ya...my fren was saying tt these bags will age when u use them so there will b some scratches here n there sooner or later anyway...o.O n she's planning to go back to the sale again tmr to see if she can score other good buys...lol...

Guess i went rather late today cos Conrad was saying there was a huge crowd earlier in the day...so i would imagine there were plenty of other good buys being grabbed up before i reached? from memory, there's a shoes section at the front...saw a section for clothes as well...but i'm not too sure of the exact brands avail for selection cos my main focus today was juz on bags n wallets, other than the obvious eye-candies in the store ;p vintage Chanels n LVs were nicely displayed on the spiral staircase thingy...some bags tt i saw at 25% off include Prada, Miu Miu, Bottega, Gucci, Fendi, Balenciaga, Burberrys, Tod's, Kate Spade, Coach, etc...there r Prada bags being restocked tonite...but doubt i have time to pop over again tmr...heard tt there was a lady who owns 15 Birkin bags who snapped up almost $10k of bags for herself today!!! wow o.O if u r there tmr, dont miss out on the branded home items tt u can purchase at 80% off when you purchase at least $500...n they r also giving away $20k worth of branded bags in their lucky draw! o.O

Shopaholic leechie with her 3 bags n 1 wallet from Reebonz Xmas sale

Busy bee me had to rush off to meet my other frenz for dinner n drinks...Thanks Tanjong Beach Club for their complimentary bottle of lovely Shiraz =) n Ken was saying tt the ambience there was really great...

Our dinner...the fillet was really yummy ;p

Pretty-looking desserts ;p

Official Opening of Royal Room + 5th Birthday Bash of PropertyGuru.com at Mink

2011-12-16T06:38:00.016+08:00

A busy nite at Pan Pacific area...the official opening of Royal Room was by invitation only...n there was a private event for the 5th birthday bash of propertyguru.com next door at Mink...

At Royal Room, they had a really cool long stretch of DIY cocktail bar where guests could prepare their own cocktails =) i love exotic cocktails...but i'm much better at drinking cocktails than making them...n the bartender was v.helpful n made me a few v.unique n exotic cocktails =) saw Angie n the other guys making a mess with their own DIY creations...lol...y bother to spend so much effort making a mess when there were such nice helpful bartenders who r v.good at what they do? ;p

DIY cocktail spread...

Posing at the DIY cocktail table...

Lychee mojito with yummy canapes

Black cherry mojito with yummy unagi canapes

Strawberry vodka

Posing with my watermelon mojito ;p i love the pretty n comfy sofa at Royal Room =)

Preparing for the party ;p

One of the most common questions being asked around at the birthday bash of propertyguru was...which agency r u from? lol ;p a cool happening crowd that really know how to party...got to know a few folks from propertyguru n various agencies...n i bumped into Conrad who came rather late...

Performance at Mink...

With Ting Ting...

Condolences to Late Mdm Teresa Hsu Who Passed Away Peacefully at Age 113

2011-12-14T06:38:00.017+08:00

Mdm Teresa Hsu ~ an unselfish lady who had cared for the poor n needy n did what she could cos 'Nobody should eat grass'...a great woman with a big heart...she had touched many lives...n made a difference to many...different from majority of the apathetic population in this damn practical society, she will be sorely missed...:'(

Humanity, a quality which is sorely lacking amongst many urbanites in today's damn materialistic society!!! anyway, it's damn easy to talk abt how $ aint important esp for those with $$$ n who havent experience poverty! -.-" i dont try to act noble n say tt $$$ aint important! anyway, one can still survive without respect...but one will cfm die if one has no $$$! sad but true fact of life! go on...continue to judge me...call me shallow...do u think i give a damn how lowly u think of me? at least, i dont rob or steal others' $$$...i slog to make my own $$$...n who r u to judge me? pui! -.-"

I first saw her in person at an Anthony Robbins seminar a couple of years ago...she was there to do the firewalk too!!! to me, it has never been abt the quantity...cos i believe quality precedes quantity...n the contributions n legacy tt one leaves behind after one passes on would be far more important in accessing how one has lived! i always talk abt leaving behind a legacy after i'm long gone...we r all reduced to ashes at the end of the day...but how many lives have we touched??? o.O it's never too late to start today...

Her message to young people today: "Go all out to help those who don't have the basic needs. See that nobody needs to go hungry."

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Read more abt her inspiring life here:
(http://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/singaporescene/help-singapore-mother-teresa-031007628.html)

"Meet Singapore’s ‘Mother Teresa’

Under our "Inspiring People" monthly column, we highlight the incredible journey of one person who has overcome tremendous odds to achieve personal success. This column celebrates the triumph of the human spirit and we hope it will inspire you to reach for your dreams too. This month, we bring to you supercentenarian and prominent social worker Teresa Hsu, whose life's work speaks volumes about the strength of her character and the goodness of her heart.

At 47, she enrolled and was accepted into in a three-year nursing course in London meant for students under 25.

At 67, she founded one of the first home for the aged sick in Singapore in the 1960s, where she worked until she was 85-years-old.

Her passionate work and active lifestyle has won ex-nurse Teresa Hsu various accolades such as the National Volunteer and Philanthropy Centre's Special Recognition Award (2006) and the Sporting Singapore Inspiration Award for her teaching of yoga (2004).

Singapore's famed 'Mother Teresa' turns 113 this month and her single-minded desire and commitment to help the needy remains as strong as it was years ago.

The actual Mother Teresa, who was born in 1910 and died in 1997, was a Catholic nun of Albanian ethnicity and Indian citizenship, recognised internationally for her ministry to the poor, sick, orphaned and dying. In 1979, she was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize for her humanitarian work.

Singapore's supercentenarian spends her days at Heart to Heart, an outreach unit she founded in Hong Kong in 1923. (It was called Friends of the Needy then.)

There, she and co-worker Sharana Rao, 62, look after the needs of 13 single elderly folks and four needy families in Singapore. They provide basic food and money for rent, utilities, travel and companionship.

She also donates money to help in the care of 47 visually-impaired children and teenagers in Ho Chi Minh.

Speaking to Yahoo! Singapore in a coffee shop, the cheerful and humble welfare worker, dressed simply in a batik-styled outfit, reiterates her lifelong goal of caring for the poor and needy.

'Nobody should eat grass'

Senior citizens today "need loving-kindness, company and food," stated Hsu. "Many of them don't have enough food."

Hsu, whose authorised biography was published earlier this year, remembers being "very poor and very hungry" when she was seven and had to resort to eating grass.

"As long as it's within my power, I will see that nobody should eat grass. That is my work now, caring for those that do not have the basic needs," pledged the vegetarian, whose favourite treats include vanilla ice cream.

Born in a poor but caring family in Kak Chioh Swatow — a tiny village in the Guangdong province of China — in 1898, Hsu has traveled far and wide helping others and leaving her imprint in countries such as Hong Kong, England and Paraguay, before finally settling down in Singapore.

She shared in her recently-released biography, Heart to Heart with Teresa Hsu, her "wake up call" came in 1933 in Hong Kong, when she came across a beggar asking for food, just as she had attended a lavish company dinner.

Describing the "great pain in my heart" from witnessing the suffering of a fellow human being, Hsu decided, she would donate her money to the less fortunate instead of spending it on herself.

From then, she spent an average of only 30 cents a day for food and drink, giving away the remainder of her money.

But just sharing her money was not enough.

In the 1940s, Hsu, who was in her 40s, joined the Friends Ambulance Unit, where she looked after 20 young men and acted as their translator in China during the Second World War.

After four years, she felt called to study nursing. Against all odds, she boarded a cargo ship headed for England to study at the London Royal Free Hospital. Her determination and desire so impressed the Council, that she was accepted into the three-year course meant only for those aged between 17 to 25.

During the summer breaks, Hsu worked as an exchange volunteer with the International Voluntary Service for Peace in many European countries such as Germany, France, Spain, Switzerland, Norway and Demark.

She later joined the Society of Brothers in Paraguay, a haven for Jewish refugees from Hitler's persecution. She worked in a hospital and her duties included giving medication, injections and attending to women's health problems.

Other than caring for the 2,000 residents in the society's grounds, Hsu would deliver food to lepers living on the outskirts of the town everyday. She also gave out medicine and food, meant for society members, to the poor and sick — a move that often got her into trouble with the Society.

Her move to Singapore

After eight years, she returned to China. In 1961, Hsu moved again, this time with her mother, to Singapore to live with Hsu's elder sister, Ursula Khow. Khow was a school principal in Singapore.

She continued her social work in Singapore, serving first as an unsalaried matron at Kwong Wai Shiu Hospital for about three years before opening an old folks' home in 1965 on a piece of land in Jalan Payoh Lai.

It cost $150,000 and was funded by Khow. Called the "Home for the Aged Sick", it started with just seven elderly residents but quickly expanded to 250.

A volunteer, Lau Tong Ngee, who has known Hsu for more than 38 years, was quoted in her biography describing Hsu's work.

"The Home was accepting more and more residents and she had to hire more workers to help in the work. The workers themselves were all poor. Teresa gave them work and treated the workers and also their families well," he said.

At that time, Hsu was also caring for 26 needy families and single elderly folks through her outreach unit, Heart-to-Heart, he said.

After 20 years at the home, Hsu retired and turned her attention to her welfare service, Heart to Heart, where she still works up till today.

Committed to serving others

Currently, she also travels overseas occasionally to share her experiences with others.

Rao, who has known Hsu for nearly 40 years since he first met her when he volunteered at her old folks' home in 1972, described Hsu as a "very loving, hearty and wise soul (with) an enormous amount of compassion and love for the poor and needy".

"Her heart always goes to the poor and suffering," he said. "It's a great blessing and joy to be in her presence and (I'm) always learning from her. (She has) so much experience, wisdom and always sharing her 'hahaha' recipe." (The recipe refers to Hsu's advice to people to lead a happy life.)

After a lifetime of placing the needs of others before herself, is Hsu ever tempted to sit back and enjoy her golden years?

No, she stressed. "No temptation can come into my house. I have work to do, I am not diverted."

She hopes this is a lesson that future generations will learn and remember.

Her message to young people today: "Go all out to help those who don't have the basic needs. See that nobody needs to go hungry."

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Interesting Quotes:

"The 3 C’s of life: choices, chances, and changes. You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change."

“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

"Don't listen or think about anything other people say about you. Just live your life and prove them wrong."

"Persistently viewing others as dishonest, lazy, sinful, and ignorant can be a way of compensating for something you fear. If there's a pattern of seeing others as failures, you need to notice this pattern as evidence of what you're attracting into your life." ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Update:

I hate how it feels to b walking alone amongst the shopping crowd along orchard road during this time of the year...i had to be there several times a week last year n the year before tt...quite glad tt i dont have to be there so often this yr! =.=" i hate how lonely it feels during this time of the year! nothing...i have nothing :'( Time to take another look at the legal stuff in front of me again o.O

"Comfortable with the face I’ve earned"

2011-12-05T03:48:00.025+08:00

Alot of thoughts went through my leechie head as i read ‘Comfortable with the face I’ve earned’, by Dr. Lee Wei Ling, in Sunday Times...

Recently, some guys were rather surprised when they learnt tt i'm still single...ppl tend to think tt most pretty ladies r alrdy spoken for...well, i guess the lack of affinity is the main reason...haiz...however, do think twice or thrice abt dating guys who r with u only for ur looks...these guys might not hang around u for long if u were to get into some accident or lose ur looks due to age...anyway, there will always be someone else who is younger n prettier...y waste time on shallow guys who cant accept u for the person tt u r? o.O i'm far from perfect n i'm insecure abt my looks but i'm who i'm...i'm sorry if u cant even accept tt simple fact! i'm more than juz a face...i know i have a strong personality...there is somthg between my ears...i'm an opinionated leech...n sometimes stubbornly loyal to the point which is beyond comprehension...u can agree to disagree...but enough bitching abt my looks if u dont look better than me!!! so juz shut the hell up!!!

Was watching the 11pm Channel 8 show in which one of the female leads, Jiahui, was disfigured after a bomb exploded...n her hubby, Zhenghong, stood by her n continued to shower love on her...she's really blessed to have such a sweetheart! i really envy the love he has towards her...tt is unconditional! but sometimes i really wonder if such guys r alrdy extinct by now? o.O esp after meeting sooooooooo many guys who r sooooo visual n judge u based on your looks!!! -.-"

A couple of weeks ago, I was sharing with him tt an ex-colleague couldnt even recognize me n asked what happened to me...think i look so hideous&fat&poor&stupid tt she cant recognize me now! :'( n he juz couldnt take my emotional insecurities :'( well he can say tt he doesnt judge ppl based on appearance...n this statement came from a guy who said tt even if he were to die, he muz die handsome! how convincing ya =.=" whether u like it or not, we r living in a damn superficial society where ppl constantly judge us based on our appearance n wealth! it's a sad but true fact! call me shallow n materialistic, but those ppl who tell u tt they dont judge u based on ur appearance r either being diplomatically polite or think u r dumb enough to believe tt! -.-" what do i know...i'm supposed to be a dumbo airhead ya -.-"

I admire how Dr. Lee is comfortable with the face tt she's earned...despite the visible changes...n how time n health issues have made their traces on her face...i would be lying if i said i wasn't affected by my ex-colleague's remarks abt how i look now as compared to the past! :'( i know i'm damn far from perfect n i'm full of insecurities...but i dont wanna b ugly!!! :'(

I admit readily tt i'm not happy...n i dont know how to be happy...:'( i look at some others who r inferior to me in terms of looks, wealth n intelligence...but they r much happier than me!!! silly me started to think...why do they think tt they r more worthy to be happy than me? n why r they much happier than me? :'(

"Beauty is not abt looks, makeups or clothes. true beauty comes from being urself, the more u show who u r the prettier u will be!"
Obviously, the more i reveal my insecurities, the uglier he finds me to be! :'( i was reading through his msges...n silly me juz realized tt some of his occasional replies were only out of courtesy n some of his more friendly msges were sent wrongly to me...think Wen Ching was the intended recipient, not me! =( what a silly leech i'm :'( of course it's natural for him to want to show his best side to someone he likes...he only has time n attention for her...silly me was trying too hard...i know he wont view me favorably no matter how hard i try...guess his perceptions of me still hinges on how we met n my insecurities :'( perhaps he looks down on me n sees me as some less-than-nothing worthless trash from the roadside...then obviously, i'm totally unworthy to compare with her :'( but why on earth would i wanna b an anal-yst? that was never my ambition...not in the past, not now, not likely to be in the future! n i dont need to b an anal-yst to show there is something between my ears...lol...u can continue to judge me n dismiss me as an airhead...tt's really pathetic ;p i'm better off dead...i feel like sleeping for the rest of my life! :'(

Well, guess he's not the only one who has a LOW opinion of leechie =.=" when brian told me tt he's going to switch to property, i suggested tt he can join my uncle's property firm...n he actually thought tt i was referring to some fren's firm...think all these guys r under the impression tt leechie is a shallow n materialistic airhead who likes to hang around some loaded old uncles? =.=" when brian realized tt i was really referring to my real uncle n not some fren...he asked why didnt i join my uncle's firm myself...excuse moi, my uncle is my uncle...i'm me...totally no link...why should i join my uncle's property firm? o.O" btw, think brian is around the same age as my uncle...as with quite a few of my other frenz...so does tt automatically make me an uncle-magnet? o.O" anyway, i juz said politely tt i heard many ppl talking abt possible property crash...anyway, tt conversation was before the announcement of the latest property cooling measures...o.O

Btw, i juz realized tt brian didnt know my profession although i've known him for years! gosh...he actually asked me for my namecard (which i dont have a habit of bringing out)...not surprised tt he looked at me blankly when i tried to explain what i do...some stuff r juz too technical to explain to the layman o.O" anyway, it was cool to hang out with the guys...to hear their views on the mkts n phones n bitch abt gals...lol ;p Terence was saying tt som gal sitting opposite us was staring draggers at him...but she was too ugly...otherwise he would walk over to chat her up...lol ;p brian was more direct...he wanted to see gals in bikinis...lol...we miz the lunar eclipse as we stepped outta the restaurant...but there were plenty of ppl who came with huge telescopes! o.O"

Found an old pic of him online...brian was curious to see how he looks like but was rather polite to comment tt he looks intellectual (u can always trust brian to be diplomatic ya ;p)...lol...well, on the other hand, he seems to think tt he looks handsome...well, he said tt even if he were to die, he muz die handsome! o.O well, v.v.v.healthy self-esteem ya ;p btw, the reason y i wanna post my latest photoshoot here is to show everyone tt i can look good even without photoshop!!! o.O"

I'm still amused by those guys who think tt they r damn eligible n only actresses or lawyers r worthy enough to date them...what a joke...they shld go take a look at themselves in the mirror n their bank accounts n their shallow n materialistic hearts totally lacking in humanity as well as the other much more eligible guys around them ;p these guys shld take a good look at this news article...r they sure they can afford high-maintenance ladies? willing to fork out >$300k/month? ;p (http://www.plushasia.com/media_photo/12115)

"Socialite Jamie Chua settles divorce suit
The high profile divorce suit between socialite Jamie Chua and Indonesian tycoon Nurdian Cuaca was settled yesterday.

The couple came to a settlement under confidential terms following which a freeze on Mr Cuaca's $93 million worth of assets was lifted by the High Court yesterday.

Chua, 36, was seeking $450,000 a month in maintenance from Cuaca based on the previous standard of living with her husband."

Do think twice or thrice abt dating guys who r with u only for ur looks...these guys might not hang around u for long if u were to get into some accident or lose ur looks due to age...anyway, there will always be someone else who is younger n prettier...y waste time on shallow guys who cant accept u for the person tt u r? o.O i'm far from perfect n i'm insecure abt my looks but i'm who i'm...i'm sorry if u cant even accept tt simple fact! i'm more than juz a face...i know i have a strong personality...there is somthg between my ears...i'm an opinionated leech...n sometimes stubbornly loyal to the point which is beyond comprehension...but enough bitching abt my looks if u dont look better than me!!! so juz shut the hell up!!!

For those ppl who r still waiting for me to screw up my life ---> "Don't listen or think about anything other people say about you. Just live your life and prove them wrong."

Interesting Quotes:

"There is more money being spent on breast implants and Viagra today than on Alzheimer’s research. This means that by 2020, there should be a large elderly population with perky boobs and huge erections and absolutely no recollection of what to do with them."

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‘Comfortable with the face I’ve earned’, by Dr. Lee Wei Ling

"...I have said in this column before that I myself am aesthetically challenged, and I meant it in all honesty. But there was a time when I looked reasonably attractive – average, I would say. The past 10 years, however, have been somewhat unkind to me, and my current appearance reflects the health difficulties I have had.

Recently, I needed to get a new passport photograph. When I compared the new photograph with the one I took in 2001, I realised how much my face had aged.

I have put on 20lb (9kg) as instructed by my doctor. But my face is more angular and gaunt and I have prominent eye bags. In the 2001 photograph, I could easily have passed for a teenage boy. Now I look my age, or older than my age. No matter how short I cut my hair, I can no longer pass for a young androgynous teenager or man.

...When I scrutinise myself objectively in the mirror, I realise that the part of my face that has changed the most are my eyes. They are slanted and slit, closely resembling my father’s eyes in his old age. The lower part of my face looks angular and gaunt despite my weight gain, for most of my extra weight consists of muscle.

Recently, at the World Orchid Conference, two women separately asked me if I was Dr Lee. I asked the first woman who questioned me how she had guessed, since no recent photograph of me had appeared in the press. ‘You look like your father,’ she said.

I have not yet developed the ability to be totally detached from life's vicissitudes, but I have learnt to remind myself that desire of and attachment to worldly things bring suffering. I have this become fairly successful in curbing some of my attachments.

If I believed in reincarnation, then I would feel that I had many more lives to struggle through before I attained nirvana. But I don't believe in reincarnation, and I am convinced that I am a transient on this planet.

This means that if I don't want to suffer too much in this life, I must continually remind myself that while I should aspire to help other humans, I must also be willing to be detached when detachment is the only option.

I don't resent the misfortunes that fate has brought me. I accept them as lessons in life that only personal experience can teach. Indeed, I believe I am fortunate rather than unfortunate to have learnt these lessons.

...One small lesson I have learnt is that there is no purpose served in being attached to my face – or what used to be my face. George Orwell once wrote that after the age of 50, we all have the face we deserve. I, for one, am quite comfortable with the one I have earned."

Shopping at Johor Premium Outlets

2011-12-05T03:38:00.025+08:00

I'm back...thx Terry, the mkting mgr of IskandarProject, for his prompt response on my query for directions on how to get to Johor Premium Outlets =) it's nice to shop there...but v.v.v.crowded...many malaysians drove there...we went via the 2nd link...but ended up being overcharged by the taxi driver from Gelang Patah to jpo...prefer to go via 2nd link to avoid the long queues at the woodlands customs...JPO is nice n spacious...btw, i like the Mocha Praline ice-blended from the Starbucks cafe at JPO...this flavour is not avail in sg...n the crepes from the crepes shop there r nice...but the waiting time for collection of crepes is abt 20min! o.O" there r limited F&B outlets at JPO so the queues r always v.long =.=" the thai restaurant was so popular tt they had to close before re-opening for dinner n even then, they were alrdy fully booked n their waiting list was building up...so we didnt manage to have our dinner at JPO o.O"

My personal take: prices at the Coach outlet r comparable to sg prices...not much cheaper...the States Coach outlets r far cheaper...i'm not familiar with the prices at the Coach outlet at Citygate in hk so i cant comment...but check out the loooooooooong q at the Coach outlet store at JPO! there r good buys at levis, adidas n la senza...but there is only 1 cashier at levis...i had to queue for more than 1hr juz to make payment...v.sianz...-.-" there r a few other general brands such as Cotton On, Guess, Gap, Esprit, Roxy, The Body Shop, Nike, Charles&Keith, Pedro, DKNY, CK, A|X, Fossil, etc...check out my loots from Johor Premium Outlets =)

Looooooooooooooong q at Coach Outlet store o.O"

Bought an elegant pouch from Ferragamo...this store was rather quiet compared to the rest...perhaps due to the fresh smell of the varnish lingering around in the store? o.O i asked for the red Ferragamo paper bag...but the staff said i would need to pay boutique prices if they were to give me the red paper bag cos this is an outlet store n not the boutique o.O btw, no vara pumps were in sight at this outlet...

Lancome cosmetics from an outlet store operated by Loreal group at JPO...i was quite surprised to find cosmetics here at JPO ;p

Pretty la Senza lingerie from their outlet store...this is my first corset...lol...couldnt resist cos it looks so pretty ;p i know the colors of these bras r abit loud but they had alrdy ran out of colors for my size =.=" btw, i received the la Senza iphone4 casing from the goodie bag from la Senza SG...but they were also giving away this same iphone4 casing with purchase of 200RM for JPO members (saw this promo on my second trip to JPO on 11th dec which was also the Official Opening of JPO) n on my second trip there, they were running out of popular sizes for bras n panties on promotion...but i did see plenty of size 38D bras being displayed...o.O

Plenty of good deals at Levis...the 2nd pair of jeans was going for 50% off on top of the low prices! the round neck tees were only 39RM each! the polo tee was the last piece avail n i got it for 49RM...but be prepared to brave the loooooooooooong q for the cashier...i queued for more than 1 hour juz to make payment! -.-"

Some good deals at Adidas...but i dont see these items there on my 2nd trip...so i was rather glad tt i bought them on my first trip...saw many ppl grabbing lotsa stuff too o.O

Enjoyed shopping so muchie at JPO tt we returned to JPO again on 11th dec when they had their official opening ;p

I'm a shopaholic in constant denial ;p

JPO was v.crowded with many shoppers...with long queues forming for F&B n washrooms...

Bought this Adidas jacket on my 2nd trip there...n i was wearing this jacket in the store n quite a few ppl actually mistook me for being an Adidas staff n asked me to help them get stuff...lol...rule of the thumb...try not to wear an Adidas tee or jacket in the Adidas store if u dont want to b mistaken for being an Adidas staff...lol ;p

Kinda fell in love with la Senza lingerie n bought these pretty lingerie on my 2nd trip there ;p

Btw, the queue for Burberrys was rather long on both occasions so i didnt go in...due to time constraint, i didnt manage to go into all the shops even with both trips combined...juz went to some outlets where i wanna get some stuff...n the Polo Ralph Lauren, Versace, Raoul, The Brooks Brothers outlets r still not open yet...no idea when they would b opening...o.O n my leechie dad hates shopping...he was grumbling alot on our first trip...so he didnt bother to join us for the 2nd trip to JPO...o.O

Update:

My leechie mobile phone is dying...which phone shld i get: iphone 4 or iphone 4S? not muchie difference right? or any better recommendations? cos i have small hands...those iphones look BIG o.O"

Btw, butter fingers leechie dropped my leechie camera...n the lcd screen cracked =( frenz were saying tt i dont need to buy a camera if i were to buy iphone...any suggestions? cos some low end cameras r quite cheap ya? o.O

I'm juz amused with how the ppl around me like to copy my style...am i supposed to be a trend-setter or what? i juz wear whatever i'm comfy with...when i started to wear sporty gym gear to work...som ppl started to follow suit...when i wear my Adidas jacket to work...again i see ppl doing the same...lol...my leechie mum juz wanted to poke fun of me n asked if anyone mistook me for being an Adidas staff again? lol...well, perhaps those guys with really toned abs n body can try standing topless in front of A&F boutique at orchard road...maybe they might b mistaken for one of those topless models n gals may go up to them to take pics? ;p a really great way to pick up gals ya? but pls dont attempt this if u have a less-than-toned body ;p

Guess what? Jonathan saw my posting n dedicated the following pic to me...lol...but damn...look at his labelling...shittydev actually looks better than capland! -.-"

N he followed up with the following pic...lol...this is not my home btw...lol...juz for laughs ;p

Eat your hearts out, ladies...i managed to pop by juz before 7pm to take 2 pics within the remaining 5mins...he's really cutie ya? ;p

Skin Inc Flawless Look Workshop With Clarence Lee at Marina Bay Link Mall

2011-12-05T03:28:00.008+08:00

With the man himself, Clarence Lee

Attended Skin Inc's workshop on sat...the youngest in the audience was a little gal whom her mum brought along...lol...the training mgr, Crane, started by introducing their basic skincare products n the steps...Clarence Lee did a demo on the model with their bb cream which was soldout islandwide! o.O

Picked up some makeup tips from Clarence...he commented tt my foundation color was a tad too light for my skintone...i'm in a dilemma cos it would oxidize really fast n make my face look v.dark n dull if i were to use a darker yellow-tone foundation @.@" another problem of using the light ivory color foundation is that it tends to make my face look v.fat!!! haiz :'( he also asked me to go light with my makeup cos i have v.oily skin n the makeup has a tendency to migrate =.="

I bought their eye optimizer n daily dose serum set...there were several other sets on promotion...i left with an additional oxy-miracle peel voucher as one of the prizes for answering Crane's questions...there were several other vouchers in the goodie bag too...n they served champagne n v.nice canapes...i love the sinful caramel macaroons ;p

Btw, i have an existing package of diamond peel with Skin Inc...they don't do any extraction for their facial treatment...this treatment removes dead skin cells n cleanses the face thoroughly...which is suitable for ppl like me who have lousy cleansing skills...not sure why makeup tends to stick to my face even after i have double-cleansed -.-" btw, i went to a different beauty salon the other day n the therapist exerted so much strength during the extraction n i felt as if she was trying to remove my nose...my leechie mum was rather amused when i told her abt it...she reassured me by telling me tt my nose is still there =.="

Clarence performing his magic on the model...notice the Hermes bangle tt he was wearing? o.O

I like the window display =)

Cant resist taking pics of these cutie Hello Kitty n Melody in the window display esp when the shop was closed ;p

Posing with the la Senza goodie bag ;p

After my hair treatment...

Interesting Quotes:

"Reason for sending out this is I heard on Radio that the professionals interviewed denounced technical analysis in more than one ways. volume too low cannot work, volume too high also cannot work. then what will work? prices move due to one's perception of price (anticipation) hence there will be buyers and sellers.

So TA is study of perception. trying to enter at market equilibrium price to anticipate the next move. you put your stop loss 1-2bids away from the equilibrium price and let the market decide. simple and easy.

Lastly, do not assume! Market will not respect the individual whom ever s/he is. The market can even move against Mr Buffet. If the market decides otherwise just take it and move away till the next opportunity presents itself. In that way your odds are always higher than 50%. If lower than that RWS is the better bet."

"My heroes are the ones who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them."

"Always trade with plan and free from emotions.
Take care of the risk and reward will take care of itself."

‎"Power Tip: If you want money, income and sales to flow toward you, you have to increase your energy and your intent. How do you do this? Move around, be active, work out, eat well, show up and be noticed, engage, ask, move around some more, fill up your schedule with revenue generating activities and push off those tasks that are low in energy." ~ Blair Singer

Soft Launch Opening Party of Lucky 13

2011-12-02T06:08:00.013+08:00

Thanks Mr. Lu for his kind invitation to the soft launch opening of his latest venture: Lucky13. My group was there really early at 7pm...i was telling Caroline tt this was the earliest tt i have ever stepped into a bar...lol...saw some familiar faces from the media n party scene o.O

The mojitos tt we were served tasted v.refreshing n rather different from the usual ones served at other bars...well, the mojitos were so popular tt they ran outta them within the space of an hour o.O there were tasty bar bites being served as well...Angie camped outside the kitchen to collect the newly cooked bar bites...lol...there were nacho chips, french fries, chicken/beef with tomatoes n wraps...think the proper names are: Mushroom Quesadilla, the Ropas Vieja Beef Stew, the Cuban Medianoche Sandwich...but my fav was the croquette potato thingy with cheese n ham fillings (not too sure what's the proper name on the menu for this)...really yummy manz ;p

We were discussing where to go for hols manz...taiwan or bangkok or hk? i wanna go hk...but looks like they r not too keen eh? o.O

Btw, i happened to pass by a group of Caucasians on my way to the bar counter...then one of them immediately complimented my hair upon seeing me...which brings to my mind tt how some local guys can b so stingy with their compliments =.=" guess someone reading this might start to think tt i'm an attention-seeker? well, i didnt go right up to ppl fishing for compliments! -.-" btw, some company bosses were also there distributing namecards...networking's part of our lives ya...

Update:

Leechie is back from Johor Premium Outlets with lotsa stuff!!! it was damn crowded...but some good buys as compared with sg prices ;p stay tuned for the pics of my loots ;p

He's ignoring me n doesnt care even if i'm dead...i feel like sleeping for the rest of my life :'( it's only natural tt he would wanna show his best side to the one he likes n only has time n attention for her...he doesnt give a shit abt me!!! :'( i'm better off dead!!! :'(

Loving Memories of Melaka Zoo Nov 2011

2011-12-01T03:08:00.020+08:00

Melaka Zoo is the 4th biggest zoo in Malaysia...the last time that i had ever stepped inside a zoo was when i was in primary school? but i like the concept of this Melaka zoo...where one can really get up close n personal with the animals o.O i like the mini safari in there (check out the above pic of the mini safari)...we took more than 2hrs to cover the entire zoo...good thing tt we went during the earlier part of the day...cos it started to pour in the afternoon...o.O"

If u r there, do try the horse riding ya...it's only RM3 for adults...the last time i rode on a pony was when i was in primary school...lol...but here, they refused to let me ride the pony cos tt's meant for kids only...so clumsy me needed some help to get onto the horse...n i was really nervous during the ride n couldnt stop giggling...lol...then i needed help to get down again...lol...the crowd watching was rather amused by a leechie >.<"

Miniature horse trying to get a piece of leechie...n i thought i'm inedible o.O

Nice habitat for the tiger o.O

The tiger doing his cat-walk o.O

These giraffes made me feel like a dwarf o.O

Cutie spikie porcupine o.O

Stay tuned for more pics taken...

Btw, it's world AIDS day today - as we raise greater awareness of the disease and NOT discriminate the people afflicted with it...

Leechie longs for some warmth in this freezing cold weather...urbanites r cold...my heart is stone-cold :'( n i hate how i'm stuck in the jams on the expressway in the rain...haiz >.<"

My phone is acting weird these days...sometimes there's no sound...Stinktel says i'm eligible to upgrade to buy a new phone in 2 weeks' time...which phone shld i get? o.O

Interesting Quotes:

"Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end." ~ Jeff

"伤心难过掉泪只有自己知道 "

"Stay hungry, stay foolish
The normal routine life, together with the upbringing and education that we have, is stopping us from being hungry and foolish. Being hungry for knowledge and being foolish by making more mistakes in life are the ways to have a complete and successful life.
Just like a baby who is 'hungry' to learn how to walk and 'foolish' to keep trying despite falling many times!"

"One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well.The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.He requested all his neighbors to come over and help him.They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly.Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw.With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing.He would shake it off and take a step up.As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL of the Story:
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick of getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up." ~ Cempaka

Got this from an email...UNIFEM annual Buy To Save event is here...pls do your bit for charity! the less-privileged n ladies-at-risk will definitely appreciate your kindness...

Loving Memories of Malacca Nov 2011

2011-11-28T04:18:00.039+08:00

Yohoo...i'm back!!! but we almost couldnt make it for this trip down to Malacca...cos there were some issues between the travel agent n the coach services company...but i managed to persuade the person-in-charge of the coach services company to arrange our transportation to-and-fro malacca...phew... =.=" i went there with 2 bags n returned with 5 bags...lol ;p

I love the nice & cheap food in Malacca...esp the yummy chicken rice balls n durian chendol...n the warm ppl there =) we went to the same chicken rice ball shop for 2 consecutive days n the boss rems me...n he served us with additional rice balls on the 2nd day although he was running out of rice balls...he was afriad tt i couldnt zzz if i didnt get to eat the rice balls...lol...i'm a v.simple person...nice food makes me happy...i like the simple lifestyle in Malacca...singapore's too complicated...full of complicated ppl n things >.<" too many pretentious ppl around in sg...who judge ppl based on appearance n the bag tt one carries...

Sg's full of shallow ladies who r trying to act atas by scrimping n starving on food n daily necessities to save to buy branded bags so that they wont b looked down by their peers...if u think i have a inferiority complex...then i think these ladies r far more pathetic than me...they thought that ppl wouldnt look down on them just bcos they carry branded bags...what a joke...their speeches n actions juz give them away...tt they r damn far from atas...they r juz cheapo ppl pretending to b atas...lol ;p juz like what i've always said...if a person lacks class...ppl would think tt she's carrying a fako bag even if she were to carry the real branded bag...lol...class is timeless...a classy person can make a fako bag look genuine ;p perhaps this is of the reasons y i like to watch the sun nite 9.15pm show on channel U "Material Queen"...there r sooooooooo many such materialistic ladies around us in sg...who r always thinking of marrying some rich guys...but guess they havent put much thought into why would rich guys be interested in them? ;p

What really annoy me r those cheapo ppl totally lacking in class but who try to act atas n refuse to speak to others...thinking tt they r a class above the others! what a joke...such ppl shld b put in their respective places...=.=" there r alot of v.individualistic ppl around in sg...who r v.self-centred...n who keep thinking of nothing but "Me! Me! Me!" n "what can i get out of this?" n som calculative ppl like to count every single damn thing right down to the v.last cent! gosh -.-" another thing tt i noticed was tt these materialistic ladies love to place their branded bags on chairs...i get the feeling tt they r trying to tell me tt their bags r more worthy of a seat than a human! -.-" n the most superficial question comes in...asking me what's my profession...then they judge me based on what i do...n look down on me simply bcos i'm in a different field...tt's how shallow som ppl can get -.-"

The pasar malam at Jonker Street is a must-go!!! but they only operate from fri to sun...from 6pm till 10pm or midnite...depending on the weather...plenty of interesting stuff there to eat n shop ;p when i was in malacca, the weather tend to b rather hot earlier in the day...then it would pour for abt 2hr or so in the afternoons...tt was when we would go for lunch n shop for the local produce...i bought most of the foodstuff from the famous San Shu Gong shop (the same shop selling the famous durian chendol) and the spicy Nonya stuff from a Bibik shop opposite the stage (where Astro was filming their CNY special...abit early ya?cos it's not even christmas yet -.-") where the owner is a nice Peranakan who will helpfully exchange foreign currency for RM if u need any...(think there is only 1 money changer at Jonker Street but it closes damn early -.-" i hate it when i wanna shop n if i run outta RM -.-") n i bot nonya pineapple tarts n tao siah piah from this shop v.near the stage...saw alot of media cuttings at their shop...the prices might b slightly higher than elsewhere...but i prefer to pay abit more to get something nicer ;p my fren was comparing the prices of pineapple tarts here, there n everywhere...but she ended up buying none...cos she thinks it's still too exp...i'm amused...cos i only paid 16rm for a bottle of pineapple tarts there...think i would need to fork out S$20 for the same bottle in sg...guess some ppl prefer to stinge on food to buy branded bags? n tt would be considered as stretching their $$$ ya? ;p n she didnt buy the cutie strawberry shortcake bedroom slippers which i paid only 10rm for...amused to see her eyeing my slippers...lol ;p i wouldnt deny myself tt little bit of happiness which i can derive by buying myself somthg small n cheap ;p n i shop fast n alot...she hardly bot anythg...she spent alot of time shopping around...only to return with a mousepad n some earrings...i actually thought she went shopping around for a husband? lol ;p i'm not a perfectionist...i dont bother spending so much time trying to find fault with stuff or to look for the perfect thing...cos i know i'm damn far from perfect! i'm only human...i'm sorry if u cant accept me for the person tt i'm! -.-"

Stay tuned for the pics taken at Christ Church, Jonker Street, St Paul Ruins n Melaka Zoo...took a few hundred pics during this trip...guess what? not only is sg a small place...malacca's a small place too...i actually bumped into alex n gary at St Paul's Ruins...they were holidaying in malacca with their spouses =) too bad tt Angeline was busy with her house renovations so i couldnt meet up with her during this trip...but there's always next time ya =) btw, heard from the cab drivers tt hotels in Malacca r mostly fully booked for the weekends...so pls book early if u intend to go there...saw on fb tt quite a few frenz also travelled to Malacca these few days...bro Justin was asking abt my trip...think it's a nice n fun place to bring ur family to for a short trip =)

Latest gossip: one of my guy frenz broke up with his gf recently...i thot it was a on-off-on-and now off again thingy? n now he has suddenly turned into one of the most eligible bachelors around...lol...no names mentioned...otherwise, he'll come n scold leechie...lol ;p dont need to look at me...i'm not into him ;p oh n he didnt wish me happy birthday either =( why r guys so stingy with their bday greetings these days? =.=" crapz...n why am i still single when i'm supposed to know quite a few eligible bachelors eh? =(

He's ignoring me again...after my sarcastic replies to him :'( obviously, he looks down on me n doesnt give a shit abt me! :'( i'm some less-than-nothing worthless trash to him...i have nothing...juz feel like sleeping for the rest of my life :'(

Interesting Quotes:

"‎"I once picked up a woman from a garbage dump and she was burning with fever; she was in her last days and her only lament was: ‘My son did this to me.’ I begged her: You must forgive your son. In a moment of madness, when he was not himself, he did a thing he regrets. Be a mother to him, forgive him. It took me a long time to make her say: ‘I forgive my son.’ Just before she died in my arms, she... was able to say that with a real forgiveness. She was not concerned that she was dying. The breaking of the heart was that her son did not want her. This is something you and I can understand." ~ Mother Teresa
A clean heart is a free heart. Be with your true spirit at all time, be your true self. There is a terrible hunger for love. We all experience that in our lives - the pain, the loneliness... I start my day with love in my heart."

"Developing inner values is much like physical exercise. The more we train our abilities, the stronger they become." ~ Dalai Lama

"In return for your unkindness, I will be kind to you."

"One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well.The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.He requested all his neighbors to come over and help him.They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly.Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw.With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing.He would shake it off and take a step up.As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL of the Story:
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick of getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up." ~ Cempaka

"He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words."

"Say what you want to say when you have the feeling and the chance. My greatest regrets are the things I did not do, the opportunities missed and the things unsaid." ~ Jim Keller

"人不怕不聪明，怕的是有一颗有求的心。
人不怕太积极，怕的是有一颗糊涂的心。
人不怕成就高，怕的是有ㄧ颗高傲的心。
人不怕再失败，怕的是有一颗自卑的心。
人不怕命太好，怕的是有一颗不满的心。
人不怕运太差，怕的是有ㄧ颗比较的心。"

I love interesting architecture...there r many interesting architectural buildings in Malacca...kinda reminds me of Macau...i love Macau! =)

Wooden house at Jonker o.O

The Royal Press

I love windmills =)

Nite view of the clock tower o.O

Don't miss out on the weekend pasar malam at Jonker Walk! plenty of stuff to eat n shop ;p

Astro's stage at Jonker...they were filming their Chinese New Year Special

I like the interesting decor of 88Jonker...

Yummy Assam laksa from 88Jonker...

I love the sago pudding from 88Jonker...

...which unfortunately came with a piece of plastic in the sago pudding -.-" so do exercise caution while eating anything ya o.O"

I miss the yummy chicken rice balls from the shop near the bridge...we had to join the snaking queue in the rain juz to get a table...n the biz is soooooo good that most stuff would b sold out by 3pm!!!

Yummy durian chendol n pineapple tarts at San Shu Gong...check out the cute packaging of the durian chendol ;p

Frenz were asking what i bot...check out some of the stuff tt i dragged back to sg o.O

Material Girl: Love Is A Luxury That I Cant Afford :'(

2011-11-23T03:18:00.030+08:00

"If one really cares for you, he is able to squeeze time for you. No excuses, no lies, no undeliverable promises. 如果一个人真的足够在乎你，那么他总能挤出时间来陪你，没有借口、谎言，没有不兑现的诺言。"

I'm back from cruise...didnt expect to b seasick...but i had v.bad motion sickness...wont b going for another cruise in future! -.-" I was watching the Channel U 9.15pm show "Material Queen" on sun when alot of thoughts came through my mind (well, som ppl like to think tt i'm an airhead...n wonder if airhead me really think anything at all? =.=") the female lead said somthg like: "without love...one can still survive but life can be v.boring...but without money, one cant juz survive on love alone!" n she dreams of marrying someone rich...her fiance in the show is an ugly old toad who is loud but damn wealthy...who buys her whatever luxury items she desires...n to her, someone who is young, handsome, rich, single n is not out of his mind is a miracle n she doesnt believe in miracles...

I cant help but to think abt my pathetic existence in this world...i know he has deleted all my smses (as usual) but silly me kept all the smses i sent him n what he sent me (including all the f swearing smses)...i was reading through all the smses i sent him since half a year ago...n i realized what a silly leech i have been...well, my smses seem more like monologues...with occasional responses from him...juz realized tt some rather polite smses were sent wrongly to me cos of the similarity between her n my names! =( he refused to discuss abt the mkt with me...he would scold me if i were to ask abt the mkt...but in those smses, he was commenting happily on the mkts! double-standards ya???!!! -.-" i didnt realize tt i spent so much time trying to please someone who doesnt give a shit abt me n who is v.occupied with a certain Ms. Lee! :'( many of his responses were mostly irritated n angry...more of like telling me to buzz off! :'( can u see how silly i am? think i'm only some less-than-worthless unworthy shit in his eyes! :'( some trash tt he says he "can only hang out or party with but nothing beyond"...so tt kinda explains the way tt he has been treating me! :'( he puts her on a pedestal n threw me into trash bin...juz like how he deleted all my smses...he would never ever treat her the way that he has treated me!!! :'( "多情男人對一個女人的好，是建立在對另外一個女人的「壞」的基礎上的。" she's his regular sat nite plans...he would devote all his sat nites juz for her!!! they r both ANAL-YSTS...supposedly higher beings who r ideal for each other...unlike mere mortals blue collar workers like us...anyway, i was reading abt the lay-offs on wall-street...how interesting o.O he cant stand my insecurities...anyway, he cant stand annoying leech...it's juz too bad tt my name is not Wen Ching n i'm NOT an ANAL-YST!!! there is nothing wrong...except...the only thing is i care too much abt him! :'( n each time i apologize is cos i give a shit abt him :'( i care too much abt someone who doesnt give a shit abt me! :'( it was unrequitted right from the start...guess he most probably only sees me as a gateway to get to know other gals!!! :'( i'm so silly n foolish to harbour any thoughts of possibilities...i'm so silly to try so hard to try to please someone when i know he would never think of me favorably no matter how hard i try or what i do...cos my name is not Wen Ching n i'm not an anal-yst! it's pointless! I GIVE UP! :'( who can see the loneliness n emptiness in my life n sorrow behind my smile? :'( n nobody understands how hurt n vulnerable i feel! :'(

I'm tired of how i can never please him n how he would nvr view me favorably no matter how hard i try...I GIVE UP!!! :'( i wish him n Ms. Lee well...both anal-ytically perfect...

Btw, the loud n ugly fiance in the show kinda reminded me of the guy i was dating last yr...he came right after me when he set sight upon me from a table away...i tell myself tt i dont believe in love at first sight anymore...he was everything different from me...do opposites really attract? he was divorced with a kid...a chain smoker...a businessman with relatively little education...seemed like he was involved in some shady biz? he looks like a gangster with his hair dyed blonde...told me stories abt how he dealed with gangsters...everything tt i didnt know n which seemed so dangerous n exciting to me o.O he loves the casinos n all forms of gambling...he seemed like the typical bad boy tt Marcus says who gets all the good girls tt he doesnt deserve! he showered me with attention...n said tt i was the only girl tt he was seeing cos he's busy with his biz...but we tend to only go on dates at nite...he would never go out with me to town in broad daylight...he said he was busy with his biz until after retail hours...n we usually watched some slapslick comedy movie tt he wanna watch (which is not my type of movie...leechie being the literature student tends to prefer arty foreign films)...i darent walk or stand close to him cos i always wonder how ppl would question my taste in men if i were to be seen with him as an item...lol...n i would move away whenever he tried to move closer to me...perhaps i was being superficial...but i cant imagine myself kissing such an ugly guy! >.<" he doesnt think Jack Neo's disgression was wrong! n i was not allowed to speak whenever he was on his phone with his frenz...n there was once i waited for hours for him to pick me up n calls n smses went unanswered...i was worried abt his safety...but he claimed tt he left his phone in one of his shops n tt his staff could vouch for him...he has a supersized A380 ego...little did i know i was actually the other woman! :'( during our chats, i realized tt he juz sees me as an object to be conquered...he harbored some less than desirable intentions...which many guys do...but he later found out he could get nowhere with me...i learnt much later on tt he subsequently married his fiancee late last year...a much older lady who seemed willing to pump in $$$ into his biz...well, i realized tt we shouldnt b with someone juz bcos we r afraid of loneliness...it's not fair to the other party...n it's not fair to u...y shld u settle for someone tt u dont really fancy? o.O" btw, if u think tt i'm juz some materialistic n shallow airhead who only goes for rich guys...u r more than wrong! nvm...u can continue to judge me...ur opinions only tell me how u r as a person! -.-"

Guess we r living in a materialistic n superficial society...where one is being constantly judged on every single damn shit! anyway, noticed some weird looks from colleagues after i returned from cruise...perhaps it's due to my ceramic perm or crappy dressing? or more tanned skin? whatever...b my guest...look all u want...i dont give a damn...but r there even ppl who even wanna take a second look at u? o.O recently, my ex-colleague couldnt even recognize me...n she asked me what happened to me now! perhaps, i have become so hideous&ugly&fat&stupid&poor tt she cant even recognize me?! :'( crapz...i juz sat next to her again yest n she still didnt recognize me! =( he cant stand my insecurities...anyway, he cant stand annoying leech...it's juz too bad tt my name is not Wen Ching n i'm NOT an ANAL-YST!!!

Since i'm not blessed with any affection from anyone...i shld juz conc on survival...to make my own $money$! i have nvr dreamt marrying anyone rich...in fact, i used to harbour thoughts of marrying a farmer when i was a kid...we r living in a damn practical n superficial society...where ppl change...feelings change...change is the only constant...so i would rather have something tt i can hold in my hands n to call it mine (i'm sure u can guess what i'm referring to)...rather than some fleeting feelings...yes, $money$ is the most adorable thing in this world!!! a life without love is damn boring...i lead a damn boring life...but i would rather cry with a more than decent lifestyle...rather than to struggle for survival under the illusion of love! my heart is dead...love is nothing but a miracle in fairytales...i dont believe in fairytales anymore...i can only trust what i can hold in my hands! :'( call me shallow n materialistic airhead...but i would rather wipe my tears with a Hermes scarf (well, somthg tt i dont have yet n no plans to buy anytime soon cos i'm not a scarf person...i dont use scarves =.=") n rinse my mouth with champagne! go ahead n scorn me...i know i'm damn pathetic to think this way...but i dont have the luxury of love...love is nothing but a luxury tt i cant afford! :'( who can see the loneliness n emptiness in my life n sorrow behind my smile? :'(

Btw, Leechie is annoyed with ppl who try to sell me all kind of crapz under the branding of "friendship" -.-" btw, i can detect insincerity n sales pitch from a mile away -.-"

This is a damn practical society where most ppl juz wanna make use of u n ur connections to achieve their ends...n they'll drop u like a hot coal if they find tt they cant make use of u...ppl tend to form cliques with their own kinds...so double-standards always apply...so not surprising tt u r looked down upon cos u r NOT an ANAL-YST! but there is a thing known as karma...what goes around comes around...o.O n nobody understands how hurt n vulnerable i feel! :'(

From Adrian: "Analyst this morning flip coin, heads = buy, tails = sell. Coin if drop on floor and roll out of sight = hold / neutral." lol ;p

Sometimes not only do i not understand men...but older women seem to b of a different breed too...they like to make all sorts of assumptions...they think tt since they r much older than u...so they r supposed to have a greater wealth of experience...n make all sorts of ridiculous assumptions abt u...apparently, some think they r of a higher class...supposedly more atas...cos they wear certain brands n carry certain branded bags...n like to look down on u n think tt u r poor cos u dont dress the same way or carry branded bags...what a joke =.=" n they like to think tt u r juz some sweet young thing whom can b easily bullied n they try all diff antics to bully u -.-" c'mon...u seriously need to go get a life...n take a look at the world outside...juz bcos a person is different or younger than u...it doesnt mean tt person is any poorer than u...perhaps, they r still living in their own self-deluded worlds n havent met any young n successful ppl yet? my deepest condolences...lol...i dont need to be older than u to be smarter, richer n prettier than u ya ;p so pls stop making all sorts of silly assumptions =.=" juz cos i wrote abt being some poor blue collar worker in jest? c'mon...u need to acquire a sense of humor too ;p btw, carrying a branded bag to boost one's self-esteem is nothing short of pathetic...i grew outta tt during my teenage years ;p but humanity is a quality which is clearly lacking in some urbanites -.-"

My poor Cosco ship is juz like a jilted lover...sob...sob... :'(

PS:
Saw a couple of searches regarding my leechie hair...apologies that i'm not gonna reveal the names of the stylists n hair salons tt i visit...for a couple of reasons...firstly, for safety reasons cos i dont wish to invite stalkers...secondly, i dont wish them to be so swamped with appointments tt even i have probs fixing appts in future...so let's juz put it this way...names of the salons tt have provided me with complimentary sessions would still be mentioned...other than tt...perhaps u can guess the locations based on the pics of the salons/washrooms tt i took my pics in...lol ;p

I'm away to Malacca...wait for me to return o.O

Interesting Quotes:

"Coco Chanel, one of the most powerful and fascinating female entrepreneurs of the 20th century was born to a poor family and raised by nuns in an orphanage. Not to be beaten by what seemed to be the lack of a bright future, she took on a variety of jobs, working relentlesssly with a never-say-die-attitude. It is this empowering spirit that inspired the Arthur Capel, an Englishman who would change Coco's life forever by helping her set up her first boutique which was to become one of the most famous fashion brands in the world. LESSON: Each time something inside you breaks apart and you feel like quitting, tell yourself NEVER GIVE UP!"

"When you have a wife and you still miss someone, Choose the 2nd one. Because you wont be missing the someone if you love your wife more."

"女人就好比梨，外甜内酸，吃梨的人从来不知道梨儿的心是酸的，因为吃到最后就把心给扔了，所以男人从来不懂女人的心。
男人好比洋葱，想要看到男人的心，就需要一层一层去剥，但是你在剥的过程中会不断的流泪，但当你剥到最后时。。。＂他妈的＂你才知道原来洋葱是没有心的！
哈哈哈，笑一个，然后用你甜美的笑容去面对接下来的日子！"

"人生就像一场舞会, 教会你最初舞步的人却未必能陪你走到散场.." ~ Lawrence

"Roses (heart) knows it blossom with nice fragrance and appreciated by many but least it knows many fear to touch it due to its thorns (ego).
Always keep a balance in life for today and tomorrow never can be same story" ~ Cempaka

"Life is kinda like a song with a beautiful melody but with messed up lyrics but that doesn’t mean it can’t still be a hit." ~ Jason

"You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of." ~ Jim Rohn

"Forgiveness is to step out of the past, stop dwelling if things would have been any different..learning to accept it fully and move on.."

"伤心难过掉泪只有自己知道 "

Ouchie :'(

O.o

Hauls from H&M Versace, Luxasia Private Sale & Shiseido Private Sale

2011-11-20T06:28:00.022+08:00

Ppl actually q from 8pm the previous day for this H&M Versace collection...i only went near noon...but made it into the q (the q was closed after me)...but the sad thing was i was distracted by a damn long winded mkting call from Stinktel...so i was left with only 1min to shop after this silly phone call! >.<" i only managed to grab 2 items...but many ladies kept eyeing what i was holding n kept asking if i was going to buy it...i got annoyed with this frequent bugging tt i went to make payment for these 2 items before shopping around n rushing off for my hair appt =.="

Btw, Leechie is annoyed with ppl who try to sell me all kind of crapz under the branding of "friendship" -.-" btw, i can detect insincerity n sales pitch from a mile away -.-"

MY Versace dress that many ladies were eyeing...o.O

This pic doesnt do my pretty Versace skirt any justice >.<"

Posing with the H&M Versace paper bag...lol ;p

Spent 1.5k at Luxasia Private sale...

Spent the least during this round of Shiseido Private sale...only bought these items together with a trolley luggage...lol ;p

Cutie Hello Kitty stuff from Watsons ;p

Ceramic perm...but i look worse after the ceramic perm :'(

Update:

Attended kappa martial arts class...it's v.different from the usual kickboxing class in the gyms...it's more of street-fighting or street-defense...my leechie mum had a shock when she came over to watch...so i told her not to come for future sessions...but i went home with a bloodied kneecap...n i had a photoshoot the next day >.<" it was the first time tt i had to take a kick in the stomach...i was rather unprepared for this session which involving falling onto cement...we were told to get ready to fall on ur back/butt...but my natural human defense reaction was to fight any fall...so i ended up scratching my instructor...i even tried to grab her neck n hair to resist the fall...she ended up falling onto the cement together with me...but i fell on my knee (which kinda explained my bloodied kneecap)...doubt she was too amused...but it was my natural defense mechanism at work...the master watching nearby was more amused though...lol...pretty rough class i guess...i didnt expect to fall so many times...my leechie mum told me to finish up the sessions n to switch to a more gentle kickboxing class...o.O

It aint easy to go for other kickboxing n yoga classes with the wound on my kneecap...haiz...anyway, my body is damn inflexible so the yoga class was a torture for me...esp when i watched the others stretch n bend into various contortions o.O i couldnt even balance properly manz >.<"

Juz went to pick up my birthday pressie from New Brand organic green tea...contrary to popular belief...or how someone who has a LOW opinion of leechie likes to think...i dont take alcohol 7 days a week...i drink 2 cups of green tea daily from mon-fri...i'm usually out on sat n sun...but no coffee for me...it keeps me up late at nite...unless i'm served coffee in some homes where it's not polite to reject the host...i like the refreshing taste of this organic green tea...nice =) this organic green tea is sold at Watson's...

Thanks Oriental Hair Solutions for the complimentary scalp treatment at Jean Yip Loft

A Matter of Self-Worth...

2011-11-17T03:18:00.022+08:00

For all the shallow guys out there who claim tt they dont judge ppl based on appearance...who the hell r u lying to? ;p

Many thanks to all those who refuse to help me...

Som ppl dont realize tt he treats me like shit n makes me feel unworthy even to talk to him...he obviously places a certain Ms. Wen Ching on a high pedestal n a leech deep hidden underground or in the trash bin...rem the phrase "out of sight...out of mind"??? -.-"

Well, when he saw tt i mentioned a certain Ms. Lee's name...he became polite to me all of a sudden...v.untypical of him...perhaps someone doesnt want me to mention tt someone is damn rude to me n shld consider anger management! =.=" then he tried to put me down again juz now...so i let him continue thinking tt i'm juz some stupid airhead...but he clearly forgot tt he commented previously tt i'm pretty...n accused me of putting words into his words...i told him tt i have integrity n wont deny what i have said...n said tt he muz hav regretted commenting previously tt i have a pretty face? but i asked him not to worry cos dont think i'll tell other ladies he said tt...well, he was speechless...perhaps Ms. Lee has not seen the real him? how he accused me of putting words into his mouth when he was the one who said it n clearly forgotten!!! n he keeps saying tt i'm accusing him of ignoring me...well, he doesnt care if he ignores me...how can a fact be an accusation? =( i apologized for having a good memory, esp of stuff tt i shldnt rem, when i'm only a silly leech...n also apologized tt sometimes i forgot tt im supposed to b airhead cos i was talking to som v.smart ppl...n thank him for helping me forget momentarily tt im supposed to b airhead! when i told him not to take offence of my candidness...a sour plum replied of course not...cos i hang around with CEOs afterall...lol ;p well, som ppl juz love to look down on a leech!!! -.-" anyway ms. Lee n him make a gd pair together...lol ;p he has a certain double-standard cos he doesnt allow me to ask questions abt the mkt when he discusses them happily with her...guess he looks down on me cos i'm NOT an ANAL-YST!!! perhaps he shld juz stop looking around n juz settle for her? esp when she's so clingy to him...lol ;p

Since i'm not blessed to have affection from anyone...it's safer for me to focus on making $$$ for myself...at the v.least, i can safely say tt i'm not like other female peers...who r trying to make $$$ to afford branded bags to win their peers' approval...tt's way too pathetic...btw, i was telling my leechie mum tt some sales assistants tend to look down on me when i shopped at their boutiques...until they saw what i bot during payment...no point telling them tt i can afford to buy everything in the shop including them when i have no desire to!!! -.-"

"If one really cares for you,he is able to squeeze time for you.No excuses,no lies,no undeliverable promises. 如果一个人真的足够在乎你，那么他总能挤出时间来陪你，没有借口、谎言，没有不兑现的诺言。"

He only sees my insecurities n nothing else!!! Nobody appreciates a leechie! :'(

Silly me :'(

Ouchie :'(

Guess he thinks the same way too :'(

This is from Collin:

"I write because I care (as a fellow human being who have gone through the SAME pain, many times).

1) SELF-WORTH: I know its DIFFICULT, but still, remember just because he doesn't appreciate U doesn't mean U r not good. He just don't know how to appreciate U for who U are. Someone else BETTER WILL. U just need to find (& work to find him). Also no being is perfect, if he truly loves u, he should embrace your vulnerabilities as much as your strength, come on, if the man is so perfect, ask him to marry an Angel/god instead (sorry).

2) PEOPLE WHO ADD VALUE to your life. Adding value means being THERE for u when you are weak, understand, empathize AND pull you up. Not DROP a rock on u when you are low & down. They don't judge u, they ACCEPT and EMBRACE u. Those who do so like (u know who...a certain Ms. Kitty), DROP them (I did this after 2010) Life is too short. I want to spend more time with people who like & think like me, not those who don't or even SUCK or drop ROCKS on me.

3) GOAL. Everyone has goal/dream in life. I believe you have it too. Focus your energy on your Goal. Don't let the MONKEYS tell u you can't. Don't need to prove to the monkeys, don't need to let them know. Let them laugh, let them think you are "foolish", "useless", but u slowly MOVE towards your dream. (in the first place, u should have dropped the monkeys) Cheers Remember I WILL be here for you (as a fellow human being)"

Attended a most interesting talk by Dr. Low Lee Yong, CEO of MHC...learnt abt the importance of integrity...which not everyone has...o.O

Update:
H&M Versace collection nearly sold out by noon...i only managed to grab 2 items...all thx to the silly sinktel gal who called me...i was left with only 1min to shop by the time she finished her damn long-winded mkting call...damn irritating!!! -.-"

Where is that someone special? :'(

This is love...something which is a luxury that i dont have the chance to experience :'(

Be My Own Princess...

2011-11-08T06:08:00.050+08:00

The tiara that i bought myself...

Check out my bday cake which i designed myself ;p took me abt an hour to decorate it o.O

It's my birthday today...n yet...i'm tearing...feeling upset... :'( i was not happy...i'm not happy :'( anyway, i bought myself a tiara...someone who bought me a tiara 3 yrs ago is no longer where he was...anyway, nobody loves me...i shall be my own princess...

Told him tt it would b nice if i can hear a simple but sincere happy bday from him...after he ignored me as usual after i shared with him tt i was thrilled tt a certain mr.rogers actually rems my birthday...but he still doesnt want to wish me happy bday n he scolded me instead n asked me not to sms him!!! :'( how nice! i wonder if he has ever considered going for anger management juz like those angry birds? =.=" after fuming at me...he says he doesnt need anger management...n tt he's usually happy but lost patience with me...so i let him win n told him tt maybe i shld consider emotions management =.=" he doesnt understand y i'm feeling so upset n emo...n thinks tt i'm venting my unhappiness cos he didnt respond to my sms...whatever tt i say r juz either bullshit or excuses to him...i think he didnt believe me...n he doesnt believe me now...n he has nvr believed me...in short, he doesnt trust me! he doesnt even trust me enough to wish me a simple happy birthday! :'( he says tt i'm accusing ppl n juz playing victim by demeaning myself...n then i'll apologize n the cycle repeats...he's tired to explain...n finds it fustrating...but he doesnt understand how he makes me feel tt i'm unworthy of his time...i'm juz unimportant anyway...i apologize each time cos i give a shit abt him...but does he care how i feel? =( he thought i wanted to celebrate my birthday with him n asked me what's my problem? he's the one who's thinking too muchie...i didnt ask him to spend my bday with me =.=" n when all i wanted to hear was a simple 2 words from him ---> "Happy Birthday" but yet he refuses to say it...i would gladly wish any stranger tt i juz met a happy birthday...tt's juz plain humanity...perhaps he still treats me as an alien...die die he still refuses to wish me happy birthday but scolded me on my bday...he's really made it damn memorable...this was the worst bday i ever had...thx manz! :'( he makes me feel tt i'm unworthy even to have a simple birthday greeting from him! this was the first time i actually asked someone to wish me happy birthday...n i was rejected on top of all these shit! he doesnt understand how hurt i feel! :'( crapz...i didnt realize tt he was damn busy yest...he could hav told me earlier ya...i cant read his mind...he only said he had a bad day...i shld hav been more understanding towards him after he had a bad day...but still...somehow i feel tt he doesnt trust me n was venting his fustrations on me :'( he flipped around n said tt i'm throwing accusations at him when i'm merely sharing my feelings with him...i'm sick n tired...tt's what happens when someone doesnt trust n doesnt give a shit abt u!!! i'm damn sure he would never ever do anything remotely like this to a certain Ms. Lee!!! i give up!!! :'(

"If one really cares for you,he is able to squeeze time for you.No excuses,no lies,no undeliverable promises. 如果一个人真的足够在乎你，那么他总能挤出时间来陪你，没有借口、谎言，没有不兑现的诺言。"

Feeling emo... :'( humans r too complicated to understand...i love dogs n dogs love me...tt's much easier! >.<" u can juz take it tt doggies love bitchie leechie :'(

I was told: "U shld save e best part of u for e person who deserve u:)"
U know someone is for keeps when "He likes the real you
You've got no make-up on and you're slobbed out on the sofa in an old pair of jogging pants and a T-shirt that probably used to be white. And he still says he fancies you like mad. Now that's a good sign."

"不管你的条件有多差，总会有个人在爱你；不管你的条件有多好，也总有个人不爱你”，在对的时间遇到对的人，这是一种缘分，而这种缘分恰恰需要耐心等待，需要经历种种挫败才能遇见，在你的世界中总会有个人比想象中爱你。" ~ 张爱玲

I may look like a normal human but Nobody understands how upset i'm...until they see me babbling nonsense when drunk...i can say tt i cant take champagne with vodka shots...but he doesnt know tt he's the real reason y i got drunk...y i'm sooooo damn upset :'( but i'm not gonna tell him tt...tt'll only give him more reason to look down on me more...on top of his low perceptions of a lowly leech! :'( ppl try to console me by telling me tt i'm so pretty n there will b no shortage of admirers...true...but do they know what i really really want? :'( i know som gals would kill to b in my glamorous shoes...but nobody ever sees the loneliness n sadness in my life :'( i'm juz a simple gal...who longs for some warmth on planet earth... :'(

Thanks Attica for the lovely bottle of Moet&Chandon champagne for my birthday celebration =)

Hanging out at Attica 2...

Our champagne bottles...

The gals who stayed late with me...

Btw, i met J 2 yrs ago the day before my bday...i always tell him tt our friendship is a bday present for me...

Thanks everyone for the lovely birthday greetings n bday pressies...think there were abt 300+ bday greetings on my fb wall...i still havent had time to thank each n everyone of u...thx The White Rabbit for the nice complimentary bottle of wine last fri nite...a fren described it as the best wine tt he tasted =) topic of the nite seemed to b on property/estate management...cos they seem to either have worked in this area or some sorta relevant experience? i know nuts abt this...the interesting thing is i almost did this course in uni...but i was really thankful tt i did real estate finance instead...btw, i still have my financial calculator with me...lol ;p

At The White Rabbit...

Posing with the wine at The White Rabbit

German cake from Taka basement...

Together with pretty flower cake from Ashley Isham cafe...

Viola...putting the 2 cakes together...this is my self-designed Bday cake ;p v.unique ya?

Had dinner at Michelangelo's with my leechie mum...but we wont b going back there anytime soon...the pasta was too creamy for our liking...n check this out!!! there was no water coming out from one tap in the ladies while the other sink looked so badly clogged like this...n no one cleared it...gosh >.<"

At Heinekein event at Velvet...this was the first time tt i visited Velvet since their renovation...playground for the rich n famous...lol...

Airasia sucks....they r supposed to refund the credits back into my account...but now no record can be found for both my booking n case no....how wonderful....what a great way to fly =.=" they ended the call with somthg like fly with us the next time or enjoy flying with us or somthg to tt effect....well, at the back of my mind...i feel like telling them...after i get this matter resolved...tt will b my first n most probably last time flying with them...-.-" the agent is even worse...told me to go call airasia myself...well done! >.<"

Hottest topic of the day: how noble art thou? ;p
Doesnt matter if u dont get the joke...those in the know will understand their pain or joy...depending on which side they r on...i'm not noble...n dont intend to be...if u get my drift ;p nvm if u dont get my cheeky take on things ;p
Ok...after being noble for a day...how gent-le art thou? ;p

Dear readers, i'm in the Biotherm Skin Ergetic Bloggers Contest...pls go to this page (http://www.cozycot.com/biotherm-skin-ergetic-bloggers-contest) u can find me at the bottom of the page, 2nd from the left...pls click "like" on my tab and click "confirm" to vote for me!!!thx so muchie!!! =)

Update:

i muz b mad...i actually spent $1.5k at luxasia sales after queueing for 1.5hr to make payment!!! o.O" i literally dragged all the stuff home...but the plastic bags broke...n i feel so hapless :'( found out tt my skin bruises v.easily...got a big bruise on my hand from all the dragging =(

Brought mum for facial on sat...n realized tt som therapists can b v.nosey...she first commented how small my hands were...n said som chinese proverbs abt how small hands can catch treasures? then she kept pressing various parts of my face n commented on how firm my skin is (excuse me...considering all the exp stuff tt i put on my face...there would really b a prob if my skin is not firm -.-") n what was really annoying was the loud music they were blasting in the adjacent section...so loud n annoying tt i couldnt zzz at all...excuse me, if i really wanna listen to clubbing music...i could have gone to a club/bar instead of the salon ya -.-"

I juz learn somthg new: "You know that in SG law, when a man expressed vulgarities to a woman, it is convictable in the court of law provided the woman enforces it." Well, someone swore at me n pointed his middle finger in front of me!!! n i'm pretty sure he's going to deny n twist his words again! -.-"

Know how the gal tt he's besotted with looks like...well, silly me feels so ugly n stupid...it's time to move on...love is a luxury tt i dont have the chance to experience...in this world, there is nothing more adorable than $$$...call me materialistic n practical...doesnt matter...juz treat me as an ugly, stupid, shallow, materialistic n superficial airhead...i'm the silliest leech in this entire universe :'( but u dont need me to tell u what i think of u!!! there is this thing called karma...

A damn good quote!!!
"Of all the gifts you can give a friend, the truthful sharing of who you are, and where you are mentally, emotionally, and spiritually is the most beautiful and valuable gift of all. It’s this honest sharing that serves as the thread that sews a friendship into the warm quilt it can be, to wrap around you when life feels cold and unforgiving." ~ Sandra Kring

What's even worse is an ugly person with an even uglier heart!!! n i juz hate how some ppl who stole from me...juz rem tt karma's gonna visit u for whatever tt u stole from me! some old woman thinks tt i'm stupid enough to believe whatever lies she told me...but i'm not as stupid as what she thinks...sometimes juz a small amt of $$$ is more than enough to show the greed in som ppl...i'm thankful to be able to see her real character underneath tt branded tee n bag...lol...

love letter to myself ♥
nobody loves a leechie...so i can only write a love letter to myself...he says i'm talking to myself...n asked me not to sms him when i'm talking to myself! :'(

Wish me a Happy Birthday...clip from fb fren...
n when all i wanted to hear was a simple 2 words from him ---> "Happy Birthday" but yet he refuses to say it...i would gladly wish any stranger tt i juz met a happy birthday...tt's juz plain humanity...die die he still refuses to wish me happy birthday but scolded me on my bday...he makes me feel tt i'm unworthy even to have a simple birthday greeting from him! this was the first time i actually asked someone to wish me happy birthday...n i was rejected on top of all these shit! he doesnt understand how hurt i feel! :'(

:'(

Deepavali Photoshoot 2011

2011-10-30T03:08:00.032+08:00

Who can see the sorrow behind my smile? n the fatigue n sadness in my eyes? :'(

I juz read abt how happiness is a skill...n we can train ourselves to be happy...well, the honest but sad truth is...i obviously lack this skill...i'm damn far from happy n i dunno how to be happy...i dont even know what makes me happy...anyway, nobody gives a shit abt me...so juz let me be... :'( som ppl r juz waiting for me to self-destruct n kill myself anyway so tt they can laugh their teeth off!!! karma will catch up with u ppl one day...i may not be around to witness it though...but others will!!!

Did somthg different this deepavali...brought my parents down to the studio to take family pics =) we had a hard time trying to locate the venue...so we were left with only half an hour by the time we reached...instead of the original 1 hour =.=" anyway, the photographer was quite humorous n everythg was done...we opt for a package of 20 pics...shall share with u som of the pics taken =) btw, i did my makeup myself...considering tt i didnt undergo any professional makeup training...i dont think i did tt badly ya ;p

Went over to frenz' place next...frenz' mum got their maid to prepare abalone porridge...she was like..."it's deepavali after all" lol ;p n even their family dog was fed abalone...blessed dog! o.O" talking abt dogs...Patches was trying to stand on his hind legs...but found tt he couldnt balance well n had to crawl onto me...he was trying to lean onto me for support o.O" he has a v.bad habit of disturbing me to get me to open the door...but each time he would discover tt there wasnt anythg fanciful outside n came promptly back in again...he did tt several times...bet he hasnt heard abt the story of the boy who cried wolf! -.-" anyway, i saw fren has a new doggie soft toy n used tt toy to disturb patches...he would look intently n follow whichever way i waved the toy doggie ;p but we had to hide the toy doggie in the end...otherwise, patches would bite tt toy =.=" y do doggies love leechie so muchie? well, maybe cos i'm bitch-y? lol ;p

look...who's that? o.O

Riley...the blessed dog who was fed abalone ;p

Patches typical look o.O

Patches looking bored =.="

Check out my leechie collection of Hello Kitty and My Melody ;p

Who can see the sorrow behind my smile? n the fatigue n sadness in my eyes? :'( I know my gaze look abit weird in some of the above pics...cos the contact lens tt i was wearing were irritating my eyes badly...haiz x.X" btw, before u open ur mouth to bitch abt me n my looks...a juz gentle reminder tt whatever crapz u say aint gonna worth a thing if u dont look better than me ;p however, if u look like Lin Chiling...b my guest n bitch all u want! ;p it's juz like som gals who like to brandish their Prada bags to conceal their inferiority complex...lol...btw, if a person lacks class...any branded bag would look fako on tt person ;p oops...sorry, did i say the wrong thing? oh...i'm supposed to be the one with serious inferiority complex issues ya...lol ;p what do i know...i'm juz a stupid airhead in ur eyes ;p but unlike some gals, i dont need to waste my time trying to earn $ to spend on branded bags to win peers' approval ;p anyway, for those gals who like to copy my dressing n style...go ahead n b my guest...u can try...but try harder...cos i'm the one n only leechie ;p

Tears rolled down my leechie face as i read abt Taiwanese singer Selina's marriage...in contrast to CoCo Lee's extragavant wedding, Selina had to wear pressure suit underneath her wedding gown, pressure gloves n sneakers...n she couldnt stand nor sit for too long...i could imagine how many guys would have shun a burnt victim...i was really touched to read how her lawyer husband stood by her...that's love i guess...somthg tt i dont have the luxury to experience...n how many ppl can understand n put up with my insecurities? nobody understands me :'(

A damn good quote!!!
"Of all the gifts you can give a friend, the truthful sharing of who you are, and where you are mentally, emotionally, and spiritually is the most beautiful and valuable gift of all. It’s this honest sharing that serves as the thread that sews a friendship into the warm quilt it can be, to wrap around you when life feels cold and unforgiving." ~ Sandra Kring

Pls rem before judging me!

How true :'(

Where is my soulmate? o.O

Update:

Som ppl juz wanna make use of me...n it's pretty obvious tt som ppl r juz humoring me n lying to me...well, i'm not so stupid like what u would like to believe...i'm a lie-detector...ur lies r juz insulting ur own intelligence...not mine! -.-" juz bcos i look like an airhead doesnt necessarily mean i have to be one! =.=" btw, carrying a branded bag doesnt make u classy...ur speech n cheapo n stingy behavior r juz dead-giveaways of what's lacking...oops...did i juz say the wrong thing again? ;p but my leechie mum did mention abt how these ladies juz look like one of the many many working ladies from Shenton Way...v.pedestrian...n she said tt if u wanna stand out...dont carry a branded bag in Raffles Place ;p som old single ladies still think tt they r a class above the rest n r only interested in guys in certain professions or who own a car...well, what makes u think those guys would b interested in a superficial person like u? ;p there r plenty of sweet young things walking around...carrying branded bags too...what makes u think u r much more desirable than them? lol ;p

I didnt expect the flood situation in bangkok to get this bad when i paid for my bangkok trip...the date of travel is getting nearer n nearer...but it's still damn badly flooded...i really dunno if i shld still go as planned or postpone it to a slightly later date >.<" i posted asking if i shld still go for my bangkok trip...n my dear fb frenz were poking fun of me...some of the comments include:

"Unless u like rowing the boat alot? ^_^"

"a once a life time experience...go!!!"

"ya n come back to tell u guys how i row the float across chao praya river eh? =.="" ~ leechie

"And maybe u get kissed by a very big fish that swim next to yr boat???haha"

"It wont b a fish tt's gonna kiss u...a snake is more likely...even the alligators have escaped from the zoo!" ~ my leechie mum

"Rowrow row a boat.. gently down the stream"

" i suggest $120 to buy a scuba suit."

"I think all of BKK is under water, unless you want to experience Venice in SEA, I would not advice going to BKK at all, temple or otherwise."

"Go experience the flood, I'm sure there are many things to learn from it, personal, business, leisure ;-)"

love letter to myself ♥
nobody loves a leechie...so i can only write a love letter to myself...he says i'm talking to myself...n asked me not to sms him when i'm talking to myself! :'(

Frenz were doubting tt i can read chinese...well, i still havent read thru the entire 80 lines here...well, i can only read 10 lines at one go n sometimes, i need to guess whatever tt's being written o.O" well, maybe u can guess tt i can click better with english-speaking ppl o.O speaking too muchie chinese can drive me nuts! >.<"

獻給自己的80句生活小語錄

1、取悅男人不如取悅自己。只取悅自己的女人注定可以傾倒世人。

2、愛一個人，不是一輩子的事。愛一個人，是一個階段的事。

3、有些人，有些事，一時錯過，就是一世……

4、俗女總有俗女的可愛，雅氣太過，市場前景總不可觀。

5、人都是思變的動物，天仙美眷也留不住完整一世的愛！

6、有些東西，就是看上去挺美，比如昔日的戀人……

7、感覺，是年輕人才玩得起的東西。男女之間，最昂貴的不是玩錢，是玩感覺。

8、林黛玉其實代代常有，那是女孩子的通性。賈寶玉是可遇難求，那是男人們的神話。

9、當代出不了林黛玉，因為，女人遇不上賈寶玉這樣的惜花人。

10、人們眼裡，男人的自私是種「可惡」，女人的自私是種「可愛」。

11、沒有錯誤可以永垂不朽，永垂不朽的是人反反覆覆念叨錯誤的一顆心。

12、一見鍾情，靠的也是出色的外貌。但凡一個人說「我不喜歡一見鍾情式的故事」，多半代表這個人，不是帥男美女。

13、女人，不要記性太好。回憶越多的女人幸福越少。

14、戀愛中的女孩子常犯的一個錯誤：把分手當成是索要愛的手段！

15、聰明的女人，常有女人在追，男人的愛，他會動心，但不會痴心。

16、人生最大一種痛，不是失敗，而是沒有經歷自己想要經歷的一切。

17、二十歲時失戀不可怕，可怕的是三十歲之後才開始失戀。

18、很多女人的「愛」都是睡出來的，也許一開始愛不到如火如荼，一旦獻身，便生生死死唸唸不忘。

19、學著「自私」，是女人擺脫麻煩的前提。

20、年輕不必言「悔」，但年輕時所有的「悔」都會趕在年老時上門收債的。

21、愛得絕情才不會愛得絕望。

22、學不會適度地「絕情」，那就永遠得不到真正完滿的「真情」！

23、多情男人對一個女人的好，是建立在對另外一個女人的「壞」的基礎上的。

24、多情，是男人俘獲女人的必殺技。多情，也是男人遊走情場名正言順的理由。

25、人生最大的貴人，永遠是自己。

26、好命女孩都有好心腸。

27、壞女人引人好奇，好女人令人想到「珍藏」。

28、讓世界低頭，是一種霸氣！讓自己放手，也是一種魄力！

29、不用伎倆去戰勝別人，要用氣量去征服別人。

30、情債難償，人情債更難償。

31、從負面去想人，熱心腸也涼下來。從正面去想人，冷心腸也熱起來。

32、男人要想俘獲女人的心，一定不能穿得比她差。女人要想捕獲女人的心，至少不能穿得比她好！

33、對待異性，男人女人都是喜歡帶有危險的情慾誘惑。對待同性，男人女人都不允許天下人有負他（她）的威脅！

34、女人，永遠只能心平氣和地與比自己更倒霉的女人交往。

35、人情歸人情，事情歸事情。人情事情混為一談的人，做不了大事情！

36、謊話編到最後，總會遇上測謊儀的！

37、撒完一個謊，總需要更多更大的謊言不斷地往裡投入來自圓其說。

38、謊言永遠不是獨立的，如同吸毒，總會越說越上癮。

39、不肯吃小虧的人，是要吃大虧的。

40、理直也不要氣壯，得理也要饒人。

41、上等人成龍成鳳，次等人攀龍附鳳，三等人游龍戲鳳，下等人舞龍舞鳳。

42、成功者成功的要素不在於強幹的能力，而在於一顆容得下世界的心。

43、男人愛天長地久，也愛曾經擁有……不是男人花心，而是男人渴望全權佔有！

44、一個男人，有愛的時候是天使，無愛的時候是魔鬼。

45、青澀的女子，面對心儀的男子，會努力裝得「複雜」，她用神秘感引他一探究竟。聰明的女人，面對心愛的男人，會變得「簡單」，她明白了用愛還原最真實的本我。

46、聰明的女人被男人當成愛人，太聰明的女人被男人當成對手。

47、女人把一個男人當成哥們的前提往往是：這個男人不太討厭，條件也不太差勁，可不一定有進一步發展的空間……

48、一段愛有多傷人，就代表曾經它有多動人。

49、不平庸的女人才能獲得男人不平凡的垂青！

50、戀愛中，太過坦白不見得是好事。

51、一個男人，一次次的艷遇屢屢得手，會養成習慣：他要時刻活在艷遇中！

52、沒有女人天生是女強人。成為女強人，多半是因為身邊有個「孩子」般的男人。

53、男人都是長不大的孩子，當他真的愛上一個女人時，會從心底裡生出依賴感。

54、沒有女人天生想當女強人，但凡女強人，大多是被逼出來的。因為對方不夠強，所以要求你要挑起所有的擔子！

55、「壞男人」一定要有好容貌，否則，他不配做壞男人，不配做女人心中的壞男人。

56、一個心中有愛的女孩子，能夠把男人身上所有的「壞」都自我加工成「好」！

57、二十幾歲的女人開始嚮往安定、嚮往婚姻，但二十幾歲的男人只希望能夠多多認識一些不錯的女人……

58、女人，不害怕一段關係的結束，只害怕愛的結束。

59、男人都忘不掉那些差一點就得到但卻始終沒有真正得到過的女人。

60、「家庭戰爭」是一種很好的排毒工序，發洩過後，人的心境會寬了許多。

61、女人的一生不只是為婚姻而準備的，那個名叫「丈夫」的男人未必可保你一生的美滿！

62、長得很漂亮是運氣，長得很不漂亮是晦氣，長得不很漂亮是福氣。

63、女人的美麗是資產，而非資本。

64、女人的美，不是美給男人看的，是美給女人看的。

65、漂亮女人擁有天下是應當應分，不漂亮的女人奪取天下是實力超群。

66、生活，靠的不是視覺，而是感覺。

67、女人最先衰老的從來不是容貌，而是那份不顧一切的闖勁！

68、先學會從眾，再學會與眾不同。

69、所謂美女，大都是化妝品的奴隸。

70、女人，愛自己就要讓自己穿得好！女人，愛自己就要讓自己從內到外都穿得好！

71、一個女人被誇讚漂亮是尋常，一個女人被誇讚性感是榮譽。漂亮女人總是敵不過性感女人。

72、能力，是女人最極致的性感！

73、獨立不是女人向男人宣戰，僅僅是自我尊重。

74、只有做強勢的女人，才能擁有強勢的命運！

75、女人，永遠把男人「錢的付出」當成是「愛的付出」！

76、讓男人累心的女人必定美貌，讓女人累心的男人一定多金。

77、讓女人擁有好脾氣，男人得有好資本。

78、做男人是體力活，做女人是心思活。

79、有智慧的女人，讓人看起來特別美麗動人。

80、有自信，有信心的女人是可愛又勇敢的。

~~ Johnnie Walker The Blacklist Party at Powerhouse ~~

2011-10-30T02:28:00.027+08:00

My leechie entourage arriving at Powerhouse...Terence's missing from this pic cos he came late...

At the door

Fun at the photobooth with Caroline

All by myself...

This Johnnie Walker Blacklist party happened to coincide with an early birthday celebration for me =) went down with a group of frenz...the vip section was really cool ya =) thought tt it was cool tt i was recognized by som of the ppl attending this event...

Terence came by abit later...i was amused by the pic of us at the beach party tt brian sent him...terence actually thought tt he would be required to appear in swimming gear which was why he didnt wanna go then...he didnt realize tt it was at a club until he saw our pic...lol...so i told terence to take more pics to show brian what he miz out on at this Blacklist party ;p

Joel was saying tt he kinda understand why i dont wanna settle down cos i wanna party on! gosh...that's the biggest misconception abt leechie manz! -.-" i'm tired...i long for more stability n i wanna settle down...but i value my freedom...i hate ppl trying to control me -.-" i admit tt there r leechie admirers...but there isnt anyone special tt i wanna settle down with right now...affinity...or rather the lack of it...is the real reason! haiz...where is my soulmate? =.="

Frenz asked me to take more pics...so here they r ;p

Posing at various spots at Powerhouse

At the Blacklist Vip section with Caroline n Siobhan

Terence n Caroline...with leechie in the background...lol ;p

With DJ Acee from Switzerland =)

View from the Blacklist vip section o.O

Thanks Johnnie Walker for the lovely early birthday celebration! ♥

Terence alerted blur leechie to these pics taken by Plushasia...u can find other party pics of The Blacklist party from http://www.plushasia.com/media_photo/14944

leechie after hair spa at Kim Robinson...it was really relaxing...n my hair smells so herbal n nice tt ppl were asking me what fragrance i was using! =)

Update:

I had a boring Halloween...didnt go out anywhere...juz attended my cousin's wedding dinner at Goodwood Park Hotel...went straight home after the wedding dinner n miz out on all the fun -.-" n i still havent had the chance to wear the witch hat tt i bot for Halloween -.-"

leechie at cousin's wedding...

I Waited For Him For 3 Years Only For Him To Tell Me He Has Married A White Lady: What Do I Do?

2011-10-28T06:28:00.003+08:00

Wanna share this interesting article with u...abt how some guys juz love to lead u on...n leave u hanging onto thin air...when there is no possibility...nothing at all! :'(

(http://ezinearticles.com/?I-Waited-For-Him-For-3-Years-Only-For-Him-To-Tell-Me-He-Has-Married-A-White-Lady:-What-Do-I-Do?&id=6633437)

"I Waited For Him For 3 Years Only For Him To Tell Me He Has Married A White Lady: What Do I Do?
By Francis Nmeribe

There is nothing to do other than moving on with your life. Situations like this are why we are teaching that people should date many people of the opposite sex without sexual intercourse. It is wrong to hang on waiting for a man or girl who is pursuing another thing in their lives more important than getting married to you. It is not right to wait for anybody to finish school, to return from abroad, to finish learning a trade and whatever excuses for which someone would have to hang on to wait while the other party is busy with something else.

The right approach is to keep all your relationships open and only commit at an appropriate time. Moral relationship experts have been shouting on the pages of social media groups and other media that people should date without sexual intercourse. Many people who are cynical are considering it too idealistic and impossible. Well, they say, you do not tell the dumb that war has started.

If you date many people and date some for keeps - that is to say, while not going steady with a person, you can go back to the person and continue the dating at any opportune time, you eschew premarital sex, you would find someone you can love who is ready and marry the person. It is not right to date one person steadily for more than one year. It is not right to propose marriage or be in courtship or engagement when marriage is more than one year away. In fact, when you talk courtship, it should be limited to about six months for finding out and less than six months for preparing for the type of marriage you want.

The situation where you wait for a guy or girl to go finish something and come back for you for years is like hanging yourself up in a dangling rope of uncertainty. Don't give any man or woman that kind of opportunity over your life. Twala the King, of Ancient Bechuana Land in South Africa taught his soldiers to 'marry the woman who is present'. That counsel is a great way to save you from pain, sorrow and anguish. The heart of man is cunning. It is not possible to discern it. So, learn this wisdom - when you date and court and your partner had important business he or she has to deal with before he would come back and marry you, both of you should suspend the relationship and maturely agree that if you meet on the other side, you can continue but you should both be free to pursue another life."

Interesting Quotes:

"If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself." ~ Barbara De Angelis

Living A Life With No Regrets – by Lee Wei Ling

2011-10-23T03:18:00.018+08:00

Ouchie...but how true...we can choose to ignore these feelings...but these feelings r still there...haiz =.="

Juz wanna share this meaningful article written by Dr. Lee Wei Ling which appeared in The Sunday Times...i also wanna die with no regrets...

"Living a life with no regrets – by Lee Wei Ling

About 20 years ago, when I was still of marriageable age, my fahter Lee Kuan Yew had a serious conversation with me one day. He told me that he and my mother would benefit if I remained single and took care of them in their old age. But I would be lonely if I remained unmarried.

I replied : “ Better lonely than be trapped in a loveless marriage.”

I have never regretted my decision.

Twenty years later, I am still single. I still live with my father in my family home. But my priorites in life have changed somewhat.

Instead of frequent trips over-seas by myself, to attend medical conferences or to go on hikes, I only travel with my father nowadays.

Like my mother did when she was alive, I accompany him so that I can keep an eye on him and also keep him company. After my mother became too ill to travel, he missed having a family member with whom he could speak frankly after a long tiring day of meetings.

At the age of 88, and recently widowed, he is less vigorous now than he was before May 2008 when my mother suffered a stroke. Since then I have watched him getting more frail as he watched my mother suffer. After my mother passed away, his health deteriorated further before recovering about three months ago.

He is aware that he can no longer function at the pace he could just four years ago. But he still insists on travelling to all corners of the Earth if he thinks his trips might benefit Singapore.

We are at present on a 16-day trip around the world. The first stop was Istanbul for the JPMorgan International Advisory Council meeting. We then spent two days in the countryside near Paris to relax. Then it was on to Washington DC, where, in additon to meetings at the White House, he received the Ford’s Theatre Lincoln Medal.

As I am writing this on Thursday, we are in New York City where he has a dinner and a dialogue session with the Capital Group tonight, and Government of Singapore Investment Corporation meetings tomorrow. After that, we will spend the weekend at former US secretary of state Henry Kissinger’s country home in Connecticut. Influential Americans will be driving or flying in to meet my father over dinner on Saturday and lunch on Sunday.

Even for a healthy and fit man of 88, the above would be a formidable programme. For a recently widowed man who is still adjusting to the loss of his wife, and whose level of energy has been lowered, it is even more challenging.

But my father believes that we must carry on with life despite whatever personal setbacks we might suffer. If he can do something that migh benefit Singapore, he will do so no matter what his age or the state of his health. For my part, I keep him company when he is not preoccupied with work, and I make sure he has enough rest.

Though I encourage him to exercise, I also dissuade him from over exerting himself. I remind him how he felt in May last year when, after returning from Tokyo, he delivered the eulogy at Dr Goh Keng Swee’s funeral the next day.

He had exercised too much in the two days preceding the funeral, against my advice. So naturally, he felt tired, and certainly looked tired on stage, as he delivered his tribute to an old and treasured comrade-in-arms. A few of my friends were worried by how he looked and messaged me to ask if my father was OK. Now when I advise him not to push too hard, he listens.

The irony is I did not take my own advice at one time and it was he who stopped me from over-exercising. Once, in 2001, while I was recovering from a fracture of my femur, he limited my swimming. He went as far as to ask a security officer to time how long I swam. If I exceeded the time my physician had precribed, even if it was just by a minute, he would give me a ticking off that evening.

Now the situation is reversed. But rather than finding it humorous, I feel sad about it.

Whether or not I am in the pink of health is of no consequence. I have no dependants, and Singapore will not suffer if am gone. Perhaps my patients may miss me, but my fellow doctors at the National Neuroscience Institiute can take over their care. But no one can fill my father’role for Singapore.

We have an extremely competent Cabinet headed by an exceptionally intelligent and able prime minister who also happens to be my brother. But the life experience that my father has accumulated enabled him to analyse and offer solution to Singapore’ problem that no one else can.

But I am getting maudlin. Both my father and I have had our fair share of luck, and fate has not been unfair to us. My fahter found a life long partner who was his best friend and wife. Together with a small group of like-minded comrades, he created a Singapore that by any standards would be considered a miracle., He has led a rich, meaningul and purposeufl life.

Growing old and dying occurs to all mortals, even those who once seemed like titanium. When all is said and done, my father – and I too, despite my bouts of ill health- have lived lives that we can look back on with no regrets. As he faces whatever remains of his life, my father’s attitiude can be summed up by these lines in Robbert Frost’s poem Stopping By Woods On A Snowy Evening :

The woods are lovely, dark and deep

But I have promises to keep

And miles to go before I sleep

And miles to go before I sleep."

Interesting Quotes:

"No matter what happens in life, be good to people. Being good to people is a wonderful legacy to leave behind." ~ Harv

"How do you get over a hot man? Get a hotter one :p "

"When you stray away from your soul, the distance you have travelled is measured by the aching of your heart." ~ Dodinsky

"Always be yourself. Never try to hide who you are. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what other people tell you. Never focus on the past, it's a waste of time. Every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you - grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect of others is when you show them that you respect yourself."

"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." ~ Oprah Winfrey

"Open your mind to possibility. Don't keep it closed by holding on to the past. Opportunities are everywhere."

"The quality of our lives direcltly depends on the the quality of relationships we have with ourselves"

"More powerful than the will to win is the courage to begin." ~ Harv

"The key is to get your mind to quiet down. Meditation helps, or even just really being present in the moment without labeling things as good or bad, right or wrong. Once the mind is quiet, wisdom can have its say." ~ Harv

"We might as well just accept it: the road to success comes with twists, turns, ups, downs, stops and reverses. Once we really understand and accept this, we’re less likely to be deluded into having unrealistic expectations that there’s a straight line to the top. So when we come across bumps, flat tires, and raised bridges along the way, we won’t be so quick to get upset or give up. Getting off track is normal and therefore “perfect.”" ~ Harv

"Let me put it bluntly: anyone who says that money isn’t important doesn’t have any! Rich people understand the importance of money and the place it has in our society. On the other hand, poor people validate their financial ineptitude by using irrelevant comparisons. They’ll argue, “Well, money isn’t important as love.” Now, is that comparison dumb or what? What’s more important, your arm or your leg? Maybe they’re both important." ~ Harv

"Greek haircut: you lose all your hair but have the satisfaction of everyone else in the shop paying for it"

Haiz...

lol ;p

Biotherm's Bloggers' Event

2011-10-20T04:08:00.023+08:00

Was shopping for skincare when a stranger asked me for advice n recommendation on what skincare to use...i was v.muchie flattered cos she chose to trust my opinion rather than that of the beauty advisor =) received queries from some blog readers abt the skincare tt i use...ya, some guys were asking for advice too...shall introduce one of the latest product offerings from Biotherm in this blog entry =)

Wanna thank Cozycot for their kind invitation to Biotherm's bloggers' event =) braved the heavy downpour to reach the cozycot office...was quite surprised tt i was recognized by the lady who sat next to me...Emily came in a little later after Biotherm's brand mgr, Grace, started her introduction of the latest Biotherm serum: Skin Ergetic

Skin Ergetic is targeted to combat fatigue...n this product is v.suitable for modern ladies who r rushing here, there n everywhere...juz like leechie, who keeps whining abt being tired @.@"

Broccoli is known to be an excellent anti-oxidant...n Skin Ergetic contains a sulforaphane-rich broccoli extract...n 99% of the ingredients in the serum are of natural origin...no parabens...no mineral oil...no artificial colors...n one need not fret abt smelling like a broccoli after using this serum...in fact, there's no broccoli smell at all...it has a fresh fruity fragrance =) it has a v.pocket friendly price tag of $99...this price is v.reasonable...trust me...i have tried so many exp serums in the mkt ;p

Btw, Grace mentioned tt they did an interesting experiment in which an apple was cut into 2 halves...Skin Ergetic was then applied to one half n nothing was applied to the other half...the half with nothing applied on it turned brown...n the other half with Skin Ergetic didnt!

Grace demonstrating how to mix the powder into the serum with the click of the cap

The lovely press kit presented to each blogger...it's the first time tt i've received a plant in a press kit...so cool...my leechie mum was amused with it =)

N each press kit was personalized with our names...see my leechie name on it? ;p really cool ya B-)

I was trying out the serum on the back of my hand...but as u could see from this pic...no dropper...n my leechie butter fingers accidentally poured abit too muchie...

But the pleasant surprise was...the serum was quickly absorbed into my skin =)

Pls pardon my nails...this has been a really hectic week for leechie...so i didnt have time to do my nails before the event x.X"

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Gotta thank Daniel for the tix to Loreal Private Sale which was held a couple of weeks ago...the best buy from this sale was the Lancome loose powder which was discontinued...i went on both days of the sale n bot a total of 7 lancome loose powders (bought all the 3 avail shades...2 pcs of #1 which has shimmers...4 pcs of #2 which is pinkish tone..1 pc of #3 which is biege tone) n i was considering if i shld buy the lancome whitening toner which was going for a really good price...but the ones meant for oily skin was sold out on the second day so i didnt get any...check out my loots ;p

Update:

Attended a short 2hour makeup class at a makeover studio near my place...it was a v.small class with only 4 participants...n the guy who sat next to me was there to learn how to put makeup on himself n was really hardworking n took plenty notes...he even attempted to put on eyeshadow on himself to create the smoky eyes look...well, leechie being leechie, i couldnt resist but to poke fun of him at every single opportunity...the other 2 gals didnt look too chummy though o.O" when i told my leechie mum tt i had a male classmate who was there to learn how to put makeup on himself...she was like..."guys these days v.vain" lol ;p but i wasnt too amused with how unhygienic the instructor was...she dropped my fako eyelashes onto the floor =.=" anyway, i'm usually horrified by the way these makeover studios do my eye makeup...they always add ages to my look! -.-" anyway, the 2 hours session dragged on n turned into 3 hours...n i told them tt i dont have 3hours to put on makeup everyday! i usually finish my makeup in 15min before i rush outta house ;p n they actually taught v.outdated ways of doing eye makeup...well, according to Kevin lao shi, that aint the right look to project! anyway, the instructor didnt seem too amused when i could answer most of her questions...n pointed out some facts to her...i didnt have any formal makeup training...but i guess i learn better from watching how Kevin lao shi go abt performing his magic...no offence to anyone, but this is what i believe in: if u wanna learn...learn from the best!

A Degree's Not The Only Way To Achieve Dream...

2011-10-20T00:38:00.023+08:00

Came across the following inspiring article which i wanna share with u...a path less taken...but how many ppl have the courage to take the road less travelled? esp in our damn practical society...where there r sooooo many ppl brandishing double or triple degrees from fanciful universities...where paper qualifications seem so impt...ppl can always say tt they dont judge u...but they have alrdy formed their impressions of u deep down at the bottom of their hearts! =.=" i've mentioned time n again tt ppl tend to only rem how i look...but not the degree tt i hold nor the profession tt i'm in...n there r some ppl who think tt they r a class above others cos they r working in a certain glamorous industry...n look down on entrepreneurs...ya, employees looking down on self-employed n employers =.=" oh btw, i juz happened to read in biz times abt how some investment banks r cutting headcounts...ooh...how glamorous o.O

Update:
Squeezing my leechie brain juices over some legal issues...not too sure what the legal department is doing...rather wondering what exactly is being done over the other end =.=" now gotta double up as some patent officer n understand all the mambo-jumbo legal terms ya? how cool...law school seems so interesting all of a sudden o.O oh what do i know? i'm supposed to b some shallow airhead ya...knock knock...anyone up there? ;p btw, i dont rem reading abt any cutting of headcounts from the legal side ya...perhaps those investment bankers can consider going back to law school ya? ;p

Here i am squeezing my leechie brain juices...so damn busy n yet i get som really bo liao ppl who r so damn free to bug n annoy me with some really bo liao antics...som ppl can b extremely childish n think tt the entire world revolve around them alone! time for them to grow up...n pls go get a life along the way! i have plenty of suggestions if u dont know what to do with ur free time! -.-" btw, talking abt legal rights, i reserve my legal rights to sue for defamation...so if u think u wanna bitch abt leechie online or make any false fabrications abt me...i advise u to consider twice or thrice...juz bcos i'm being kind doesnt mean tt i'm weak enough to be bullied...but sometimes too much nonsense is juz too much! juz a gentle reminder tt one ought to take legal responsibility for one's speech/postings online! =.="

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” ~ Albert Einstein
Perhaps he didnt realize tt he makes me feel like that fish? oops...i kinda momentarily forgot tt i'm supposed to be an airhead ;p gosh...where should i park my brains? perhaps in one of my Prada bags? hope it's not too big to retrieve my minute airhead brain from there later ;p btw, i'm amused tt someone seems to think tt he has the right to judge if a person is intelligent or not...i dont need to take the mensa test to prove anything...btw, it aint tt difficult to act as an airhead...anyway, not everyone can handle my intelligence ;p n i would gladly be a richie airhead instead of some nerdy intellectual snob ;p airheads have more fun anyway...u dont need to agree with me...but i'm fully aware of my level of influence n cooler-than-cool factor ;p

Amused with the latest scandal tt broke out abt a certain banker from shitibank ;p wonder how well is damage control doing? ;p

I juz hate how i'm being made to feel like shit & worthless by someone n he doesnt even realize tt he's the cause...n yet he attributed it to my inferiority complex!!! what a joke!!! :'( Your opinion of me doesnt define who I am but it defines who you are!!! -.-"

Go on...continue to judge me n persist with ur lowly perceptions of me...n continue to think tt i'm nothing but a shallow n superficial n materialistic party gal n lowly blogger airhead who is out of her mind with serious inferiority complex issues!!! Your opinion of me doesnt define who I am but it defines who you are!!! -.-"

Well, that's me! too bad if u cant accept me for who i'm! well, i dont exactly love everyone either ;p

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A degree's not the only way to achieve dream

By Rachel Chang

"AFTER national service, Mr Darran Nathan, now 31, had two options.

He could have followed in the footsteps of some polytechnic graduates and gone to university, or continued developing a computing technology he worked on in school and tinkered with through NS.

As the top student in his Ngee Ann Polytechnic cohort, he had a bond-free, full scholarship from Ngee Ann Kongsi to attend any university in the world.

'There was strong survival pressure at that time to go to university,' he said. 'But ultimately, I had to think about what I really wanted in life.'

With $80,000 in funding from Spring Singapore and his alma mater, Mr Nathan commercialised the technology into a software that makers of animation films now use in India, Australia and Hollywood.

His investors include the co-founders of Skype.

Minister of State for Education Lawrence Wong yesterday cited Mr Nathan as an example of 'students who recognise that a degree is not the only route to achieving one's dream'.

In fact, Mr Nathan is a veteran of unorthodox choices. He scored seven A1s in his O-level examinations, but chose to get an electronic and computer engineering diploma rather than go to junior college.

'I know there is a great desire among young people to get a university education,' said Mr Wong in his maiden speech in the House. 'But there are many good students who prefer a hands-on, practice-based environment.'

The Ministry of Education will raise its investment in the polytechnics and new Institute of Technical Education colleges to provide more opportunities for future Mr Nathans, he said.

Mr Wong said he had met many young people who give back to society through grassroots work, community service or social enterprise. They have 'encouraged' him.

He hopes more Singaporeans of all ages will step forward to serve, because 'service makes our lives richer'.

'I know it has made mine more fulfilling and meaningful. Through service, we not only discover more about ourselves, but also about the meaning of community and the meaning of citizenship.' "

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Interesting Quotes:

"Successful people have doubts and successful people worry. The only difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is that successful people act regardless of the fear.
Even those who don’t have integrity or brains but who act anyway are going to find more success than geniuses with integrity who keep it to themselves because they’re too afraid to put themselves out there." ~ Harv

Chen Show Mao’s speech (Debate on President’s Address)

2011-10-19T03:18:00.006+08:00

An excellent n well-thought out speech! =)

Chen Show Mao’s speech (Debate on President’s Address)

"Mr Speaker, Thank you, and congratulations.

Following our two elections this year, some commentators tell us that Singaporeans’ political differences are rising to the surface. Many of our leaders have expressed their concerns about the differences. They warned of divisions and called for unity. I’d like to remind us that differences are not divisions. It is the intolerance of differences that will be divisive.

I would like to quote a man who is not able to join us here today. In a newspaper interview, former Minister for Foreign Affairs George Yeo related what a Roman Catholic cardinal told him about the late Pope John Paul the Second. The cardinal had drafted, “Even though we’re all different because we speak different languages, we are one”. The Pope corrected him. “No, it is not even though we’re different, we are one. It is because we are different, we are one.” Mr Yeo then said, “I thought that was so profound and beautiful. In my first speech to the United Nations, I repeated that story because in the UN, it is also because we are different that we are one. To be a human being is to be different. The whole logic and driving force of biological life is diversification. An imposed unity is a false unity; it’s a contradiction in terms. To me, that is a core position, and Singapore is an expression of that core position.”

Singapore is an expression of that core position of diversity, and this must include political diversity in this day and age. Let me state quite clearly how I see myself as an opposition member of this parliament. I may challenge government policy in parliament, but I do not by definition oppose government policy. It does not mean that I do not support the government in its work. It is very simple. I am an opposition MP and will perform my role to voice alternative and opposing views in the law-making process, based on my party philosophy. But I submit to laws properly made because I believe they express the sovereign will of our people. You see, I do not believe that Parliament is just form, and no substance. I have been elected to serve in this Parliament and will do what I can to help make it work for Singapore, make it a First World Parliament after our own fashion. As an opposition MP, I am not the enemy of the government, I am a Singaporean and a patriot.

I believe that our community will come out of robust debates stronger. Not just in Parliament but in larger society as well. Social cohesion will be strengthened when we give people, including our young people, room to voice their views and grievances and participate in community affairs. This is being recognized in households and at work places around us and is affecting how they are run. There is no reason not to learn from it. But we must start from a position of difference, not a forced unity.

How do we move forward from a position of difference?
A wise Singaporean wrote to me recently on Facebook, “the key is always to set our ‘devilish’ pride aside and for both parties to communicate.” He did not mean political parties, but any two parties in a position of difference. He goes on, “The aim is not to impose one’s view over the other but to find as much common ground as possible for the good of the common objective both parties have… And yes, I have always practised this in the office and with the wife…so far so good.”

How do we expand the areas of common ground to accommodate political differences? I believe it will be best done through strengthening institutions that are non-partisan and capable of commanding the respect and allegiance of all Singaporeans in spite of their political differences. The office of the Presidency, for example. President Tan clearly intends this. In his swearing in ceremony he said, “I will strive to strengthen our common bonds and our core values that underpin our society. …Whatever your political views,… I will strive to the best of my abilities to represent you.”

The government in the addenda to the President’s address said, “The building of friendship, understanding and trust amidst increasing diversity will be supported through organisations such as the People’s Association and grassroots platforms such as the Inter-racial and Religious Confidence Circles.” We welcome this.

Let us Singaporeans take our cue from the President. Look for what Singaporeans’ different visions have in common and take our next steps in these areas of common ground. Let us ask ourselves “is there more we could do?” I believe that it would always be possible to find common ground among Singaporeans, even if it might now take greater efforts on the part of those of us here in this House. But it is possible – they call politics “the art of the possible”.

HUMAN CAPITAL

Mr Speaker

In the addenda to the President’s address, the government announced its plans to, “significantly enhance the transport infrastructure, quality and opportunities in education, healthcare and housing”. We endorse the goal. And we will hold the government to it.

We believe that Singaporeans in recent years have been underserved by enhancements in these areas. We believe that most of these enhancements are best thought of, not just as increased expenditure, but as investments in the human capital of our country, with long term benefits to our society, such as the productivity increase that the government calls our “fundamental economic challenge”. Adam Smith wrote many years ago about investments in a person, such as by the acquisition of new talents, he wrote, “such acquisition of talents always costs a real expense, which is a capital realized in his person. [but] Those talents, as they make a part of his fortune, so do they likewise that of the society to which he belongs.”

Many economists have long regarded expenditures on education and healthcare as investments in human capital. They produce income and other useful outputs for the individual over long periods of time. They also produce external benefits for the rest of society. When growing disparity in wealth suggest that more and more households may not be able to make the investments that may be needed to give their children a place at the same starting line as their cohorts, it is even more appropriate for the government to increase public investments in the human capital of our young people.

This is one of the goals the government set in the addenda to the President’s address: “Through our investment in Education, we ensure that every child, regardless of family circumstances and background, has access to opportunities.” That access to opportunities has to be meaningful and available to everyone.

Similarly, for many expenditures we make outside the areas of education and healthcare, If we just take an expanded view of the returns from these investments, we will be able to see their long-term benefits.

Take elder care for example. Our investments in this area do not just benefit our elders alone. They enhance the productivity of working family members who worry about their care. They sustain and unlock the rich social and cultural capital embodied in our elders, which enhance the efficacy of our economic capital. More importantly, taking good care of our elders who built the nation is the right thing to do in the “fair and just society” that the President wishes for Singapore. It strengthens our sense of community. It is consistent with the values that we wish to impart to our children. These are all intangible but significant returns on our investments.

This is part of our nationhood: these are the bonds that will hold us together in times of trouble.

Our social harmony needs to be sustained and cultivated, carefully ministered. We must invest in these efforts.

“People are the real wealth of a nation”, declared the United Nations’ inaugural Human Development Report over twenty years ago. “People are the real wealth of a nation,” this is especially true for our nation. Let us put our people at the center of our government policies.

Let us invest in Singaporeans. Invest in the future of Singapore.

Significant investments cannot be made all at once. In addition to fiscal discipline, we would need to watch out for inflation, for effects on our currency and competitiveness. But the investments must be made. So we should start now and engage in a long term sustainable investment pattern for the good of our people.

CONCLUSION
Mr Speaker, the Prime Minister concludes in his National Day rally speech that “ours is an improbable nation”. I cannot agree more with his call for all Singaporeans to treasure and fight for our improbable nation.

I would like to add that an improbable nation will be made more probable for future Singaporeans by the politics of possibility.

Mr Speaker, sir, I support the motion. And now in Chinese.

在今年的两次选举之后，我们许多领导人都提到团结的重要。全国人民现在必须上下一心，步伐一致地向前迈进。

他们有人认为新加坡有政治分裂，不利於团结与将来发展。但是各位想想，这分裂是怎么造成的？是因为社会出现了不同的声音，还是因为不能包容不同的声音才会造成分裂？

“政者正也，子帅以正，孰敢不正”，“为政以德，譬如北辰，居其所而众星拱之”，“风行草偃”，这些都是孔子说的来形容好的执政者，意思就是，一个好的领导者，只要有信心，有正确的方向，有好的道德与能力把政绩做出来，人民自然会乐意跟著他走。不需要害怕国家分裂，强调团结。

爱国的权利不是任何一个政党可以独占的。一个党再伟大也只是国家的一部分而已，不是国家全部啊！陈独秀说过，＂党外无党，帝王思想。＂在民主社会里，有不同的意见，不同的建议，是很自然的事情。这也是好事。

其实孔子三千年前就已说过，“君子和而不同”。和谐，可却不尽相同。晏婴说过：乐团只演奏一个音符，谁听得下去？白开水上再加白开水，谁喝得下去？一个和谐的社会，不只有一种声音。而是每个人很和平的在法律的範围内发表他的看法，从事政治活动。我们不必防民如防贼。

在中国历史上最伟大的贞观之治就不是一言堂式的全民团结，就是有喜欢諌言喜欢说真话不怕被唐太宗讨厌的魏徵，才有了贞观之治。

在这国会的任期里，希望明理的执政党可以做唐太宗，而我们来做魏徵，开出太平盛世，而不是一个执政者独断，而小人唯唯诺诺的世代。

我屡次与国外的人接触，大家似乎有一种感觉，觉得新加坡守成有馀但开创不足，似乎欠缺了那创新的能力。在这全球化的竞争下，我们国家不是应该培养出更多有主见、有创造力的新一代吗？

李前总理在演说中也说了他担忧我们年轻人，生活太过安逸。可见李前总理也想过这问题。真正完整的人格、独立的精神，是不可能在一个凡事听从独大的执政党，凡事唯唯诺诺的环境下生成。我们要我们下一代有创新、有独立自主精神，就不能不在政治上、精神上给他一个自由竞争的环境。这要求及这深深的忧虑不安其实是隐藏在许多新加坡人心中，在全球化激烈的竞争下，我们的竞争力难道只能靠执政党的完全控制来达成吗？

所以我们在野党是为了国家的好，才提出建言与批判，爱国不是执政党的专利，希望我们能在各自的岗位上演好自己的角色，这样我们的国家才能有活力、创造力的向前进步。

最後我要提醒执政党除了对自己有信心以外，对国人也要有信心。但我也要感谢执政党，把新加坡建设成一个成熟的法治社会，让我们在野党，可以在一个合法的基础上与执政党并存，竞争,为人民服务。

谢谢。"

Well said! this is what i called class!!!

10 Signs The Guy Isn't Right For You

2011-10-08T04:08:00.055+08:00

Joshua says "or wise enough to let go :)"

Jason sums it up best:
"If you can hold it up and put it down, it's called weight-lifting; if you can hold it up but can never put it down, it's called burden-bearing. Pitifully, most of the people are bearing heavy burdens when they are in love."

Was reading this interesting article from tt i wanna share with u...
(http://lifestyle.xin.msn.com/en/sex-relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5360442)

Recently, i have strangers asking me why am i unattached esp since i'm pretty...well, things r not as simple as it seems...Joey says maybe ppl find me unapproachable...Brian asks if i'm playing hard to get...n i juz realized tt most guys can rem how i look but they dont rem what i do! =.=" n according to some superficial palm analysis, i'm supposed to have alot of admirers but probs with relationships...but what's the point of having the attention of so many guys when i cant have the affection of the one tt my heart longs for? :'( i'm honestly quite tired of all the sweet nothings tt i hear -.-" but from the bottom of my leechie heart...the earlier u realize that the guy is not right for u...the better it is for u =)

I had to get the following translated...btw, my uncle once looked at my palms n said tt i have many lines coming out from the heart line juz like his (as per pic1)...i had no idea tt meant the numerous admirers...but my palms look confusing...there r a series of islands on the heart line too...n some fengshui master was trying to tell me tt this is bad for relationships! =.="

Haiz... :'(

Btw, emotional abuse is far worse than physical abuse...someone who constantly makes u feel tt u r not good enough for him...n makes u feel unworthy n less than nothing...someone who at best treats u as an alien from another planet or treats u like shit...n thinks tt his other ladies r far better than u...perhaps he aint aware tt there r many other guys out there who r far more successful n more wealthy n good-looking than him yet more humble...but of course he can still choose to live in constant denial n think tt he's god's gift to women...perhaps it's juz his A380 ego at work...tt makes him feel tt he's a class above others n is far superior than other mere mortals...n who thinks tt he's a golden bachelor n god's gift to women o.O" go draw ur own conclusions abt someone who doesnt mean what he says!!! there r always ppl who choose to focus on the worst in u n make u feel like shit! rem tt someone who cant accept u for the person tt u r can never n will never make u happy! then u start to develop self-doubt when nothing is wrong with u...how can that ever be healthy for ur well-being when u r constantly being looked down upon by him n being made to feel tt u r unworthy of his time n attention? -.-"

Btw, i also read another article on "time wasters" n "players" n that was when i realized tt someone who keeps claiming tt he wanna be married with kids in 5 yrs' time will still be looking for his perfect ideal princess who doesnt exist in reality even 10 years down the road! there r always ppl who r damn self-centred...n when he realized tt u r of no perceived value tt he can make use of or he cant make use of u in any way possible...he drops u like a hot coal! well, we r living in a damn practical society...but we have to be thankful of those who dont appreciate us...it makes us appreciate the other guys around us far better...n the ironic thing is some guys may think tt they r far superior than other guys due to their position or $$$ in the bank n think tt they r damn eligible n good-looking n god's gift to women...perhaps they have failed to notice the other guys out there who r far more successful n more wealthy n good-looking n yet more humble than them...but of course they can choose to live in denial n think tt they r a class above others n god's gift to women...oh well, what do i know...i'm supposed to b a shallow n superficial n materialistic party gal n lowly blogger airhead who is out of her mind n has serious inferiority complex issues...n i shld juz shut up! -.-" but facts r facts n perhaps someone doesnt realize tt his lies r insulting his own intelligence? ;p then again, some guys r juz trying too hard to look cool...btw, cool guys dont need to try sooooooo hard...but nerds who r insecure abt their looks do!

U may think tt most party guys r playboys who hop from one gal to the next...but even worse r those guys who claim tt they dont party but go chasing after every single skirt in sight n who keep asking u to intro gals to them! =.=" but frenz tell me tt a true gentleman will never ever swear at stuff so often...esp when "f..king" seems like his punctuation mark! =.="

Ppl can always lie to u n say tt they dont judge u...but they have alrdy formed their low perceptions of u deep down at the bottom of their hearts! =.="
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you!"

He doesnt realize this :'(

Ppl change...feelings change...$$$ is the most adorable thing in this damn practical world! How i wish i'm dead!!! :'(

I juz hate how i'm being made to feel like shit & worthless by someone n he doesnt even realize tt he's the cause...n yet he attributed it to my inferiority complex!!! what a joke!!! :'(

Go on...continue to judge me n persist with ur lowly perceptions of me...n continue to think tt i'm nothing but a shallow n superficial n materialistic party gal n lowly blogger airhead who is out of her mind with serious inferiority complex issues!!!

"男人对女人的伤害，不一定是他爱上了别人，而是他在她有所期待的时候让她失望，在她脆弱的时候没有扶她一把。" ~ Emily

Posted by Kylie...R such guys extinct???!!! -.-" or as what Abby suggested:"Not extinct. Either he used to be a female or he is gay. :)"???

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"10 signs the guy isn't right for you
Don't know if he's the one for you? Here are some tips to help you figure things out.

The saying 'love is blind' is often used to describe anything associated with love. Let's be honest, love does make you blind, but only towards what is happening in the relationship. And when this happens, you will start to make excuses for any bad behavior because you think you are in love with him, and as long as he is happy, you are too. Happiness as defined generally is a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, love, satisfaction, pleasure or joy. And when you lack any one of these feelings, you, my friend, may not be as happy as you think you are.

So here are 10 signs he's just not right for you.

He gets annoyed whenever you are emotional
This is a situation where he would either get really annoyed or pay no attention to you when you're being emotional, at a vulnerable state or just being plain sensitive towards him. It's even worse when you're actually telling him that he's hurting you in some way and he looks at you as if you are the world's most annoying thing he has ever seen or as if you're speaking in a language he can't understand.

He makes you feel as if everything is your fault and puts you down constantly
He blames you for anything and everything that goes wrong. He blames you if his clothes are not ironed, when the car ran out of fuel, because he's unemployed and the list goes on. Technically, he's blaming you for everything that went wrong even if it's something that is totally out of your circle of control. If that's not bad enough, he puts you down for just being who you are, when in fact he is supposed to love you for who you really are. He thinks that by putting you down he could change you from who you are to what he wants you to be, and if that is the case, then he really doesn't deserve you and is definitely not the one.

He hits you
Whether it's a slap on the face or a shove towards the wall, it is still physical abuse. Physical abuse does not have to leave visible bruises, as long as he hurts you physically in any way, it amounts to physical abuse.

He cheats on you
Remember the phrase 'once a cheater, always a cheater'? Well there's no true or false to that saying because everyone deserves a second chance but shouldn't that make you question his commitment to the relationship?

It's just sex
When all there is to the relationship is sexual intercourse, and the only intimacy that exists between you is in the bedroom. Sexual connection is not wrong, but if that is the only common ground he shares with you then what is there to the relationship?

He controls you
It's no harm if he knows where you are, what are you doing or who you're with, but if he restricts you just cause he wants to without a reason, then he is controlling you. A relationship should be based on trust, thus if he's controlling you, the relationship wouldn't work because he's stopping you from living your life.

Your friends don't like him and vice versa
Your friends would be people who know you well, which means that they might pick up signs which you may miss. Everyone has their own view of things, but not all of them will suit you, but the least you should do is think about it. While doing this it is very important to be honest with yourself.

He's a cry baby
Venting once in a while after a bad day is fine, but if he whines and complains about anything and everything all the time and is always being negative about things around him then it's bad for you. When you are constantly with a negative person, you would become as negative as he is and it will affect you personally.

He's selfish and inconsiderate
He doesn't care about your needs, and it's only about him all the time. For example, after a long day of work you see him and all he does is talk about his day without even considering to ask you how was yours, if you've eaten or what do you want to do. Communication in a relationship is often underrated when it is actually the most important thing.

There's no give and take
A relationship involves two people, it needs input of both the people involved - just as how you need two hands to clap. It's a give and take situation, if your guy is having problems then you should be his pillar of support and vice versa. But if only one person has to be the pillar of support throughout the relationship then that person will eventually be drained and exhausted and that pillar would just tumble down.

So those are the 10 signs that he's not right for you. There is no one out there who can really tell you whether or not someone is right for you; you're the one who really knows what's going on in your relationship. As long as you are happy then he may be the one for you, just remember: you would want someone who you can grow with and not someone who brings you down, someone who loves you for who you really are and not someone you'd have to rearrange your life for to suit his."

Soooooooo sadz :'(

"【天蝎座女生秘密】⒈吃软不吃硬。要知道天蝎座脾气很硬；⒉很自我；⒊重感情；⒋爱恨分明；⒌前一秒哭泣，下一秒仍然会微笑；⒍自尊心都很强，是因为她们忍受不了别人对她的忽视；⒎不会随便爱上一个男人，她不喜欢的人，哪怕那人为她去死，她也只会觉的那人很傻。"

"我是那種遇到感情就付出100分，所以開心是100分，但傷心也是100分的人。"

O.o...the sad thing is....there r many guys who r holding onto their gfs until someone better comes along =.="

But not everyone appreciates a leechie :'(

Trust is a fragile thing...

To quote Matthew: "Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together."

Ouchie :'(

How true...ouchie :'(

For those ppl who treat me like some less-than-nothing worthless shit!!! -.-"

This is only a fairytale which will never ever exist in reality! -.-"

Tribute To Steve Jobs :'(

2011-10-08T03:58:00.028+08:00

Many Apple fans around the world r mourning the death of a great man this week...i dont currently own any Apple products...but might consider picking up an iphone later this year...i'm still thinking if i shld get a blackberry or an iphone...still trying to decide between the 2 fruits o.O happened to see this interesting article tt i wanna share with u
(http://www.forbes.com/sites/ericjackson/2011/10/05/the-top-ten-lessons-steve-jobs-taught-us/) to all those ppl who have an extremely low opinion of a leechie...oops...i'm sorry, i forgot tt leechie is supposed to be a shallow airhead with serious inferiority complex issues n shldnt b reading Forbes at all x.X" go on...be my guest...n continue to judge n stereotype me as a shallow party girl n look down on me...i totally respect ur perceptions! but pls rem tt i dont need to live by ur approval nor ur opinions! i dont need to prove anything to u...i'm freaking tired of alot of stuff, esp hypocreeps...u may think tt u r a class above others...but i dont need to tell u what i think of ppl who dont mean what they say...Joey says these ppl r juz "economical with the truth"...u may think tt ur intelligence is way above others...but i dont need to take a mensa test to prove anything...cos ur lies r insulting ur own intelligence!!! sometimes how i wish i'm dead!

Fortes fortuna adiuvat: Fortune favours the bold

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"The Top Ten Lessons Steve Jobs Taught Us

Three weeks ago, I wrote a post about the top ten lessons Steve Jobs could teach us.

I had a feeling – like I suspect many others – that he only had a few more days with us on this Earth.

He’s irreplaceable. We’ll never see anyone else like him. Edison, Einstein, Henry Ford… he has left an indelible mark on our society in the last 35 years and for many more to come.

Yet, despite his greatness, he also taught us that he’s just a man. He got up every day, like you and me. He kissed his family goodbye and he threw his heart and soul into his work – his passion — just like we can.

Here are the Top Ten Lessons Steve Jobs taught us:

1. The most enduring innovations marry art and science – Steve has always pointed out that the biggest difference between Apple and all the other computer (and post-PC) companies through history is that Apple always tried to marry art and science. Jobs pointed out the original team working on the Mac had backgrounds in anthropology, art, history, and poetry. That’s always been important in making Apple’s products stand out. It’s the difference between the iPad and every other tablet computer that came before it or since. It is the look and feel of a product. It is its soul. But it is such a difficult thing for computer scientists or engineers to see that importance, so any company must have a leader that sees that importance.

2. To create the future, you can’t do it through focus groups – There is a school of thought in management theory that — if you’re in the consumer-facing space building products and services — you’ve got to listen to your customer. Steve Jobs was one of the first businessmen to say that was a waste of time. The customers today don’t always know what they want, especially if it’s something they’ve never seen, heard, or touched before. When it became clear that Apple would come out with a tablet, many were skeptical. When people heard the name (iPad), it was a joke in the Twitter-sphere for a day. But when people held one, and used it, it became a ‘must have.’ They didn’t know how they’d previously lived without one. It became the fastest growing Apple product in its history. Jobs (and the Apple team) trusted himself more than others. Picasso and great artists have done that for centuries. Jobs was the first in business.

3. Never fear failure – Jobs was fired by the successor he picked. It was one of the most public embarrassments of the last 30 years in business. Yet, he didn’t become a venture capitalist never to be heard from again. He didn’t start a production company and do a lot of lunches. He picked himself up and got back to work following his passion. Eight years ago, he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and told he only had a few weeks to live. As Samuel Johnson said, there’s nothing like your impending death to focus the mind. From Jobs’ 2005 Stanford commencement speech:

“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

4. You can’t connect the dots forward – only backward – This is another gem from the 2005 Stanford speech. The idea behind the concept is that, as much as we try to plan our lives ahead in advance, there’s always something that’s completely unpredictable about life. What seems like bitter anguish and defeat in the moment — getting dumped by a girlfriend, not getting that job at McKinsey, “wasting” 4 years of your life on a start-up that didn’t pan out as you wanted — can turn out to sow the seeds of your unimaginable success years from now. You can’t be too attached to how you think your life is supposed to work out and instead trust that all the dots will be connected in the future. This is all part of the plan.

“Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

5. Listen to that voice in the back of your head that tells you if you’re on the right track or not – Most of us don’t hear a voice inside our heads. We’ve simply decided that we’re going to work in finance or be a doctor because that’s what our parents told us we should do or because we wanted to make a lot of money. When we consciously or unconsciously make that decision, we snuff out that little voice in our head. From then on, most of us put it on automatic pilot. We mail it in. You have met these people. They’re nice people. But they’re not changing the world. Jobs has always been a restless soul. A man in a hurry. A man with a plan. His plan isn’t for everyone. It was his plan. He wanted to build computers. Some people have a voice that tells them to fight for democracy. Some have one that tells them to become an expert in miniature spoons. When Jobs first saw an example of a Graphical User Interface — a GUI — he knew this was the future of computing and that he had to create it. That became the Macintosh. Whatever your voice is telling you, you would be smart to listen to it. Even if it tells you to quit your job, or move to China, or leave your partner.

6. Expect a lot from yourself and others – We have heard stories of Steve Jobs yelling or dressing down staff. He’s a control freak, we’ve heard – a perfectionist. The bottom line is that he is in touch with his passion and that little voice in the back of his head. He gives a damn. He wants the best from himself and everyone who works for him. If they don’t give a damn, he doesn’t want them around. And yet — he keeps attracting amazing talent around him. Why? Because talent gives a damn too. There’s a saying: if you’re a “B” player, you’ll hire “C” players below you because you don’t want them to look smarter than you. If you’re an “A” player, you’ll hire “A+” players below you, because you want the best result.

7. Don’t care about being right. Care about succeeding – Jobs used this line in an interview after he was fired by Apple. If you have to steal others’ great ideas to make yours better, do it. You can’t be married to your vision of how a product is going to work out, such that you forget about current reality. When the Apple III came out, it was hot and warped its motherboard even though Jobs had insisted it would be quiet and sleek. If Jobs had stuck with Lisa, Apple would have never developed the Mac.

8. Find the most talented people to surround yourself with – There is a misconception that Apple is Steve Jobs. Everyone else in the company is a faceless minion working to please the all-seeing and all-knowing Jobs. In reality, Jobs has surrounded himself with talent: Phil Schiller, Jony Ive, Peter Oppenheimer, Tim Cook, the former head of stores Ron Johnson. These are all super-talented people who don’t get the credit they deserve. The fact that Apple’s stock price has been so strong since Jobs left as CEO is a credit to the strength of the team. Jobs has hired bad managerial talent before. John Sculley ended up firing Jobs and — according to Jobs — almost killing the company. Give credit to Jobs for learning from this mistake and realizing that he can’t do anything without great talent around him.

9. Stay hungry, stay foolish - Again from the end of Jobs’ memorable Stanford speech:

“When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960′s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

10. Anything is possible through hard work, determination, and a sense of vision – Although he’s the greatest CEO ever and the father of the modern computer, at the end of the day, Steve Jobs is just a guy. He’s a husband, a father, a friend — like you and me. We can be just as special as he is — if we learn his lessons and start applying them in our lives. When Jobs returned to Apple in the 1990s, it was was weeks away from bankruptcy. It’s now the biggest company in the world. Anything’s possible in life if you continue to follow the simple lessons laid out above.

May you change the world."

Steve Jobs talks about the Crazy Ones - who think different...

Stay Hungry Stay Foolish...

Wise words from Li Ka-Shing
李嘉诚送给年轻人的话：
年轻人不要试图追求安全感，特别是年轻的时候，
周遭环境从来都不会有绝对的安全感，如果你觉得安全了，
很有可能开始暗藏危机。真正的安全感，
来自你对自己的信心，是你每个阶段性目标的实现，
而真正的归属感，在于你的内心深处，
对自己命运的把控，因为你最大的对手永远都是自己。

This is damn good!
" Boss said to his worker, "Why do you break out in a rash every time I give you your wages?"
Worker replies, "Cuz I'm allergic to peanuts!" "

"A good reminder to all that no one is bigger than the market, simply 'predicting' where it will go is akin to willing the market to conform to expectation where it should be the other way round.

Point to ponder upon."

There will always be shallow ppl who think that they must carry a branded bag or wear a branded watch or drive an expensive car to show that they have "arrived"...but we are all reduced to ashes at the end of the day...we all share a common final destination in life -> death...

O.o

Ok fine, I'll admit it...i'm juz pretending tt i'm fine...tt all's ok...the honest truth is...i'm damn far from okay...u have no idea how upset i'm...i need to hide to cry in the middle of the nite so tt nobody will see my tears...i cry to sleep! :'( How i wish there are undo n redo buttons...i wanna reset my life! how i wish i'm dead!!! :'(

How i wish there are undo n redo buttons...i wanna reset my life! how i wish i'm dead!!! :'(

Signs You’re Not Ready For A Relationship...

2011-10-05T02:48:00.005+08:00

Saw this interesting article tt i wanna share with u...
(http://lifestyle.xin.msn.com/en/sex-relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5305197)

Rem to love yourself first before anyone can love u...♥

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Signs you’re not ready for a relationship

"Are you ready to settle down or still fearful of the responsibilities of a serious relationship?

Dumped by your ex and think you're ready for the next fling? You're probably not. Check out these sure-fire signs that say you're better off staying single for now...

You want to make your ex jealous
You know you've fully let go when you can think about your ex with neutrality. But do you 'invent' a boyfriend or pretend to have one in hopes of making him jealous? While it's healthy to vent your anger, if you think there's a need to make your ex jealous, to him you're just a needy person who's still dwelling on the past. We know breakups can be hard to do. But when you let that pain linger for too long, it'll do you no good. If you're still mired in your past relationship, chances are, you're not ready for a new one yet.

You still think about your ex every day
You still keep his mementoes with you and you feel disgruntled that he left you in the past. In efforts to make him regret for dumping you, you plot various actions or trash talk him on Facebook. But letting go means not making your ex the centre of your life. You're officially ready for a real relationship when you're totally over your old flame -- that's when you stop wasting your time engrossed in anything related to your ex.

You're not happy with yourself
Do you have self-acceptance issues? Obviously, you're not ready for a relationship until you're happy with yourself. If you can't accept for who you are, how would your future partner love you? Confidence is a huge attraction to the opposite sex. So, if you show lack of self-esteem, you're never going to move forward. Potential dates are going to avoid you.

You're looking for a rebound guy/girl
After splitting with your partner, you seek for instant gratification by rushing into the next attractive person as a replacement. As painful as a breakup is, a rebound fling is not going to cure your lovelorn heart. While having a stand-in for your bitterness can fill the void temporarily, it won't be long until you realise that it can never solve problems from your past relationships.

You're rushing into getting one
You're never single and you're always in a relationship because you feel insecure being alone. The quicker you jump back in the water to get a new partner, the greater the odds are that he won't be the genuine love of your life. And you'd rather be single than being with someone whom you're not compatible with. Instead of wasting time on these pointless flings, focus on developing yourself, which would be more attractive to your potential dates.

You don't have time for one
You are too busy to date and you can never find time to go out because of your career. Relationships don't have to interfere with your career all the time, but if you choose to spend great deal of time and effort trying to accomplish your career goals instead of pursuing on relationships, it's probably best for you to go solo until you're satisfied with your accomplishments or when you think a relationship will not get in the way.

You always have the same relationship issue in the past
Did you cheat on your ex previously or engage in verbal brawls over the same issue? If all of your previous breakups were due to the same problem, you should never start a new relationship until you've figured out what went wrong. It pays to give yourself some time reflecting on yourself so that the same mistake will never be repeated again."